i need some advice

[cj_lyrix]

i'm currently reading Badboy Lifestyle and i'm wondering if frames really do help and what frame would u recommend me to be in from day to day basis....

yesterday my ex... my one-itis... said i was too needy, how could i stop being that way? ok... like i'm still in love with her but she had about 3 to 4 other boyfriends after she broke up with me but at times, we act as if we are together and its killing me bc of the way i feel about her despite the fact that she did so many fucked up things to hurt me... anyways... another thing is puas talk about working in the girls emotional mind for her to react naturally to her emotions... i really dont get it, like... when i try to work with any females emotions, my logic automatically kicks in... so at times, i come off as needy, an asshole, try hard, demanding, my friend says i'm a gorrilla "pimp" meaning i'm too aggressive like gorrilla warfare... the problem with all of this is... i'm not good at learning and picking up on things, i'll see everything happening but i dont look deep into it and learn what i need to fix and i really dont know how to fix it, i dont even see what i'm doing wrong... i dont want to be a social robot and copy every little thing that works but i do want to be good with women...

ok now lets talk about... switching from phase to phase... i'm an idiot at this but i think i get it... either that or i'm just aggressively switching from phase to phase... the transition of phases is hard for me to get too... i dont know when to do it, how to start it off, how to end it or anything. i try what i read but for some reason, i'm always doing something wrong and its bugging me

my friends have girls but they only try to fuck them and alot of times, they dont get successful... it feels as if whenever i'm around my friends and them girls, i feel as if my friend is using me to attract these girls by AMOGing me... i want to amog them back but i know whatever i say, they will have something to say to it... i just dont want to react to the amoging and be a social enemy... i actually just want to attract these girls but considering my friends disbelief in the community, they might amog the techniques and make me look like a fool... its strange bc they get none but they are really good at DLVing me... how do i attract these girls while my friends is AMOGing me which would DLV me? and how do i re-attract or fix the shit i fucked up on with the girls i already knew bc alot of them, i fucked up on but i still would like to fuck them?

i know this is alot of questions and senseless talk but damn, i need some help

thanks
CJ

[cj_lyrix]

so no1 got anything?

[bigdprince]

to much brain... and not enough balls.

Stop caring as much. You're letting your ex create self esteem and value for herself because she KNOWS she has your wrapped around her finger. I DARE YOU TO TOSS ANOTHER PIECE OF ASS IN HER FACE ( don't tell her about, do it ) JUST TO SHOW YOU DON'T CARE.

Break off this crap that's holding you back my man.

Stop carrying about past and missed opportunities. Stop holding onto yesterday and letting it drown your tomorrow. Everything in your post points to this. Be brave enough to FUCK UP and scale new mountains. So what if you fall off.. you sound young enough, that if you adopt this attitude now.. you just might enjoy your life.

Forget the old girls.. get some new targets. Stop trying what you've been trying.. try something new.

[sterling]

....Dude,

If I were you I would never, ever, ever talk to this chick again. you are being used to boost her selfesteem at the price of your own. Nothing positive is going to come from you keeping a relationship with this chick. Im not saying to become a total asshole toward her but the next time she calls or texts or emails, just be to busy to respond. And dont act like your to busy, BE to busy. Its time to pick up a new hoby, frisby golf is fun, or working out, hell man at this point taking up needle point would be better for you than even being this chicks buddy. Its really time to move on. I know its easier said than done, but you really should force yourself to roll on to the next chapter in your life. Until you change what you have going on in your life, your going to have what you've always had, and it sounds like it sucks a little.

I dont mean to flame you, but somtimes it helps to have a stranger slap you in the face to "snap you out of it." This next friday you ought to go to the bi-weekly starbucs meeting and roll out with other pua's. Alot of these guys Fing rock and they can help you get where you want to be. I hope I've done more good than harm here. good luck

Peace, love, and tacos,
Sterling!

[cj_lyrix]

wow u all responded to the one-itis... all the other stuff is about other girls that i'm trying to improve on but i get what u all are saying about my ex and how the nature of the rest of the post is caused from my ex... maybe i should go to the starbucks thing this friday... i just need to know more puas bc right now... the only ones i know or has talked to me is on here... by the way... i'm 21 trying to find who i am

[dubya]

by the way... i'm 21 trying to find who i am

Cool... Most people never bother to look...

[Guest]

i'm currently reading Badboy Lifestyle and i'm wondering if frames really do help and what frame would u recommend me to be in from day to day basis....

yesterday my ex... my one-itis... said i was too needy, how could i stop being that way? ok... like i'm still in love with her but she had about 3 to 4 other boyfriends after she broke up with me but at times, we act as if we are together and its killing me bc of the way i feel about her despite the fact that she did so many fucked up things to hurt me... anyways... another thing is puas talk about working in the girls emotional mind for her to react naturally to her emotions... i really dont get it, like... when i try to work with any females emotions, my logic automatically kicks in... so at times, i come off as needy, an asshole, try hard, demanding, my friend says i'm a gorrilla "pimp" meaning i'm too aggressive like gorrilla warfare... the problem with all of this is... i'm not good at learning and picking up on things, i'll see everything happening but i dont look deep into it and learn what i need to fix and i really dont know how to fix it, i dont even see what i'm doing wrong... i dont want to be a social robot and copy every little thing that works but i do want to be good with women...

ok now lets talk about... switching from phase to phase... i'm an idiot at this but i think i get it... either that or i'm just aggressively switching from phase to phase... the transition of phases is hard for me to get too... i dont know when to do it, how to start it off, how to end it or anything. i try what i read but for some reason, i'm always doing something wrong and its bugging me

my friends have girls but they only try to fuck them and alot of times, they dont get successful... it feels as if whenever i'm around my friends and them girls, i feel as if my friend is using me to attract these girls by AMOGing me... i want to amog them back but i know whatever i say, they will have something to say to it... i just dont want to react to the amoging and be a social enemy... i actually just want to attract these girls but considering my friends disbelief in the community, they might amog the techniques and make me look like a fool... its strange bc they get none but they are really good at DLVing me... how do i attract these girls while my friends is AMOGing me which would DLV me? and how do i re-attract or fix the shit i fucked up on with the girls i already knew bc alot of them, i fucked up on but i still would like to fuck them?

i know this is alot of questions and senseless talk but damn, i need some help

thanks
CJ

PS... this was actually one of my post on a different forum... some1 told me i should post here so i'm here lol
I finished Badboy Lifestyle and is currently reading Mystery Method... this is going to be the third book but whats the point of reading when i dont put in practice... i might go to the starbucks thing this friday... c ya'll there and hope ya'll got some good pointers for a 21 yo newbie

[Guest]

I was in the same boat as you a few months ago after my wife left my world after 14yrs together(last 5 married). You need 2 act like you really don't care about her and are ready to go your own way.

Here's some things I tried on mine that got her eating out of my hand:

-go find a super needy girl to hang out with and you'll appreciate how unattrative neediness is!
-wait a day or two in returning her calls, emails, and text messages
-don't answer all her questions when you do communicate.
-put her on your "ignore" list
-when you see her provide little to no eye contact and don't say much to her.
-Go out and find yourself some new girls. You'll be amazed what this does.
-Turn her down when she wants to meet you. Say you have a date.
-Get wrapped up in your favorite hobby.
-Get lots of hot girls to make sexy/ fun comments on your myspace page.
-Start going out more than you normally do.
-If you do go out with your girl, don't pay for her.
-Start looking out for yourself, she certainly is.

When you stop giving her the attention she is accustomed to she'll start wondering why you are losing interest in her and she'll put more value on the attention you do provide. Demonstrate that she is going to have to work for your attention because you have higher value than she does. I've found that with ho's you have to be the one at the wheel, not them. It's the same reason marriages don't work these days. Take charge! You say whats going down and set the stage.

[Guest]

One more thing....... my mom told me this 14years ago when I started getting serious with the woman I just divorced. She said "why do you want to settle down with just one when there are so many out there?" 14 years later and 1 divorce, I finally got the message and now I've got 5 ho's in the pipeline at all times and it's been a blast. These girls work for me, not me working for them. They are aware of the fact that there might be other women in my life and work harder for my affection because of it. Your "ex" is running the same game on the multiple guys she's messing around with!

And I don't plan to stop until the perfect girl comes along. Sometimes it takes just getting out of your comfort zone and realizing ho's are just ho's. You either play or get played.....I'd rather play.

[Guest]

CJ

One thing you need to realize is she knows she can come back to you anytime she wants. You are letting her do this. So why shouldn't she. Being NEEDY is very unattractive. I have cut several FB's off because they were so annoying and these were just FB's.

Seeing that she has fucked you over so many times why do you want to be with her?

My advice would be walk away cold turkey. It is probably the best/only way you will get over her. Improve your life and mold yourself into the better you. It will take some time. Maybe a lot of time. You are a young guy so you have plenty of time to reshape yourself. Eventually she will see the new you and want you back. Then and only then will you be in control and have the power. At this point your life will be so much different you probably won't even want her back. If for some reason you do want her back at this point your stronger frame will set the stage.

Also pretty much everything Howie said I agree with. He threw down some awesome advice.