i think my mindset has been all wrong

[isosceles cheese]

I've been going into sets thinking I'm at war, and going in to manipulate or I'm going to be eaten...essentially trying to hard. I don't appear happy, and don't really have anything to talk about because I'm so wrapped up in strategy. I thought the more I approached, the more easy it would feel. I don't know if that's yet to happen, or if I've become almost confrontational. Fucking weird. Maybe I just haven't figured out which style works best for me. I know for certain that I haven't locked in something yet that works for me, but I'm uncertain which direction to go. I need to either work on strategy, create my own, or just relax.

any thoughts?

[playercool]

RELAX...

Your BL and attitude are so important. I can see cocky/funny/playful working for you. Give that a try in set this weekend and see how it works.

That is the beauty of this game. There are so many different avenues you can take. It is a marthon not a sprint. It will take time to get good so just go with the flow, read, and practice. Eventually you will pick and choose and figure out what works well for you.

[DateDemon]

instead of going in, in conquest mode. Go in and think I am here to have fun and just relax a bit.

[Lion]

Like PC and DD said, go in and relax and have fun. Have a positive mental attitude. Women aren't attracted to negativity.

[Bull Run]

Playercool - I concur
Lion - I concur
DateDemon - I concur

IC, just be loose and don't try to strategize. It's called The Game, but that doesn't mean you actually play it in your head. Instead go out and get a feel for interactions, that feel will guide you.