calling out?

[tpxgloveboy]

Hey guys. I ran into a problem that I've never encountered before. I'm still new to all of this and still learning loads every time I go out, but this one caught me by surprise. So I'm at this party last Saturday at an apartment. Not a lot of people there......about 20-25 or so. Right from the beginning, I start gaming. I end up making out with the host (HB8) of the party within 10 minutes of my arrival. As the party progresses, I make my rounds and get to know everybody. Then I meet HB7, who happens to be a best friend of HB8 Host. She is cool, so I get HB7's number. The party progresses more and then HB7 grabs my arm pulling me away from my set and says to me, "So are you like the player at the party? Because you got my number and I saw you making out with HB8 Host."

I was caught so offguard that I didn't know how to respond to that except with a surprised "NO" delivering it in such a way as to try to stay away from a player image that she has developed of me.

My question to you guys is what would you have done in this situation. At smaller gatherings such as this party where people have a better chance at knowing everybody, should I change my methods up and game differently? Also, I was thinking about it and I should not have let HB7 pull me out of my set by the arm. But then, what if she called me out in front of the set? Has this happened to any of you guys before? Thoughts and suggestions would be much appreciated here.

[Afterlife]

Personally, I don't know how could turn it around and qualify her. the only thing I can think is along the lines of:


1. "is that why you gave me your number, because if so I don't think thats cool" warning: its not field tested.

2. "Yes, and I am ready to settle down, Will you marry me" again, not field tested.

3. "Yep, hey, do you think I have chances with your friend over there? She kinda cute and she smiles like you." again, off the top of my head and not field tested.

[Alphagame]

I say just shrug your shoulders and play dumb. "What is that supposed to mean?" Whatever. I don't think it matters as long as you don't start qualifying yourself to her. Remain confident.

ALL of my girlfriends either call me "player" or "playboy", but guess what? They're all attracted to me and they're all fucking me and they all know they're not exclusive with me, or they'll soon be finding out.

If a girl calls me "player", it's on. She's attracted. She might as well just come out and say she wants to fuck me, because that's what it means.

What you are seeing is pre-selection. In my opinion, there's nothing more attractive to a woman than pre-selection. You could be hideous, but if you're pre-selected, women are attracted. It makes no logical sense, but it's huge.

[zine]

being called a player can be used to your advantage if you know what you doing.

yeah I guess I am, but usually girls don't jump on me so quickly.
(it may not make full sense to you why this would work, but believe me it does.)
or

hey you're the one who came from all the way over there to ask me this.. who's the one gettin picked up here?

or

if you have the balls grab her and make out with her too without even a word of response, that's probly wat I'd do.

[Dragon]

"Do you want to Kiss me? too"

What was her demeanor?
Was she smiling or confrontational?
Was she jealous that you kissed HB8 and not her?
Did you really hit it off with her really good when you asked her for her number?

Did she shock you and thus you focus on yourself too much, instead of her true intentions? (like she wants you, but couldn't believe HB8 got the kiss and Hb7 didn't)

I have been reading too much PUA info, I forgot where I read it from. But as I understand it... woman "speak" doesn't mean exactly what she say... and woman requiring lots of details

HAHA.... I wish I had women fighting over me.

[tpxgloveboy]

Definitely confrontational when she talked to me about being a player. I think she might have been jealous that I kissed HB8 and not her because we did hit it off extremely well when we were talking. She told me about how she was going to school to be a photographer. Up to this point, she had taken about 3 or 4 pics with her friends or my friends and I told her since she did such a great job at taking my picture that I should get her number so I can call her when I go out so she can take my picture at other venues. She laughed and started giving me kino. It was definitely a good interaction but I just wasn't really feeling her.

[Solace]

In that situation there was 2 things she could have don after seeing you make-out with the other girl.
1. Ignored you
2. confront you.

her confronting you displays her interest. You solidly Social proofed ur self by getting the kiss, now she wants to know whats so interesting and how congruent are you with yourself. Hold fast!

in my social circle and form of game, Social proof does most of the work for me. The girls in my life know that there are other girls in my life, thus it's my responsibility to let them know the real me and not facade about pretending to be someone im not.

For instance at my party friday night, not only was i gaming 1 of 3 dallas cowboy cheerleaders that came out, but i found myself in a predicament. One of the girls ive been talking to had her friend pull me away from another MLTR of mine, and attempt to k-close me. I really really really wanted to, but i pulled away and confirmed her beliefs that i am indeed polygamous. " Look, i really want to but i cant kiss you here. " I cant be your bf and im not lookin for that rihgt now.... Next night shes at my place and i get full lipservice

[Solace]

got cut off... had one of my mltr's come over... Anyway Whether its business or personal... People are bound to not only respect you more , but they will cater to you when you tell them how it is, thus you have no congruence issues with yourself later on... TD says" so what is it you like about players" when confronted. Bro, let them know that u r promiscuous as it is gonna take something serious to captivate ur attention. She will qualify herself.

No 1 method of gaming is Adequate for your personal style. indirect, Direct, MM, juggler. they are all field tested methods. Put ur own spin on things and live by your rules. Break away from the cookie cutter and build your own legacy. Props on ur energy level! would love to sarge with you sometime!