Vector wrote:You don't have to break rapport, but you do have to have balls and stand up for yourself and not supplicate. Supplicating and breaking rapport (or 'negging') are perhaps at opposite ends of the spectrum, but if you keep acting like an asshole, she will get tired of it and leave because you're acting like an asshole.
This is why you must also be sweet & romantic...it is important to give her intense emotional feelings. You can actually even suplicate on occasion...how could getting down on one knee and giving her a diamond ring NOT be considered suplication? And yet girls still stay with the guys that do that.
I agree with you that there are two ends of the spectrum you want to stay away from. Imagine on one side there is Nice guy/supplication zone, and on the other, ther is super-asshole/westfall zone. Being in either one of these zones is bad--you want to keep in in the middle, however, I disagree on how this should be done. (see below)
If you get into a situation where she controls you, where you are subordinate to her, then yes attraction will die very fast. But you don't have to break rapport to prevent that. All you need to do is man up.
For example, let's say she asks you to do something you don't want to do. You have lots of options, among which are:
A: Yes, anything for you baby
B: I like you, but no, I'm not going to do that
C: You're losing me
Correct me if I am wrong, but I think you would try to go with B in these situations. This certainly is neither nice guy or asshole, and is an acceptable response....but what I think is an even better is to give her a calibrated mix of A, B, and C answers. This gives her an emotional rollercoster so to speak that still keeps things outside of either danger zones. NOTE: You'll notice if you go to far into the danger zones.
and it keeps her guessing about the relationship and working to maintain it.
Westfall
