CJ on Sexualizing Your Game

[Finesse]

http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/05/sexualizing-your-game-how-tos.html

Sexualizing Your Game: How To's

Ok, early in my PU career a few things happened that required me to focus on SNL's. One was that my car blew up on my first f-close out of bootcamp.

The second was, even when I had access to a car, I could get girls numbers and even timebridge's but I could FEEL on the day2's that there was no sexual energy so they would drag out to day3's, day4's. Naturally, I said "Fuck that shit!"

And, put on my scientist hat to design in-field experiments to 1) Get same night sex because I didn't know when I'd have access to a car or 2) Make Day2's little more than coming to my place for sex

Then, I read "My Secret Garden" and "Way of the Superior Man" and both of them rocked my world. Those are must reads for every PUA.

So, how do you get sexual in the sarge? There's a direct way (which Sinn has been using for a few weeks now and I'm sure he'll post about it) and then there's an Indirect way which relies on outside framing ideas and presuppositions (from the Milton Model created by Bandler).

Here's my normal way of doing it:

Opener...
DHV Spike Stories...
BUT, my DHV spike stories contain references to a past girlfriend who was a dancer. The presups are that 1) she's hot 2) she can have any guy but she wants me and 3) she's a very sexual person

At this point, if we're still talking I do "sleepy eyes" ala ijjjjjji and make my movements slow and deliberate with LOTS of eye contact and shoulder and lower back kino.

At the first opportunity (mini-isolation or full) I run my version of Strawberry Fields. I'm not saying she's a sexual being. It's the test!

When I give her the results I often whisper them into her ear with my hand on her lowerback. Then, I push her away.

If this goes well I start bouncing between my comfort stack and more sexual presupps. Usually by this time you can start saying more direct sexual talk ("If your friends weren't here I'd spank you for being such a bad girl.")

I think of this as an interlacing spiral moving upwards to sex. Comfort, Sex. Comfort, Sex. Comfort, Sex. In lock-step.

I try to get "Rings on Fingers" in after one comfort routine. "Rings on Fingers" does 3 things:

1) It tells her she is sexually aggressive when she sees someone she's attracted to...
2) It tells her your are NOT judgmental
3) It says that BOTH of you are good at keeping secrets

The change in her demeanor is visible. If you've ever done it you'll know what I'm talking about. The best way I can describe it is "She softens and then glows."

Now, if I haven't gotten the Same Night Lay Logistics info by this time then I make sure to do it now. (look for "Same Night Lay" guidelines to find out those questions)

Next, I'll start laying down my Identity Stack which includes my Cosmo Routine I based off of Bandler's SRT. I've shared this in my eCoaching program. It MIGHT be on the Lounge as well.

Statements like "I'm trying so hard not to kiss you right now" work well at this point. Kiss tests like going cheek-to-cheek to tell her something can often lead to what appears to be a spontaneous kiss, too.

One way to know if you're out of lock-step in terms of sexual escalation and comfort is if she says things like, "Don't you want to know anything about me?" or "I hardly know you." - throttle back and run some more comfort.

~ Captain Jack ~

[TopDog]

this is one of my strong points in a club, i don't hesitate to do alot of playful spanks...when they walk away to the bathroom, spank 'em, if they say something playful, spin them around and spank em.

I'll also do stuff like pin their arms above their head against the wall, and tease them with kisses against neck, ears, etc..

pin them up face first against the wall, and hold their arms together behind their back with one hand, and with the other, expose their neck and kiss them alittle...obviously you can't do all this before you have attraction, but once you do, it's incredible way to spike BT playfully, but yet control it, and subcommunicate your 'style' for later. most of the time they go crazy , give me "OMG thats so hot" , their friends are DDB, and try for the makeout. lol


but it's got to fit with how your overall demeanor and appearance or you'll get blown out.