Seduction Tips

[Finesse]

A short list of things GoneSavage has posted on the Austin Lair about Seduction tips for your place. I found it intresting.

Some of this adds to Twitchy's AWESOME advice...

Twitchy's Advice:
http://twitchypua.blogspot.com/2007/06/bachelor-pad.html

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As most everyone here knows, I traveled North America for over three years just to see the landscape and landmarks, to determine where I might want to stay long term, and to seduce women. I’ve been in the homes of countless women from poor college chicks to quite wealthy professional types. And, thanks to our welcoming community, I’ve also been in the homes of tons of guys - from poor college dudes to very wealthy professionals.

I’ve seen it all.

From guys that really had their homes together with practically everything in place for a particular seductive purpose - to guys that had never even considered the role their homes and possessions play in connection and comfort building.

From guys that keep things so pristine and immaculate that a girl would be afraid to touch anything for fear of messing up his order – to guys that have mountains of junk, moldy dishes in the sink, and dirt and grime everywhere that she would be afraid to touch anything for fear of catching a disease. These are both cool guys, well aware of their game in field, that were definitely not getting touched by her either.

The worst was when a guy would tell me he could meet girls in bars and get them all the way back to his house – often a distance of many miles – only for her to suddenly decide she has to get home. It’s sad because the attraction game was won, and everything was a big green light, and abruptly something made her uncomfortable.

It’s an intimate thing when you come into a person’s home for the first time. You’re getting a glimpse into so many private things. You start making all these inferences about what this person is really like. We’re drawn to certain things to learn more – like photographs, books and music, and artwork – and we ask questions and make comments. Other, less obvious things – like furniture, pillows, and plants – help set the mood and determine the indispensable level of comfort we feel with this person.

So, I’ve wanted to create this document for a while to provide some insight on the good, the bad, and the truly devious. I think in 2008, we should all cultivate an awareness of our homes and bedrooms that allows girls to feel totally comfortable and completely at ease.

A lot of these tips are going to seem like common sense, yet you probably will have to remind yourself to employ them.



You Can’t Go Wrong With…

Pictures – Photographs are the best way to demonstrate your personality and ground your identity. Most guys have zero pictures displayed in their homes. Framed or unframed, just put out some pictures of your family, travels, hobbies, and you being social and fun.

Pillows – Nothing symbolically invites someone to be comfortable like a bunch of pillows. I’ve met too many guys that have one pillow on their bed and no pillows on their couch. I’d err for too many (if that’s even possible) than not enough.

Plants – Brighten the room and display – in the most basic sense – that you can take care of another living organism.

Pets – Show that you really can care for another living creature. If you hate cats and dogs – never mention this to a woman – but do get yourself something low maintenance like a fish.

Ephemera – This is memorabilia like ticket stubs, flyers, and postcards. These things show that you are social, cultured, and appreciative of experiences that you have created in your life. Chicks love this stuff as conversation pieces.

Souvenirs – Little things that commemorate trips and good times that can lead to all kinds of storytelling and value elicitation.

Candles – The quintessential mood maker: Tamed fire and soft light. Your house should have many. I like a real variety of colors, scents, sizes, and types of candleholders.

Condoms – Whether you keep them in plain sight on your nightstand or tucked into your mattress and couch cushions is up to you. I’ve just met too many guys that want to attract women into their lives that don’t even have condoms in their homes and cars and pockets.
Get some and keep them convenient.

Alcohol – The goal is not to get her drunk, but its better to have something to offer than not. Just get her to relax and open up. You don’t need to stock a bar, but at least have some fruity rum or vodka, and a beer of your choice.

Neutral / Can Go Either Way …

Most of the things in this category will assist your seduction if you can use them to captivate or intrigue and not just impress.

Artwork – As long as you are talking about the emotions that the piece elicits or the serendipitous way you found it - and not about how much you paid for it - art works in your favor every time.

Furniture – All I’ll say is that nowhere does function trump form than with furniture. Nice furniture is, well, nice – but when you go out of your way to get something ornate or fancy, it really inhibits your seduction because it does not invite use. If she is afraid to touch or get comfortable with your furniture, she will behave the same way with you. I’ve noticed that guys with deliberately fancy furniture have a real fear of intimacy.

Electronics – To the majority of chicks, all electronics are neutral. They do not care about the size of your TV or how many remote controls you have. A big TV is such an obvious status symbol – and yes, you should be proud – but when she ways “wow, nice TV” you should say “thank you” and move onto more interesting conversation. Don’t talk about the cost or clarity, or how many channels you get.

Media – The books, CDs, DVDs, and magazines you have say a lot about your taste. You can connect powerfully if you both share the same eclectic tastes. But understand that this is a typical avenue that people use to connect. You don’t want to be typical. I think it would be ideal to conceal most of your media in cabinets, let her get to know the real you, and then reveal your media collection when it comes up.

Video Games – I personally have no interest, but I’ve met guys that are really passionate about gaming. They can convey this passion to chicks, which is good because it allows them to have a teaching frame. But I’ve also noticed that the girls quickly lose interest. If you’re into gaming, cool, it’s just probably best to keep the system out of sight until she expresses an interest.

Musical Instruments – Pretty much always a good thing; as long as you are not just trying to display a higher value, but you can actually demonstrate a higher value. So learn one song at least.

Eccentric Collections – If you collect animal skulls, or PEZ dispensers, or gas masks (I’ve seen them all), certain chicks will think this is really cool. For the rest, make sure you take the time to passionately convey why you are drawn to these objects in a way in which she can relate to you with a passion of her own.

Try to Avoid / Hide…

Blank Walls – Nothing says ‘I could care less about my surroundings’ than blank walls. Put something up there – pictures, artwork, candleholders, shelves of nick-nacks, anything. Posters are pretty low value, but will work in a pinch. And remember, framing a poster suddenly makes it artwork.

Bare Floors – I know hardwood floors are a status symbol. But they are so cold and sterile. A nice rug draws attention to the hardwood floor the same way a nice long-sleeve shirt draws attention to a guy with biceps. Something imposing or intimidating needs to be paired with something inviting for balance.

Medication – Seriously, keep it out of sight. And understand that when she goes to your bathroom, she is going to look in your cabinet. Even basic vitamins and supplements suggest that you have a deficiency of some sort - in other words, you are somehow not a complete man by nature.

Self-Help Books – These suggest that you are broken or damaged in some way. Most chicks think that self-empowerment and living your personal best is really cool, but the tools that you are using in your journey should stay out of sight.

Pornography – I’m going to say that for most guys having one tasteful DVD or magazine clearly visible in your living room or bedroom will help you – it will give her an opportunity to initiate a conversation on sexuality that can go all kinds of places. But, seriously, if you have a porn collection (and anything more than two is a collection), you’ll do best to keep it hidden somewhere.

Creative Ideas / Splurges…

These are all specific ideas I have seen IN USE in the homes of top PUAs. They are mostly used to convey a specific aspect of their identity or elicit a specific psychological response. Like I said, I’ve been everywhere man… Mystery’s house, Cliff’s house, Project Hollywood, Project SF, Jlaix’s apartment…

Scrapbook – Put your photos and ephemera in a book and you’ve got instant documentation of a life worth living. This was one of my keys to getting women really comfortable with the fantasy of having sex in the back of a van not long after we’ve met.

Decoupage furniture – affix photos, ephemera, and all the phone numbers you get to a coffee table or end table. It’s a creative visual assault of social proof.

Coloring Books – Have some coloring books and crayons on your coffee table. It invites interaction and age regression.

Toys – Allows the two of you to be spontaneous and playful and it shows her that you’re not uptight about your possession. Some of the best are Nerf balls and hoops, squirt guns, and just about anything that flies.

Signature Wall – I’ve seen this a couple times. Invite girls to draw a picture or leave their mark on a particular wall. Massive social proof from all the other girls that have drawn or written on the wall. Also shows that you’re pretty easy-going about your living space.

Candy Bowl – A huge bowl of fun candy. Lots of really sticky, liquid, or powder type candy can invite her and her friends and you to get crazy. (I’m talking real sugar-candy here; this is not a euphemism.)

Jewelry Bowl – It’s a totally different effect than the candy. Have a bowl or box with earrings and bracelets and hairclips that chicks supposedly have left at your house. Shows pre-selection by other women and invites jealously threads.

Aquarium – This is inherently seductive and easy to maintain. You can have lots of fun here. The best ones I’ve seen involve letting her give feeder fish to predator fish. Primal.

Fountain – You tame fire with candles and you can tame water with a fountain. Small fountains are available for modest money and the sound of running water is inherently seductive.

Tampons – This is just a measure of practical consideration that only a guy that gets a lot of chicks would be sensitive to. But have tampons at your place. Don’t say that they are an ex-girlfriends, say you bought them because, well, you knew someone would eventually need them. I also have a hairbrush, extra toothbrush, and hair scrunchie things so women can take care of themselves in the morning.

There you go – a reflection of what works and what doesn’t. Hopefully something got you thinking. You can improve upon this document by adding to the list.

Lower her defenses and awaken her senses…

GoneSavage

[Kraven]

Area 51 Lifestyles recent video with Lovedrop, also found this helpful (along with Twitchys excellent original document)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SjdgM-vDmcQ

[El Fenix]

I like the cool ideas. I want to implement a few of them.

[Twitchy]

I hosted a meetup at my house a while back to walk through some of my tips with real examples.

If there is enough interest, I will do it again. Post a reply if you are interested in a meetup at my place.

[Finesse]

Ill always like a meet up at your place Twitchy.

[zine]

,but I need seduction and comfort first

[Twitchy]

How about I just give you a couple of shots?

[El Fenix]

hokay. I will this time. Dont tell anyone though, I dont usually do this.