CALIBRATION

[Thaddeus]

CALIBRATION

- What’s Her Background
Now this is a topic that pretty much every guy has run into issues with. Say the girl was normal before but some jack ass of a boyfriend in the past did something to her that has left her with some sort of stigma that she incorporates with all guys. She will see a trait in you even a general trait and instantly become disinterested in general. Why does this happen? Well look at peoples pre-assumed interactions throughout history. Minorities have been instantly related to crime for years. Why do we judge people based on the color of their skin or what part of town they are from? Its part of human nature that you make relations to what you know. Say her father hit her as a child that means one of two things will happen with her.

A- she will shy away from any strong male personalities and will resent any violence that she sees in you.

Or B- She will look for and seek out those same negative properties that her father possessed.

Say she had some players take advantage at her at a football game a few years back. Even the fact that you’re just wearing a fans jersey could make her shy away from you. Its little things that relate to feelings and emotions with women that can push you towards being a warm comforting individual to being fear for her. Basically what were going for here is the ability to open up a girl to understand what she is looking for and what she will be open to. Maybe flash game won’t work as well because she wants a deeper guy. Maybe she wants a little bit stronger purser style of guy since she’s into more dominance. One trick you’ll learn more and more as you have more experience with women is how to see ahead of time what she wants. You’ll be able to realize with very subtle cues how to push her buttons so to say. If you know she’s the artsy type I’m not saying you need to be MR. Picasso but occasionally feed into her interests. Say the color pink brings back a pleasant memory to her as it does in most girls. Then it might be an advantage to wear a little pink. We’re talking about re-sparking the dormant memories that every one carries with them. Smell is one of those memories that seem to have power over people. Say you smell the cologne of an old love, there’s instantly a rush of fond or maybe uncomfortable memories running across your mind. I’m going to refer to these as triggers. One of the main focuses of NLP is creating these triggers in her mind. So were using a different set of these triggers that are implanted far deeper into her psyche. Feelings that might have been with her for years, and can take over her emotions at the drop of a pin. Becoming the master of this, in control of her back ground. Her past, you will be able to open new doors and windows consistently that others might not be able to move though. We’re talking about a different plane of pick up here. A whole new level of understanding and bettering women than most topics will cover. So yes it involves more work but in the end can also produce more numerous and beneficial payoffs.

- - What’s Her Situation
Ok its think like a girl time again in pick up land, so we need to look at this one as if you’re a girl with the same hesitations and mindsets. This new guy has suddenly forced his way into your life. Be it just for a few seconds or it seems like possibly or, either way we have to weigh out some circumstances here. As a girl there’s this nasty little thing called a reputation that you want to uphold. Remember that if a girl puts out or even makes out with multiple guys she’s labeled a slut. Even you being into her life for that few seconds in the hall can be a challenge to her norm or social status. Only way to put it that basically everyone understands is flash back to high school. Remember the clicks and that girls could mix up readily but not down. I mean how often have you run across the head cheer leader dating the pimpled out guy in the chess club. Ok so yes some of you are going to argue with me there and say ‘but this one time’ I’m speaking on norms not possibilities.
Situational pick up is just part of logistics, her parents could be there. Maybe she’s in class or even just has a lot going on. You don’t know if she had a bad day the day before or maybe it even has something to do with the time of the month you just caught her in. There’s so many different variables going on inside every one of our minds that it’s almost impossible to know what you’re trying to step in to. I’ve had sets go completely differently than planned because of the loss of a pet. Say the girls cat died the week before and it’s just been building and building you just happened to be the one there when the dam broke. You can say just poke at her with a little tease about her outfit and she will snap on you. The water works start or she becomes mad because she is pushing all of these negative feelings onto you. My main advice here is to always be aware of her emotional status and how the chips are stacked for or against you.
- - What She Has to Loose
Yeah that’s what I said what does she have to lose by being around or with you? Every social interaction has a cost, were talking economics here so think back on what you probably already know. Be it just time lost cost or alternative adventures lost there is something else that could have taken up that time slot in her life. Granted you are the party right? Just wanted to re-affirm that in your mind from before, but yes there are other things in her life that she is giving up by being around or with you. In some of the more extreme cases she could be giving up another guy’s time for being around you. See for every new person she opens her self up to she creates a new risk of being either taken advantage of or being broken down emotionally. To her another guy in her life creates a whole new risk and has opportunity cost that if you’re not the one for her and she is with you she could be missing out on the guy that truly is for her.
Now for one of the biggies, depending on what you’re going for with her and how much she is willing to give you could be making a permanent mark in her life. Say she is a virgin and you would be her first, she needs to know that letting you take this will not be a mistake on her part. That she can trust the knowledge that the two of you were together can be just for the two of you to know. See there’s that image she wants to stay away from of her being a slut creeping up on us again. Set yourself above all those other guys that brag “oh man I got with her, and her , and her “ and you’ll start to see what happens is that you’ll be presented with more and more opportunities. What’s the justification for this? From what I’ve been able to tell so far it’s because women want things to happen just as much as men do but they don’t want the negative social presence associated with sex by most women. No girl wants to be viewed as the slut down the street, or the hoe of the school. Granted some girls might deserve this stigma but most will receive it for simply hooking up with the wrong guy once in life. Then every time they are around another guy the rumors start back again.

Best advice for you here is to remember what she might be giving up for you and never take advantage of the situation. Sure you might get her once then brag but if you get her once and she feels safe enough to do it again and again what you’ve created is a girl that’s into you enough that she can be a regular and I don’t even mean you have to be dating, just that you’ve set yourself up for more and more fun in the future. And let’s face it your better off hooking up with girls you want to be with more than once. Because you are out there pulling hotties right?

Thoughts?

[Thaddeus]

Hey guys read though this and give me some feedback. I know its simple but its a rough draft and is supposed to be basic.