HELP! I'm stuck in my house!

[rekrapshyguy]

Hey guys, my name's Geoff, I'm from Ft. Worth, I'm new to this forum, and this is my first post.

Anyway, I have a serious problem. I don't have a car, nor do I know directions well enough to get around even if I did have one. I'm 19 and I still live with my parents. However, next week I move in to a dorm with my friend at Weatherford Community College.

Anyway, the spot I'm in really sucks. I know that the only way to get better with women, and in social situations in general, is to go all over the place to meet new different people. (BTW, seeing that I'm 19, I can't get into any bars or clubs at my age, so night game is basically out of the question, unless you guys know anything else I could do for night game. So, I'm gonna have to be a day game guy.) I really want to be able to do this, yet I don't have a car to get me anywhere. Nor am I going to be able to get a car anytime soon (my family can't afford it).

What do I do? Tell my parents to drive me everywhere and wait in the parking lot while I do my thing? Because if they droped me off and left me there for a set time, I could screw up badly, get spooked, and be stranded there (Don't have a cell phone cuz it dropped in the toilet and we can't afford another one for a couple more weeks untill my Dad sells a job). And say that I did do well, and was hitting it up with a girl while my Mom or Dad came into the store to pick me up to take me home. Awkward much?

Also, seeing that my parents need to know everything about my life and why I need them to take me wherever (God bless my paranoid parents lol), how do I explain what I'm planning on doing? I know for a fact that unless I can explain it to them just right that they are going to dissaprove and tell me not to talk to strangers. Not to mention that the whole disscussion would be insainly awkward for me!

And as for the friend that I'm moving into a dorm with next week, well he is a great guy and all, but he's stubborn as hell and stuck in his ways. He's content with just staying at home and playing videogames. So getting him to drive me places and us 'sarging' together is pretty much out of the question.

Arrg, I hate this! I hate having to depend on others to drive me places!

But I'm not going to give up. There has to be a way to get around my predicament and still do what I must do to improve and grow. But how, I don't have a clue. That's where you guys come in...

What would you all recommend I do?

[Finesse]

Hey man.... first off, WELCOME!! Glad to have you here and glad you found us.

Please dont take this the wrong way I am entirely trying to help you out here. I don't know you any better than some Joe schmoe walking down the road, but just by reading what you wrote it seems as if youre on the right track by saying that you hate having to depend on others.

People who are fundamentally successful in life don't wait for others to "help" them out or do they wait solely for things to come to them, but instead they go out and achieve and conquer for themselves.

You dont have a cell phone because youre dad cant afford it? What about you? Take actions into your own hands and go get er done.

I would recommend you work backwards from your problem to find a legit solution to solve it.

Problem: You dont have a car

Reason you dont have a car: You cant afford it because you dont have a job, so you cant afford the payment if you finance, or you dont have a job so youre not saving any money to put towards it..... OR (my personal favorite) you havent found a good way to get someone else to invest in one for you...... just kidding about the last one. But seriously.

Im just guessing you dont have a job..... if thats the case. Go get one.

Or find a job that gives you a company car.

Find out if you can get a car from dallas can academy or something.

Trade your friend car privalages for laundry detail, or something barter if you dont want to get a job.

Just some thoughts..... Stop waiting for something to happen, get off your ass and make it happen.

[rekrapshyguy]

Thanks for the reply Finesse.

I did have a job at Central Market as a buggy boy, but I got fired (I like to say that I quit) because we had an unfourtanate communication mix up. I'd tell you what happened, but then again, I don't really think that it really has any relevance to my current situation. What's done is done, and the only thing I can do is learn from the mistakes I made in my side of the communication mix up.

I'm a shy introverted guy, but that dosen't neccasaraly mean that I will always be an introvert. I have some ideas of my own (Starbucks, a job at the mall), but where would you reccomend as a job that would force me into a outgoing role?

And about borrowing my friend's car in exchange for doing his laundry, that's a pretty darn good idea! I never thought about that one before...

Another thing that would could work is if I could find some wingmates living in the DFW area that could drop by my house, pick me up, and take me whereever we need to go. That way, I could help someone out by being their wing (believe me, I AM eager to do this stuff, altough I will probably be really afraid at first seeing as I've never really done this stuff very much), and someone could help me out by being my wing and providing me with transportating and support.

Is there anyone on this forum living nearby who is open to going out for daygame approaches someday this week? (Any day other than Friday because that's when I have to move all my stuff into my dorm).

PS- I live around in the South West area of Fort Worth kind of near Benbrook. Give me a holler and I'll be happy to tell you exactly where I live.

I look foward to hearing back from you all!

[zine]

holy shit I can feel your stress immanating from this post, calm down bro. First of all sarging is a cool thing to do. It takes balls to approach a girl you don't know and let her fall in love with you. Now that you let yourself begin to approach them you will feel a tremendous rush of positive emotions. Sure you will feel some fear, but fear is energy. Energy that you can invest in talking to them more passionately. I like that you aren't giving up, but with all that worry you have you basically have given up mentally. Don't let yourself you are better than that. Btw I'm 19, and I've been caught in my house before. Sure it's boring as fuck, but I couldn't let myself be in that state of boredom, so I tried new things. Hell just today I was sitting around bored, so I decided to freestyle rap. As for meeting women there has to be some near your house there's bound to be with half the population being them. If not call one of your friends up and go somewhere with more people and talk to new ones. Whatever situation you are currently in is controlled by you. That means don't worry about it just change it right now.

[Finesse]

holy shit I can feel your stress immanating from this post, calm down bro. First of all sarging is a cool thing to do. It takes balls to approach a girl you don't know and let her fall in love with you. Now that you let yourself begin to approach them you will feel a tremendous rush of positive emotions. Sure you will feel some fear, but fear is energy. Energy that you can invest in talking to them more passionately. I like that you aren't giving up, but with all that worry you have you basically have given up mentally. Don't let yourself you are better than that. Btw I'm 19, and I've been caught in my house before. Sure it's boring as fuck, but I couldn't let myself be in that state of boredom, so I tried new things. Hell just today I was sitting around bored, so I decided to freestyle rap. As for meeting women there has to be some near your house there's bound to be with half the population being them. If not call one of your friends up and go somewhere with more people and talk to new ones. Whatever situation you are currently in is controlled by you. That means don't worry about it just change it right now.

Thats right.

NP man thats what were here for.

BTW, night game isn't nessicarily limited for you. You just have to put in more work to find 18 and up places..... its not impossible, just harder..... and unfortunately for you, im 21 and dont really care like looking up 18+ venues. Sorries.

[rekrapshyguy]

holy shit I can feel your stress immanating from this post, calm down bro. First of all sarging is a cool thing to do. It takes balls to approach a girl you don't know and let her fall in love with you. Now that you let yourself begin to approach them you will feel a tremendous rush of positive emotions. Sure you will feel some fear, but fear is energy. Energy that you can invest in talking to them more passionately. I like that you aren't giving up, but with all that worry you have you basically have given up mentally. Don't let yourself you are better than that. Btw I'm 19, and I've been caught in my house before. Sure it's boring as fuck, but I couldn't let myself be in that state of boredom, so I tried new things. Hell just today I was sitting around bored, so I decided to freestyle rap. As for meeting women there has to be some near your house there's bound to be with half the population being them. If not call one of your friends up and go somewhere with more people and talk to new ones. Whatever situation you are currently in is controlled by you. That means don't worry about it just change it right now.

I completely agree. I refuse to just let things be the way that they are and I refuse to not take controll of my situation. That's why I'm trying to do something about it and seeing all the options available by asking for advice.

Regardless of if I can or cannot get around any women right this second, (I live in an area populated by old people and little kids), I'm getting out of the house. Just today, I took a long ass walk, not even paying attention to sticking to a particular rout. It was awsome, and I never knew that my neighborhood was so pretty. I saw a few people and said hi to them, but they were all guys. Maby when I go out tomorrow to do the same thing, I'll come across some ladies. But, I know that I should strike up a conversation with the person regardless of whether they are a guy or a gal. Cuz right now, it's hard to talk to either, so that difficulty right there tells me that that's an area that I'm lacking in and that I need to improve in.

As for the friend thing, I don't have very many friends because I was always too shy to make them in the past. I mean, it's not that I'm a total dweeb or anything, because I know that I'm defiently not nor have I ever been, but I just never stepped out of my quiet comfort zone to make friends. So, the only friend I have that lives anywhere near me is my friend that I was talking about earlier that is too stubborn to change his videogame playing introvert ways.

Guess I need some additional friends, huh? Good thing I joined this site then!