by Fuzz » Tue Dec 11, 2007 5:42 pm
I'm pretty sure that a major motivating factor for many of these emo kids is to get laid, and I'm sure it works on the kind of girls they are trying to attract. There is such a thing as being too masculine, you know.
Only a few years ago, I was at a dead-end hanging out with the boys. They were my drinking buddies, and so we spent many a Friday and Saturday night doing guy things. Mostly this did not include women, but when it did, their approach was essentially to drink lots of beer and brag. This never really worked, and because I was the least masculine of the bunch, they often used to amog me to DHV themselves, which never really worked out in their favor.
Basically, even before I knew about the community, I realized had to distance myself from this bunch as much as I possibly could if I ever wanted to get girls. Whatever they did, I essentially did the oppisite. Even before I knew about the community, I started improving the way i dressed, and they all thought I looked like a fag, but women were responding positively. Soon I realized that even if I wasn't getting laid (yet) I was hanging out with a higher caliber of women than they were. I remember one of them, a poorly dressed slob, making fun of my tight pants to impress some girls, and the girls ended up defending me.
The way I see it, you shouldn't be a doormat, and you shouldn't be so sensitive and needy that you can't walk away from a girl/relationship when need be. But being uber-macho like my friends were comes off as too try-hard.