I'm totally bored with one of my fbs

[zine]

Yeah I am totally bored with one of my fb's I hate to say it, but every conversation I have with her now seems the same. Everything we do seems the same. I really love having friends, and she is a very honest, positive, and giving girl, but there is no spice. No newness to talking to her. She always does the same moves when we have sex. She always reacts the same way when we have conversations. I don't want to just drop her out of my life because she has really been there for me on many occasions. Any of you have advice on this?

[tri]

Yeah I just had a similiar situation. It sucked because she was super nice, super giving, just a good person. I tried to talk to her about, and she took it VERY personally and was really hurt by it. So I dumped her. Then she went a little nutty

[Tracer]

Why don't you try initiating change. She may feel that if you like what she does why change it so, you may have to initiate the change. Who nows...she might be thinking the same thing.

Just my $.02

[El Fenix]

ya, I agree to try some things different before you give up on it. All relationships of any sort that last go through a phase where the newness wears off, and you can get bored. Change your patterns and discover new things about each other.
Edit:bring it up at a good time, and be gentle about it. It's a big difference from saying "I'm bored with you vs. I've been thinking and theres some things we should be doing differently."


Great Quote from the movie Family Man:
"Old flames are like old tax returns, keep them in the file cabinet for a few years then cut them loose."

[Mojo]

Where is the "merge her with another FB for a 3-some" option?

[Check_Mate]

I totally know what you're going through man. I was in a similar situation not long ago, except that she was my girlfriend. It was also before I found out about the community which means that I carried myself in a completely different way than I would today. I had no idea of how to handle it. I was just happy with having a girlfriend. Isn't that sad?? I was so out of options that I would hold on to whatever boring relationship I was having even though I was getting crazy bored.

With time I think I would have eventually broken things off with her but she moved away. I changed my life and the rest is history. Eventually she comes down to visit and we have a good time cause we don't see each other that often. Maybe you need to spend less time with her. The more time you have between meets the more you'll have to talk about.

My advice is to try to slowly get things to get better by introducing some changes but move on if it doesn't work.
Don't settle.

[JohnnyBravo]

I like Mojo's idea.

[Bull Run]

I like Mojo's idea.

I second it. The worst thing that happens is that she's repulsed by it and doesn't want to see you again, the best is you get that threesome.

[EL CHUPACABRA]

Tell her how you feel... and that you would like her to start talking to you in a different language I.E. "Si" "Si". Or take mojo's advice!

[Cheshire]

She might make a good pivot if mojo's idea falls through