by Guest » Tue Mar 01, 2011 2:16 pm
[QUOTE=Bull Run;40527]At one time it DID matter but that was when society emphasized the importance of family as a role model and it was accepted that family was intregal in a woman's decision making process regarding love and marriage.
How often have you heard that chivalry is dead? Well, it is. Feminism killed it, there's that 'ism' for you Grimm. Here's what I mean. The idea of chivalry is that you treat your lady better than all other ladies AND that you treat women, in general, with 'gentleness.' But, what was the purpose of said behavior? Most people believe that it was to show the woman that you were courting what a good man you are, but we all know that women do not make romantic decisions based on being put on a pedestal. They don't make romantic decisions based on how nice or well a man treats them. No, they make decisions based on how a man made them feel and women don't feel a whole lot when a man is nice to them (especially during a time when it was expected and common place to treat women very well).
Instead, the purpose of chivalry was to show respect to the woman as a way of proving to the woman's family that you are a viable long-term mate. The idea was that if you prove to the family that you are virtuous and will treat their daughter better than all other women then you would make an acceptable husband. The man was chivalrous towards the woman only because it was required by the family. Remember, the father, mother, and grand parents were the ones that made the decision about who a girl could and could not marry. This arrangement still exists in India. Chivalry is very much alive over there, along with the payment of a dowry from the woman's family to the man's family.
So, at one point, the mother did matter.
Today things are different. Women, generally, do not care what their family thinks of a man. As such, there is no reason for a man to be chivalrous, which led to the death of chivalry.
My point is that having a good mother is one thing, shit I had a great mother and I still ended up becoming a bit of a dog, but in a world where the mother, father, grand parents, etc have little to no say in a woman's, or man's, romantic decisions then their presence is pretty much moot.
The pressure from the family FORCED a woman to ignore her biological desires, which is to fuck as many alpha males as possible, and made her make a rational decision regarding a life partner based on the ability of the man courting her to provide, protect, and care for her and her offspring. Like I said, this type of structure was created to ensure that beta males had women to reproduce with AND to ensure that women did not end up raising her offspring alone. It was a win-win situtation. Sure, it seems like a controlling type of institution. But, when women make decisions based on their emotions, which almost always end up being wrong, then you can understand why it was a necessary institution.
Without the pressure of the family, women are just running around making decisions based off of who makes their pussy the most wet. Simple as that.[/QUOTE]
By my above statement I specifically meant "good mother" as in somebody you would want to trust with raising your own child. I read so much on these boards about the quest for the "perfect 10" blonde barbie, which is pretty immature and definitely short sighted IMO. I mean sure - MAYBE she is good for a quick hitter. Those girls worth a study on the psycological front re. game. And I suppose that sells methods/books to the lesser brained types but ultimately we grow up a bit and move on from this thinking.
Some (classy) women choose on more than the BS douchy criteria seen in many bar scenarios. If the girl is hitting you up for coke does that scream "perfect 10" to you? Who cares how she looks and what she is willing to do. Hookers will do the same thing. Surely there is scope for "turning the tables" here and expecting no less than normal, cool behaviour from a partner at all times and irrespective of her looks. Otherwise it's sayonara beyotch! A real man can stamp his authority over any trash whore with looks by dismissing her on other criteria (which she deep down knows she should be dismissed on. Why else is she turned off by supplication to her looks?).
Anyway good to hear from you BR hope you are well. Sometimes I wonder that over exposure to the bad tends to cloud the fact some worthy ones do exist, if you look hard enough..