online dating: A pain to deal with.

[Guest]

ok, so theres this one girl on POF. a redhead who does not have any information besides this:

1.whips
2. leather
3. chains
4. left for dead 2 (videogame)

she also is a grammar nazi, which is not good for me.

i basically don't know how to open her. most of the time i compliment them on their profile and then qualify them.

[Guest]

I use a canned opener. I send the same one to every single girl. I messed around with openers until I found one that not only opened well but got a conversation flowing nicely. Girls need about 3-4 messages back and forth to feel comfortable with you.

Most guys use the content of her page to open her. I suppose this is fine however keep in mind any decent looking girl is probably getting about 30 messages a day. Guess What...most of them are very similar to each other. So I would say try to stand out.

I once sent a girl a message and she responded with a bunch of stuff and in her first message she left her name and number and said screw talking on here just text me. I later quizzed her why she did this and her response was: Not only did your message stand out, so did your profile. Meaning I didn't send the same boring jibber jabber all the other guys send out.

The first line of my opener is a Neg. I don't necessarily recommend doing this, as I know for certain some girls took offense to it. The ones who did I know would have been a pain to deal with. Many girls commented on the neg wanting to know why I felt that way. It peaked their interest. A lot of the girls actually agreed with me. More than likely though I think the neg could have been dropped and results probably would have been slightly better for me.

Is there some reason you can't type everything up in a word document? It will correct many things for you. From what I can tell about online girls they really want a guy who has good grammar. Make damn certain your profile isn't full of mistakes. If it is you can rest assured many girls will next you right away.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=playercool;40594]I use a canned opener. I send the same one to every single girl. I messed around with openers until I found one that not only opened well but got a conversation flowing nicely. Girls need about 3-4 messages back and forth to feel comfortable with you.

Most guys use the content of her page to open her. I suppose this is fine however keep in mind any decent looking girl is probably getting about 30 messages a day. Guess What...most of them are very similar to each other. So I would say try to stand out.

I once sent a girl a message and she responded with a bunch of stuff and in her first message she left her name and number and said screw talking on here just text me. I later quizzed her why she did this and her response was: Not only did your message stand out, so did your profile. Meaning I didn't send the same boring jibber jabber all the other guys send out.

The first line of my opener is a Neg. I don't necessarily recommend doing this, as I know for certain some girls took offense to it. The ones who did I know would have been a pain to deal with. Many girls commented on the neg wanting to know why I felt that way. It peaked their interest. A lot of the girls actually agreed with me. More than likely though I think the neg could have been dropped and results probably would have been slightly better for me.

Is there some reason you can't type everything up in a word document? It will correct many things for you. From what I can tell about online girls they really want a guy who has good grammar. Make damn certain your profile isn't full of mistakes. If it is you can rest assured many girls will next you right away.[/QUOTE]

Say it ain't so! They screen for good grammar and spelling aka a modicum of intelligence? Go figure.

Reminds me of the proverb. Until [B]lions[/B] start [B]writing[/B] down their own stories, the [B]hunters[/B] will always be the heroes.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=playercool;40594]I use a canned opener. I send the same one to every single girl. I messed around with openers until I found one that not only opened well but got a conversation flowing nicely. Girls need about 3-4 messages back and forth to feel comfortable with you.

Most guys use the content of her page to open her. I suppose this is fine however keep in mind any decent looking girl is probably getting about 30 messages a day. Guess What...most of them are very similar to each other. So I would say try to stand out.

I once sent a girl a message and she responded with a bunch of stuff and in her first message she left her name and number and said screw talking on here just text me. I later quizzed her why she did this and her response was: Not only did your message stand out, so did your profile. Meaning I didn't send the same boring jibber jabber all the other guys send out.

The first line of my opener is a Neg. I don't necessarily recommend doing this, as I know for certain some girls took offense to it. The ones who did I know would have been a pain to deal with. Many girls commented on the neg wanting to know why I felt that way. It peaked their interest. A lot of the girls actually agreed with me. More than likely though I think the neg could have been dropped and results probably would have been slightly better for me.

Is there some reason you can't type everything up in a word document? It will correct many things for you. From what I can tell about online girls they really want a guy who has good grammar. Make damn certain your profile isn't full of mistakes. If it is you can rest assured many girls will next you right away.[/QUOTE]

thanks, any advice on profile set up. I put for my date section that im not for average dates and i get opened sometimes by girls.

[Guest]

oh, also would it be good to put on your profile that your open to anything because it qualifies you for multiple different relationships.