by Guest » Sun Feb 22, 2009 5:13 pm
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Im the kinda guy who will just stand around watchin his social value drop as time passes unless some1 really pushes me to open a set.
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I no longer believe that standing around not opening sets lowers your value. Last night, I went out, and didn't open a single set. Later, I talked to some girls I already knew, but for like 3 hours I just walked around the club. I caught a fashion show and watched a band, but most of my time I was just walking around looking for some intersting girls. I found none so I opened none, and I didn't build much social proof, as I didn't talk to anyone.
I think what lowers your value is walking around, wanting to talk to girls but not doing it--this is revealed in your body language and subcommunicates lack of confidence. You can stand around all night and not open a single girl, then when one does something that interests you, you an open her without worrying that you've lowered your value by just standing around.
After I spent about 2 hours walking around not talking to anyone, 3 girls walked by, one of which checked me out and made some comment about how hott I was (note: I'm not even hot!)...but I am attractive because I'm unique, confident, and interesting, and that doesn't change if I don't open a girl right away. I didn't even bother talking to her. Looking back on it, I wish I would have, building social proof is always good, and I could have thrown her at the girl I met up with later, to help me build more attraction.
WF