PUA life Vs Outsiders

[skin]

most basically, i would like to pose the question:

How personal is your PUA life to you, and how do you keep it that way?

i ask, because -
a) i am just becoming more active in the community and havent the experience i feel i need to properly gauge how private i am about my PUA interactions.

b) i was speaking to another registered user at the last sarge mission. and he opened up to me about how one of the chicks he had gamed had basically found out about all of his PUA stuff. she had actually created a name to get on the forum and monitor him and others, and then told all to everone that would listen. it ended up, from what he said, doing quite a bit of harm to his social and school life.

i feel it is inevitable to be active in a community without those people you get close to finding out something about what youre up to. especially with how huge the pua phenomenon is right now (call it a social revolution if you will, it certainly is in many ways).

are their any tricks you guys use maybe to refer to pua lifestyle (besides just nomanclature/ abbreviations and whatever) around afcs and females in your life?

any information or experiences yall have that might help me with this dillema is always appreciated!

[antivisual]

To be honest, I just started reading books etc etc, but I am using it more to build my confidence up in doing cold approaches with women.

My goal is to just be better with women using my natural personality and if I end up with a LTR that is fine with me. I'm really not going out to pick up as many as possible (not that if that happens will it be a prob) .

So, to answer your question, I don't feel I have anything to hide if someone finds out i've been reading books etc on techniques. I would tell them the same thing.

[Rhody]

There's this girl I'm seeing. Our relationship is pretty funny. I told her I don't want to be exclusive, so she dates other guys, and then she tells me what losers they are... and then fucks me.

Anyway, I read The Red Queen and The Difinitive Book of Body Language, and I talk about what I read in those books all the time. I'll say something like, "check out that couple. He is really into her, but she is so bored." She'll agree, because women naturally know how to read body language, but she gets the point that I know what I'm talking about.

At one point, she started a second career on the side and she will have to start to socialize with attorneys. She asked me to help her interact with people better. That's in addition to asking me advice on guys (WTF?). Just by listening to me and watching me with people, she got the impression that I know all about social dynamics.

I've never mentioned the community or used her as a pivot. I don't think she would appreciate me picking up chicks in front of her. But she knows that I like to study the way people intereact.

[Bull Run]

There's this girl I'm seeing. Our relationship is pretty funny. I told her I don't want to be exclusive, so she dates other guys, and then she tells me what losers they are... and then fucks me.

I have a similar relationship. It's great because I've learned more about what not to do with her than I could have on my own. Basically, don't be a little pussy.

but she gets the point that I know what I'm talking about.

she got the impression that I know all about social dynamics.

I'm constantly talking about the interactions I see in public with anyone that will listen. I've found that women find it incredibly interesting that I can have the insights that I do. It also implicitly tells them that the odds are that she's not the only one.

Most of the women I've been with intuitively know that I ran 'game' on them, they don't need it thrown in their face. So, I don't mention the community. If they knew that I trained to do this stuff, I think it would just make the women feel like stupid, whores. That's not fair, so I keep my mouth shut and keep all of my PUA materials hidden from sight.

[Atlas]

The second post to this thread said to read books. This site is great, but there are some powerful books out there that can give you confidence and the balls to approach women. Try the The Power of NOW. Great book.

[Smirks]

But the original post is about how to excel in the game, and not let it ruin what social status you already have.

I can see how this can be a problem, and I've taken some precautions myself to prevent this from happening.

The only person who knows I actively read and own material on the subject is my wing man. Outside of conversations with him, the words PUA or any other terminology related are not uttered.

The only computer I use to check this website, and the others...as well as to read the eBooks are my laptop. No one uses my laptop besides me (thats what I have a guest computer in the apt) so I don't have to worry about deleting browsing history and crap.

I don't leave my books laying out. I have a small book case I got from Ikea (shit there is so f'ing cheap...it cost like 5 bucks) behind my coats where my books of said importance are.

Sure, it might seem a bit unnecessary to some, but bitches are nosey. : )

[waijai]

I personally don't feel the need to hide what I've learned or how I socialize. But I'm not going to include it in everyday conversation with anybody. I'm not going to say "Oooh, i learned this new pick up technique where you do this, this, this" But if in a conversation the topic of male/female interaction comes up, I will give my two cents about it.

If you feel like you have something to hide and feel somewhat ashamed about learning PU technique, then it can become negative. Why do you have to hide it? Do you feel as though it is manipulative? Trust me...women talk about how they can control men by saying something or acting a certain way...it's true. I've talked to many females about it, and it's because most men are predictable.

[skin]

if i was ashamed or embarrased i wouldnt be here...

its simply that most of this relies on females believing you are being genuine. if everyone hears about your PUA in a negative way, then all thechicks around will know whats up before you even open them and look at you differently. this totally destroys your game.

also, most outsiders that dont understand PUA or are jealous that they feel left out will automatically hate on it and make you out to be an asshole/conartist/slut whathaveyou...

and like smirks said, bitches are NOSEY NOSEY NOSEYYYY

i will from time to time comment in an offhanded way about social dynamics or whatever when the subjest is arisen naturally in conversation, but thats usually about as far as i go with it.

there is this one chick ive been bangin for a couple weeks that is really cool that i have actually talked to about picking up girls in more depth, but i would never mention PUA to her.