Hey guys,
This is new for me. I spent almost 2 years doing MM/RSD or some variant of Indirect. I've sarged with some of the biggest names out there but it never really clicked for me.
I studied and studied Mystery Method and I worked constantly on it.
A month after I started, I met O.C. Waterboy who was at a bootcamp I took with Asian Playboy which was back in November of 2005.
O.C. was kind enough to show me how to approach directly with a Shark opener and straight-on, hands on shoulders body language.
At the time, I thought "Hmm..this is cool but I wanna learn the Neil Strauss and Mystery stuff." So I put Direct on the back burner.
Thus I come full circle. Back to Direct Method and my adventure tonight. So tonight I let her rip. A bar in Dallas on a Wed night was ground zero for my Direct Method.
Here's a breakdown.
1. I tell the girl at the door how she looks beautiful and how I like her shirt. She's a little rotund. This is ok because I'm getting warmed up to do more of this.
She warms up to me but there are others in line so I keep moving.
2. I open a bartended with "You look beautiful and I'd like to get to know you." ala Ranko. She lights up and loves it. But she's preoccupied. I do like this girl. Her personality is bubbly and she bounces around and is very cute. I wonder if she'd like to bounce on me!!
She has a boyfriend. This does not bother me.
I am here to calibrate and see the responses. I want to see how far I can take it.
Later I talk to her about singing. I ask "Can you sing?" which is a kind of qualification and then I ask what her kareoke song is.
She says she will be singing on saturday for kareoke there at the same bar. This sounds like an invitation to get to know her better if I've ever heard one.
3. I open a girl I knew previously from a few weeks ago using "Who sings this?" (Low Investment Opener) ala MM.
She is older(50) but she looks good. I tell her how she is beautiful. And I tell her friend who is wearing a cowboy hat the same.
The both smile but the girl I opened earlier doesn't take the compliment well.
I wonder if this is a sympton of someone having low self-esteem. Truely all girls are beautiful. Well most of them are in some way.
4. I open a two set with an indirect style opener but then flip quickly into Direct.
This is interesting.
I say "Would you pay $200 for a pair of jeans?" (Indirect) then I go into a direct compliment "you look beautiful tonight."
This is working well. I don't usually get this far with MM for some reason.
5. The girl from the previous set tells me to open her friends so I do and I use a little jealousy "Are you talking girl talk about her?"
And then I go into a compliment. And this time I actually do some speed seduction pattern language.
"I'm sure you can't SEE US TOGETHER...... COMING........ CLOSER AND FEELING.....SO GOOD."
This really lights up her world.
But she's a little bit chubby and has low self esteem. She tells me that her friend is hot, that she's fat and how later I would say "that' not how you looked at the bar" all in a few sentences.
What's going on? Are all these girls low self esteem tonight???
6. A waitress comes by and asks me and my friend if we are ok? So I say yes and I say "You look pretty tonight." Which makes her totally light up.
This girl is an 8 or 8.5 easy. She is tall, blonde and stunningly hot.
And all that with one quick compliment.
So much for Mystery!
My S.S. friend is really impressed. I tell him the key to this is not being a hot and horny bastard but to be truely romantic and complimentary and caring about her as a man should.
I hope I have this right.
Later I see her and I give her a kiss on the cheek. She has wonderful skin and I'd like to feel it and caress it so I tell her.
She says she has a boyfriend but I ask for the #. I can't believe I don't get it.
Ok so lesson learned. I went a little too much on the gas on this one and maybe I should have gone for more qualification?
7. I see a brunette girl standing alone. I know these cute girls are never alone but I go for it.
Approach straight on...
"You look beautiful... and.... I'd ...like ..to... get... to... know you"
She says thanks. I quickly follow that up with "are you single?" which seems to be a good question to ask.
I show interest, I need to know what the relationship status is.
She says her boyfriend is paying and she's waiting for him. I say "Oh ok. My timing could not be better...nice meeting you." Eject.
It was a good night.
If you are like me and show interest in some way, all the time, because you actually love girls you show interest, then showing interest works because its congruent with how you are on the inside.
Does that make sense to anyone?
I am simply being romantic on the outside because I am romantic on the inside.
This was my first attempt at Direct. It has a huge advantage over MM because it skips over alot of bullshit. From here out, I plan to more approaches so I can get the calibration down some more and also start to work on better body language positioning.
Tribulus out....