Mojo, I need help when in confort!

[miguel007]

Hello everyone:
3 months ago I had my TMM bootcamp in houston, I've learned quite a lot in the last 3 months (going out 3 times a week), I don't even use "opening lines", "whats up" is my opener, and it seems to work 9 out 10 times, body language seems good, I can get attraction quickly. I am having problems transitioning to qualifying and confort. It is frustrating to see how I get them attracted so quickly, and then to see it going down the toilet when "in confort". My wing has the oposite problems, he strugles opening and getting attraction, but confort is his thing and he got 2 SNLs in less than week. He says confort is just like talking to your sister or mom, but I think I need to have a more sexual frame. How do I transition to sexual talk when in confort without sounding creepy.

[Scoundrel]

I'm not Mojo, but maybe I can help. Talking about sex MUST be playful.

[holyskeleton]

kino.

[Finesse]

I'm not Mojo either, but it sounds to me like youre not isolating. While in comfort (meaning isolation) you need to connect with her, you can do that easily by looking into her eyes, and speaking with emotion and passion about just about anything.

[miguel007]

i meant to ask all the puas in this site. thanks for your valueable advise. I do try isolating, but after that I see things collapsing. Like finesse suggested, I think I need to speak with passion about things that I like.

[NobodyUKnow]

Ok, the MM model in the A phase is 3 little hoops moves you from A2 into A3; you've baited her into attraction, and she's jumped thru your hoops. Spend a minute or two qualifying her, letting her know you think she's smart/funny/amazing -- anything other than her looks -- and you're done with A3... give her a big hoop, and if she jumps, pull her into comfort.

Grab her hand and say "I'm gonna borrow your friend for a second... we'll just be right over here", or just move outside the circle while you pull her around so she's backturned to her friends... instant comfort.

Kino, kino, kino.

Sexual escalation. Playful at first, but just plain sexual after she's responding.

At the BC, (not sure who instructed) you heard about the attraction switches... passion for life, create a conspiracy, future planning. I hope you took notes. You probably built a stack for yourself for the A phase... did you come up with one for Comfort? If that's your sticking point, it's important to use that exact same stack every time to calibrate it. Watch what gets results, toss what doesn't.

Make sure you continue to qualify yourself to her... ("I never meet cool girls in bars... but you've completely hijacked my brain").

Anyway, you're doing fine. 3 months isn't that long, and the important thing is to keep on keepin' on.

[Mojo]

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NobodyUKnow did a good job on explaining TMM.

Let me expand a bit...

Women need to feel a genuine connection before going further. Comfort is where you build this connection. Talking with a passion for life, creating a conspiracy, and future planning are all great tools.

When you speak with passion, it is the real you. It communicates all the right things - enthusiasm, happiness, joy, all of these emotions impart on her and they are addicting. She feels what you feel. She identifies with you. Speaking with passion really pumps up your charisma. You can’t fake passion so you come across genuine. And it makes you feel good, and thus makes her feel good.

Creating a conspiracy sets you two working together like old friends. And having that mindset is where you want to be. The same thing with talking in statements (or stories); old friends talk using statements, strangers talk using questions.

Future projection is where both of you imagine yourself in the future somewhere. The beauty of this is that it is major time distortion. Your mind CANNOT tell the difference between reality and imagination. So by imagining both of you somewhere in the future, you are sending signals to her mind that she has know you for a long time. For example, upon a girl telling me she didn’t get home from work until 4 in the morning, I say, “This would never work out. Just imagine if we hit it off. It’s 6 months in the future, both of us getting in bed at opposite hours, we would never get any sleep!” Now her mind feels like she has known me for 6 months. Notice the suggestion that we would never get any sleep due to all the sex we would be having

Expressing a sexual frame can be done with sexual innuendo or without it. Doesn’t matter. What does matter is creating a sexual vibe she can feel. When you are talking to her, just think how you would like to bend her firm round ass over on the table and fuck the shit out of her. Imagine it. Feel it. It will be sub communicated.