I got negged the hell out of

[tpxgloveboy]

So I'm at work today sitting eating lunch with a couple girls.....one is an HB10 who's not the typical HB10.....really sweet girl who avoids confrontation at all costs, wouldn't hurt a fly, and is probably the nicest girl you'll ever meet. Because of her personality, her negging me was the last thing I was ever expecting. So I'm talking to these two girls and HB10 says to me, "Tpxgloveboy, you know who you remind me of?" I'm thinking she's going to say 'matthew lawrence' because I've gotten that all the time.....no...she says, "Dennis the Menace."

It wasn't until that moment that I realized how effective a neg is. Though she didn't insult or compliment me, I was immediately self-conscious and aware of my apperance.

I guess it's like how the saying goes something like about how you dont' really learn something until you've actually experienced it. I wont' forget what she said and now I know how crucial a neg is picking up a girl.

[Pr0wler]

Be wary of the fact that not all girls require the neg. Knowing when and when not to do it are the key aspects of the skill...

[boyracer]

Hang on.... Was she talking about looks or personality? If she was talking about personality, it wasn't a neg at all. Or at least I don't think it was. He's always kinda the "troublemaker"!

I don't think it was a neg....

[tpxgloveboy]

.....ya I don't know....I said to her, "HB10, if you're looking to insult me, say something more direct like I'm fat or ugly." (Keep in mind that I have no idea if she is talking about looks/personality so I'm trying to figure this out). But she did say, "No it's not an insult. If anything, it's a compliment because your smile reminds me of him."

so ya, maybe it wasn't a neg, but from how i first perceived it, it felt like a neg and it gave me a whole new light on how effective a neg actually is

[Welsh_Dragon]

neg = value adjustment. To be honest from what you have said I don't think she needs to neg you. I would have taken this more as an IOI. I can think of a few quick witted responses you could have delivered to susinctly reveal her true feelings (if any).

My suggestion would be don't read anything into it. There is another good thread on negs I suggest you read that too.

[Hoovy]

For future reference, when you find yourself in a similar situation, you might reframe and find out more. I would call it an IOI, because she said your smile reminds her of him.

You could possibly reframe this, to ask, "What does Dennis the Menace have going for him that you find attractive?"

Mess with her about liking younger guys, bad boys, having little willpower.

[Scoundrel]

You should have told her she reminds you of Margret and invited her to get some cookies with you from Mrs. Wilson.

[tpxgloveboy]

these are all really good suggestions guys. thanx. Right now, it's a little difficult for me to think quick on my feet like this and have good comebacks when I'm still in an AFC state-of-mind.

Ha, one thing I'm trying to do here and there is when I get asked a question, I wont' answer the question, but I'll keep it on the subject and ask them a question. I don't know if that makes any difference on my game, but I thought that that fit in with the topic here.

[Scoundrel]

The thing is, you'll start to hear a lot of the same things again and again. Every time someone says something, try to spin it. If you can't do it then, think of something you can say if you ever herar something like that again.