What brings you here? Why are you in the seduction community?
I did an informal poll a few years ago and I found that many of the guys I talked to who were my friends had all had a failed relationship, broken up or had just gotten sick of being rejected all the time.
Many guys, myself included, were involved with girls that did not reciprocate their feelings. In other words, a one-sided or requited love. Its difficult to deal with this on the level of pride or ego.
You take a hit to your manhood if you feel like you could not get a girl for whatever reason.
Then the guy does a search on google and finds the seduction community. He is bombarded with techniques, tactics, social theories, evolutionary psychology and a whole host of lines and what to say.
If anyone ever asked "what do I say?" then the seduction community has an answer.(However, "what to say" or "how to say it" is not the answer.)
Soon the man is convinced that change is needed. He needs to stop being so Beta. He needs to be quick with the lines and know the jargon. He needs to hang out with like-minded PUA's. He needs to join a lair and to become an instructor so he too can save men from their plight and help men who are in need.
So he gets away from the painful situation that brought him there and replaces it with PUA jargon, bars, approaches, HB's, negs, shit tests and guys who do the same.
Its like he's done alot of change but has not really solved the problem.
Back to the problem...
The problem or reason that brought you here is important. This issue is central to you being in the seduction community and thus, if the original problem was solved, you might not feel so bad.
So the question we should all ask ourselves is "Is the problem/situation that got me here, is it solved?" In other words, am I now able to deal with that original situation in the new light of the knowledge, experience and theory I have?
If the answer is "yes"...then you are cured. Get out of the seduction community.
If the answer is "no" then what is missing?
Also when we think about this, its the original problem and not the one sold to you by the seduction gurus. The one sold to you by the seduction gurus is :
- You can have any woman
- You need to get this part of your life handled.....(so you will never feel that pain again)
- You need to be banging playboy models just like Mr. M.
- You need to be a spiritual guru like Eckhart Tolle.
- You need to be a success like Tony Robbins.
- You need to dress cool like the guy who wears a top hat and does magic tricks.
- You need to be a guru/teacher yourself so other men will look up to you.
I am betting that NONE of this was part of the original problem you had when you entered the community. And if you have not done so, you need to change for the better so the issue that brought you here does not resurface.
Once it is "solved" or you can deal with it with emotional maturity, its time to move on.