starting....again

[PUA_scott]

I am a 51 year old man, i am not pretty, i am average build, blonde hair blue eyed, and have male pattern balding.....damnit......and don't want to date over 40. i came here a couple years ago, but felt i could never do it.

I've been married 3 dang times. i have been listening to some of the PUA masters for about 6 months and now realize i did EVERYTHING wrong. i was constantly attentive, built my world around each of my wives, let myself get fat and old (not that this part matters), did everything they wanted, gave them all my money without question and developed no life of my own and no friendships of my own. worst of all, i was very happy with all of that. I know you will find this hard to believe, but all 3 cheated on me, and one even came close to destroying my life.

now, i'm trying to date again and do it right. i want someone miss me when i'm gone, send me texts to ask how i'm doing, and chose me instead of settling for me for a bit. my wife left 3 years ago and i've dated one woman. terrible. i try to approach women after getting all pumped up listening to PUA greats, then freeze up and can't do it. i will find the appropriate place to post what i've done so far and my night out and the things i did right, wrong, and ask what i could do better.

by the way, i have a friend that pointed me to you guys. he has someone right now, but said you guys helped him quite a bit.

[Triumvirate]

Howdy.
What type of women are you interested in age-wise?
Where do you live?
What is your main way of meeting women now?

[PUA_scott]

Howdy.
What type of women are you interested in age-wise?
18 to 40, not fat.
Where do you live?
i live in ponder texas, right outside of denton.
What is your main way of meeting women now?
i haven't really tried for the last 3 years, and was married the 8 before that. i have tried a sports bar and a dancing club. in the dancing club i couldn't approach at all. got pumped of with a bunch of PUA audio, then froze up. in the sports bar, i was no better, smilin joe, but nothing. i tried talking to a lady at the bar, thought i was making headway, then i thought she couldn't hear me. realized that she was ignoring me. very embarrasing.

[Triumvirate]

If you are going to be competent at this, you'll have to get a lot of reps in. You should be out at least 3 nights a week. There is no reason you shouldn't be out Thursday-Saturday every weekend.