maenad wrote:IsiMan84 wrote:maenad wrote:You should not feel obligated to do things for others, you owe no one nothing in life unless they have done something for you. If someone does me a favor, then I am glad to to return the gesture to them because I am not fond of manipulation(use and abuse them mentality). I prefer situations, where I benefit along with the other person. Everyone's happy that way.
This mentality goes over to "why should I take a girl on a date and pay for her food when shes not my girlfriend, i don't owe her shit'.
With that logic you're saying charities shouldn't exist, this forum shouldn't exist, and nobody should ever help anybody with anything in life just because that person has nothing to offer them.
Look, I know I come off a little jaded saying things like that. I have good reasons, all through out my life people used to use me as The source of entertainment because I was extremely witty. If people don't Contribut to my life, they aren't worth my time.
Why does it matter so much what other people think of you? Sounds like a personal issue to me. I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do and it doesn't matter if somebody else finds it funny, weird, amusing or stupid. If somebody happens to invite you to do something, them inviting you was the "something to offer". Otherwise you would have been doing nothing at that moment in time. The summation of what you said is literally "people want me around them because of my personality." Cry me a river.
If you were a 'natural' who didn't have any insecurities about yourself, little shit like this wouldn't matter to you. Which leads me to believe you aren't one. On that same token, if people want to read material about how to be better in social situations, that shit also shouldn't matter to you. It's basically training your brain, which needs just as much work as your body. The physical equivalent of what you're doing would be me laughing at all the guys who lift weights and train to be better track athletes, just because I'm naturally better than them.
Back to the subject at hand. I tend to read different things here and there, instead of following one school of thought for a prolonged period of time. I don't think every single person is going to get the same results from using one method versus another guy who does the same thing, or the type of venue you're at or the girl you're talking to. It would take a long time to find out what works for you if you don't try a little bit of everything.
