So, me and one of my friends where talking the other day and somehow the ladder theory came up. If you don't know what that is, google it.
Now, this applies more to ones social circle and your group of friends, this really doesn't apply to cold approaches.
According to the ladder theory, there is a group of guys that a girl knows and hangs out with that she would possibly have sex with at some point, and there is a second group of guys that she would never have sex with because she views them as being in the "friend zone".
Now, my question is, what sets the guys apart in these two groups? Guys in both of these groups are in her social circle, are "friends" with her, and are not necessarily sleeping with her or in a romantic relationship with her.
Example: Katie, Jon, Bill, and Ashley are all in the same circle or clique and hang out on a regular basis. Katie is going out with Todd, who is not in her circle and she met at the bar. Todd and Katie break up, Jon is on Katie's sexual ladder and Bill is on Katie's friendship ladder, thus Jon could get with Katie if he perused her, but Bill could not since he is stuck in the friendzone. Now why is it that Jon can hook up with her and Bill can't? They are both somewhat "friends", but what sets these two friends apart?
I guess you see this more in High school where everyone dates around within their social circle, I am curious as to what sets apart each of these categories.