by Guest » Wed Apr 06, 2011 4:37 pm
My advice to you is to go home and write in your journal, on these boards, whatever, about your interactions immediately after you have them. Think about the words you said, how you used them. Think about the phases of the interaction after you have had it. If you do this, you will see a pattern. You can understand the Mystery Method better if you see the phases in your own interactions.
Oh DHV's you said you had a problem with them because it seemed like bragging. I understand your point. Try to see the difference in these two statements.
Example 1:
So my last girlfriend and I went to the store and got hit up by one of those will work for food guys. I dropped a dollar in his hand because you never know about that kinda stuff. I believe in Karma, so it will come back to me somehow in a good way.
Example 2: I donated $5000 to united way last year, It was for a tax break because I cleared over 250K.
If you read the examples you note the following. In Example 1 I am telling a story. In my story I DHV because by showing preselection and generosity. (Preselection because I had a girlfriend, Im generous with my resources, I have a spiritual side.)
In Example 2 I am making a statement. It demonstrates generosity, but it comes off as bragging because of the context I provide for it.
I hope the two examples help you to understand the difference.