LTRs: What do you do with them after it's done?

[Guest]

Yep, I'm of the same mindset as PC and Grimm (by the way, I like the ARM concept).

The way I see it is that if you keep them in your life then you're susceptible to dealing with the same shit from the LTR that you dealt with while you were in the LTR just without the SEX. So, why bother?

Also, you run the risk of getting back in the relationship which doesn't make a lot of sense because you got out for a fucking reason.

But, personally, for me, I have zero desire to be friends with a woman. Sure, I'll talk with the ladies at the office and buddy around with them. But, I'm never going to call a woman and chat or go to dinner with one plutonically or go for a drink or whatever. It just seems so stupid. The only thing that I want from women is their feminine love, intimacy, and sex. That's about it. I've found that when those things are not on the table I sort of zone out and don't pay any attention to the emotionally charged dribble coming out of her mouth, I ignore the feminist infected rhetoric, and don't even process the endless amount of backward rationalization and justification that they always seem to take part in.

Truthfully, I listen to about 10% of what pretty much all women say and focus mostly on how she acts and non-verbal cues. The truth from women will never be communicated via the written, or spoken, word.

Without the sex, intimacy, and love what else can they offer? Really...take that away and you take away the only reasons I have to be around women. So why be friends? Seems pointless.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Bull Run;40640]Yep, I'm of the same mindset as PC and Grimm (by the way, I like the ARM concept).

The way I see it is that if you keep them in your life then you're susceptible to dealing with the same shit from the LTR that you dealt with while you were in the LTR just without the SEX. So, why bother?

Also, you run the risk of getting back in the relationship which doesn't make a lot of sense because you got out for a fucking reason.

But, personally, for me, I have zero desire to be friends with a woman. Sure, I'll talk with the ladies at the office and buddy around with them. But, I'm never going to call a woman and chat or go to dinner with one plutonically or go for a drink or whatever. It just seems so stupid. The only thing that I want from women is their feminine love, intimacy, and sex. That's about it. I've found that when those things are not on the table I sort of zone out and don't pay any attention to the emotionally charged dribble coming out of her mouth, I ignore the feminist infected rhetoric, and don't even process the endless amount of backward rationalization and justification that they always seem to take part in.

Truthfully, I listen to about 10% of what pretty much all women say and focus mostly on how she acts and non-verbal cues. The truth from women will never be communicated via the written, or spoken, word.

Without the sex, intimacy, and love what else can they offer? Really...take that away and you take away the only reasons I have to be around women. So why be friends? Seems pointless.[/QUOTE]

You are in a [U]social[/U] setting (talking current social setting), arguing a specific point, what is more likely to boost you to victory among peers (any set of normal peers i.e. not close friends etc..), 1) man logic, or 2) a woman on your side?

Infallible as your man logic may be, in many social situations it is much simpler, and most times the best move, to have a woman in your corner that will back you to the hilt. Woman can formidable social pawns. Which will allow you maximum freedom to play whichever role you are looking to at that moment. Think of it like sic-ing the dogs on the opponent. You can then either 1) move forward and crush the other person, 2) play the voice of reason card, 3) use the accusations women inevitably throw out at the other person to extricate more information from said person, 4) have them play the victim (something you cannot do) or 5) insert any other devious subversive social act you can think of. The options really are limitless.

Regardless of whether you are alpha or not, if you are not friends per-say, with a woman first, and then a situation occurs, she will wait to see who the projected victor of the social interaction will be and jump to their side.

[Guest]

Also, just having a girlfriend will not automatically allow you to have a girl on your side, likely since you are alpha, she will remain quite until it's over. The only thing guaranteed is that she would be going home with you at that moment, her sticking around if it happens too frequently though is another matter.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Finesse;40641]You are in a [U]social[/U] setting (talking current social setting), arguing a specific point, what is more likely to boost you to victory among peers (any set of normal peers i.e. not close friends etc..), 1) man logic, or 2) a woman on your side?

Infallible as your man logic may be, in many social situations it is much simpler, and most times the best move, to have a woman in your corner that will back you to the hilt. Woman can formidable social pawns. Which will allow you maximum freedom to play whichever role you are looking to at that moment. Think of it like sic-ing the dogs on the opponent. You can then either 1) move forward and crush the other person, 2) play the voice of reason card, 3) use the accusations women inevitably throw out at the other person to extricate more information from said person, 4) have them play the victim (something you cannot do) or 5) insert any other devious subversive social act you can think of. The options really are limitless.

Regardless of whether you are alpha or not, if you are not friends per-say, with a woman first, and then a situation occurs, she will wait to see who the projected victor of the social interaction will be and jump to their side.[/QUOTE]


You don't have to be friends with a woman in order to win your argument, get your way, and rule the day.

And, the status of the person siding with you matters much, much more than the sex of that individual. If a high status male sides with you then your chances of winning increases, same with a high status woman. If a low status woman or man sides with you then it doesn't help you at all...actually, it could very likley hurt you.

Still though, you created a scenario that has nothing to do with what I was saying. I'm not going to go be-friend a bunch of clacking hens just because I want their support should I need to convince a group of something.

Regardless, I would contend that everyone will wait to see who the projected victor will be in said situation. Especially women. It is always in their best interest to be on the winning side. The time when a woman will defend you the hilt is when she has invested her love, intimacy, and sex in you as a man. In which case, she needs to protect her investment and will side with you to the end.

A woman in love will support you always. A woman in like will tuck tail and run when she senses you may not win.

[Guest]

Most of my relationships and dating have ended on good terms and I find it best that one should cut them loose and never contact them again. Of course if I see them out, I would be cordial, but that's it--typically there is no reason why you would want to carry on a platonic relationship with a past flame.

[Guest]

That wasn't what you asked, you asked:

[QUOTE]Without the sex, intimacy, and love what else can they offer?[/QUOTE]

If you are surrounded by a bunch of beta men, and have women "friends" around, say in a work environment, wouldn't it make sense just to have them take care of your light work while you dedicate your time to better and bigger things?

Also place yourself in this situation. Baby mama drags you to court, what's likely to win your case or at least help your case, a squad of women(mothers) or the fact that you're a good father?

They CAN offer you something. But like you said, you don't have a use for that and that's cool, I'm just presenting a use for female-friends.