Relationship question

[Guest]

So here's something I've been wondering, and I certainly don't have an answer to. Is it possible to be in a long term relationship with a hot girl without having your balls chopped off?

Thanks.

edit: if so, how?? what pitfalls to avoid, etc.

[Guest]

I was with the same woman for almost 15years and she definitely turned heads wherever we went so I'd say its possible.

The one thing that kept my relationship successful the majority of those years was the fact that I never made her my #1 priority 100pct of the time. I always had my racing that I focused my time and attention on. She got to be #1 some of the time, shared the stage many times, but rarely occupied my mind like my racing does. This kept her working for me because I had what she wanted(attention). People always want what they can't have!

I had one other LTR after my divorce that was successful which I went about the same way.

Being totally into my chic has never worked for me. I've had my balls chopped off every time.

[Guest]

I second Howie on this one.

The only pitfall to that is that if you don't give her just the right amout of attention then she'll be more likely to think you simply don't care or are on your way out in which case she'll become hypergamous and seek out someone else to dull the pain if you were to leave.

[Guest]

Yes, of course this is possible. IMO it starts from the very beginning. You must set the frame from the get go of how you want the relationship to be, the path it takes, and dare I say the rules/boundaries. This is where most guys fail. They think they can start off one way and then change midway through the relationship. It just doesn't happen that way. You must start from the very beginning setting the frames which you desire, and never quiver in what you want.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Bull Run;40547]I second Howie on this one.

The only pitfall to that is that if you don't give her just the right amout of attention then she'll be more likely to think you simply don't care or are on your way out in which case she'll become hypergamous and seek out someone else to dull the pain if you were to leave.[/QUOTE]

Yep, that was also the beginning of the end in my marriage.

Its a balancing act no doubt. I wish I was as smart as you guys when I was younger! You certainly can't learn women until you've experienced a few.

Here's one more piece of semi-related advice from my semi-corrupt mind that I think is very beneficial for the less experienced gents out there:

I learned this the hard way......if you want to have a successful marriage some day, make sure you go out and date lots of women before hand. This allows you to understand women and how they think, it allows you to learn how to be successful in dealing with one so you're happy and they're happy, it also allows you to get some wildness out of your system so you aren't always wondering if the grass is greener. You'll be able to tell the difference between a good woman and a bad one in a short amount of time.

If you are willing to do this, you'll have a better chance of having a successful marriage. You are simply better equipped to handle one. Dating different girls can be treated like "practice" for the real thing(marriage/ltr) some day.

I see a lot of married guys that are pretty ill-equipped to be successful in their marriage and its no wonder they complain about not being happy and most end up in failure. So go out there and acquire the tools to be successful in a long term relationship. They are a lot of work, but very rewarding and offer a lot of stability that you won't get living this wild and crazy single life we all live.