Flaked on....

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Postby Guest » Wed Sep 15, 2010 11:38 pm

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My honest opinion is that you're investing WAY too much effort, especially for a girl you just want to fuck. Personally, I would just let it go...[/QUOTE]

This may be true, but what's the old saying, "sometimes the chase is better than the catch"? Applies here somewhat in my opinion. I have had fun times going through this process, and I'm learning a lot, especially about comfort and the nature of comfort, and (believe it or not) when to just assume attraction, not over game, and let things flow naturally.

As is, I've deleted her number, just to prevent myself from making some sort of impulsive mistake (also, I'm home recovering from a small surgery right now, so the idea of going out anywhere with anyone is out of the question), but I still have her number written down elsewhere in case she calls me or I want to call her in the future. We've come in and out of each other's lives so many times before, I wouldn't be surprised if I was back in this game by sometimes this winter. Who knows?
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Postby Guest » Thu Sep 16, 2010 9:41 am

The time has come for a cleansing...

Erase her number, erase all correspondance that you've had in the past. Truth be told, you are toast right now because you've gotten WAY too emotionally invested in this girl, whom has a pussy that can be replaced by the way.

She has the upper hand, the only response now is to create an environment in which she chases you. The only way to craft such a world is for you to erase her and let her re-open you.

Right now, you have nothing to lose. If she doesn't re-open you then you save some dignity. If she does re-open you then you have power. Either way, you win.

Cut her off. Next her. Find someone else. Based on what you've written you need to have faith that she'll re-open. If she does not, then you know the harsh truth...if she does, then you're justified.

Either way, the only way to tread here is to create and craft power for yourself. She has taken your manhood, it is time to take it back...disappear and you'll see that she comes running back. Claim your manhood, take back your balls...cut HER OFF!!!!

You're playing her Game, and you'll never win. Make her play YOUR game...
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Postby Guest » Thu Sep 16, 2010 11:52 am

Advice taken. Chapter is closed for now, except maybe with a dog-ear bookmark.

There is still one interesting thing I'd like to note about one of our final encounters in her bedroom. At one point she got up to use the restroom, and so I took a look over at the books on her nearby dresser desk. I don't remember the titles but one was a how-to on seduction, and the other was a how-to on how to [I]get[/I] a man. (I did briefly tease her about having these, and she seemed slightly embarrassed).

Anyway, I'm willing to bet that even though those books are written for women, some of the information is no different than what we are learning here. It may be my imagination, but from that point forward, I began to notice that she seemed to start setting frames in which I was supposed to chase her, whereas before, she was clearly chasing me. She didn't want me to spend the night that night, which I found a little odd. And then of course you have last week's series of events. It's possible, these books were telling her that if she wanted to snare me into a relationship, she'd have to make me chase her. Something I totally refuse to do.
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Postby Guest » Mon Sep 20, 2010 12:43 am

Re-opened me by text tonight. Positive and very brief back and forth. I don't think I'll ever understand women.
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Postby Guest » Mon Sep 20, 2010 9:14 am

You should have ignored her text and responded the next day during the evening.

You're not punishing her enough. Make her wait a day or so before you reward her by talking with her. Once she starts complying with your demands, then you can reward her more often. Until then, make her wait.
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Postby Guest » Mon Sep 20, 2010 12:09 pm

[QUOTE=Fuzz;37667]At one point she got up to use the restroom, and so I took a look over at the books on her nearby dresser desk. I don't remember the titles but one was a how-to on seduction, and the other was a how-to on how to [I]get[/I] a man. (I did briefly tease her about having these, and she seemed slightly embarrassed).[/QUOTE]

This means she is lonely and actively looking for a man. She wouldn't be reading "How to get a man" if she didn't want to get a man.

Of course she re-opened you.

She likes you, and I think she wants a relationship or at least to get her "hooks" in to you so that she could choose a relationship if she wants, but she's unsure that you like her back more than sexually. She wants you wrapped around her finger.

All women feel this to some extent. It's a security thing for them. That's why we qualify them. So I would probably focus on doing that.
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Postby Guest » Fri Sep 24, 2010 3:05 pm

Ran into this girl by accident at a bar last night (a bar I suspect she now regularly frequents with the intention of running into me, in fact a bartender told me she was there just the night before), and she wouldn't say hi to me. I ignored her for a bit, and kept chatting with my platonic lady friend. Then the girl flipped me off from across the bar. I came up to her and asked her what's wrong (smile on my face, strong frame) why she was acting so weird. She said she wasn't acting weird, but her friend was being very cold to me in a way that made it seem as though I had done something horrible to this girl (does she know I've been seeing someone else?). I said, "you're acting too awkward for me," and walked back to the bar to keep chatting with my lady friend.

The girl tears up and balls up a napkin or something and throws it toward my end of the bar. She misses. I felt like I was back in the cafeteria at grade school. I grab some napkins, and retaliate. I get a few stuck in her hair, hit her in the face a few times, but missed my true target of getting one in her drink. I keep pleasantly chatting with my lady friend all the while. But I was very much aware of the drama and commotion between her and her friends. they go to the bathroom together, she's texting up a storm, and soon I realize why.

The girl goes outside, and my lady friend advises that I chase to at least figure out what I did that's making her act so weird. I try to talk to her, when another guy pulls up, and he's there to pick her up and take her somewhere else. I suddenly realize she expects me to compete with this guy over her, or feel jealous, or something. I wink at her and go back into the bar and keep chatting with my friend. She sends me a text asking if I'm mad at her, this clearly being what she wanted.

I realize that her games had gotten to a level of cartoonish exaggeration, so I sent her a text at the end of the evening basically, calling her out on her behavior, telling her she's making a big deal over nothing, and essentially telling her it's over and nexting her.

Phone number deleted, I'm done with this girl. I shouldn't have to stress so much over a vagina, and there's tons of women out there who are way cooler than her.
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Postby Guest » Fri Sep 24, 2010 3:28 pm

Just got a text from her: "idk what you're talking about". Promptly deleted and ignored.
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Postby Guest » Fri Sep 24, 2010 3:44 pm

This chick is definitely a drama queen and an attention whore. Good thing you nexted her, but you shouldve done it earlier, it wouldve saved you the headache and drama....hindsight is always 20/20...
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Postby Guest » Fri Sep 24, 2010 4:06 pm

I don't think you're done with her. As far as I can tell, whenever the opportunity presents itself to re-engage, you take it.
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