Glasses, Great Accessory DHV or Myoptic DLV

[Guest]

Guys,

I've been studying alot about body language and presentation, as this is something that I want to get down quickly. So my question is this, do you view glasses as a physical DLV or an accessory DHV?

My reasoning is this. If you see someone with a missing arm, its an immediate DLV. This person can't compete because of his physical limitation. Does the same apply when she sees you with glasses? Is it a DLV because you have corrective eye-wear on, and therefore you are not able to compete as easily against someone with 20/20? (even on a sub-conscious level)

OR

Is having corrective glasses a way to accessorize and show social intelligence? Is it a situation where both points are valid?

Let me know what you guys think?

PS: Damn, I wish I could type myopic right, but I can't see anything without these glasses!

[Guest]

How do you feel about a girl with glasses? Same difference.

[Guest]

this is something I was wondering about s well. I don't need glasses, but they might make for a good accessory

[Guest]

I wear glasses. I could wear contacts, but I hate fucking with them.

Even if I was rocking contacts, you can bet your ass that I would STILL wear glasses relatively regularly (albeit with lenses without a prescription). Every where I go, I get compliments on my glasses, always have.

Technically, it does show that you have bad genes and your baby batter should be avoided. BUT, what I've found is that women think I'm way smarter than I am (actually, the glasses generally makes everyone think this) which is super awesome for me because I'm a smart motherfucker to begin with. And, intelligence is probably one of the most important traits a woman seeks out in a mate. Being smart means that you'll figure out a way to provide more for her and your offspring and that you'll have the ability to provide for her when things get tough. You'll be the guy that can solve complex problems that she could not otherwise solve.

I've found that glasses are the best accessory you can use because they're the first thing a woman sees, usually. And, they can act as a way for her to use a passive aggressive opener on you.

HB: "I like your glasses..."
Bull Run: "Thanks...I like your...well, nevermind that's inappropriate to say to a stranger..."

And, you're off to the races.

[Guest]

I read last night about a concept called sexual stereotyping which directly applies to what BR just said and ended up answering my own question.

For years there has been a stereotype that smart people wear glasses. The rock stars wear leather, That rappers and gangsta's have saggy pants, the nice guy (read AFC) wears jeans and a tee, etc.... Women are bombarded with this stereotyping over and over and over again. By the time they are of legal age, these stereotypes are ingrained into their subconscious.

So if you adapt your style (fashion) to mimic a stereotype she finds attractive, then you are already way ahead of the game. Each piece of apparel you own makes a statement either for a sexual stereotype (increasing attraction) or a non-sexual stereotype (decreasing attraction).

So if you want to plug into the sexual sterotype of the smart guy, wear glasses that make a strong statement. That is the difference between BR's glasses and my own. BR's glasses are bold, they make a strong statement. Mine are wire-rimmed and designed to blend in.

If you want to present the sexual stereotype of an athlete per say, then you wouldn't wear glasses, when was the last time you saw an iconic athlete rocking a pair of glasses? You don't see this because it's not part of the sexual stereotype.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=traxxus;37763]I read last night about a concept called sexual stereotyping which directly applies to what BR just said and ended up answering my own question.

For years there has been a stereotype that smart people wear glasses. The rock stars wear leather, That rappers and gangsta's have saggy pants, the nice guy (read AFC) wears jeans and a tee, etc.... Women are bombarded with this stereotyping over and over and over again. By the time they are of legal age, these stereotypes are ingrained into their subconscious.

So if you adapt your style (fashion) to mimic a stereotype she finds attractive, then you are already way ahead of the game. Each piece of apparel you own makes a statement either for a sexual stereotype (increasing attraction) or a non-sexual stereotype (decreasing attraction).

So if you want to plug into the sexual sterotype of the smart guy, wear glasses that make a strong statement. That is the difference between BR's glasses and my own. BR's glasses are bold, they make a strong statement. Mine are wire-rimmed and designed to blend in.

If you want to present the sexual stereotype of an athlete per say, then you wouldn't wear glasses, when was the last time you saw an iconic athlete rocking a pair of glasses? You don't see this because it's not part of the sexual stereotype.[/QUOTE]

Dead on, Sparky. If you're a girl's "type" it certainly makes things 100x easier. And that's why it's good to know YOUR type as well.

Now, you didn't go through my Socratic exercise where I asked you if you find girls with glasses attractive. But, my friend, what you'll find is that some dudes will say yes (Bull Run), some dudes will say no (me), and some like them in certain situations.

Well, you should realize then that girls are the same way. Some girls dig glasses, some don't. And what you have to ask yourself is do I dig the type of girl who digs a guy in glasses, or the type that doesn't?

Either that, or you could just choose to wear whatever you feel comfortable and good wearing. That's the even higher path.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=traxxus;37763]I read last night about a concept called sexual stereotyping which directly applies to what BR just said and ended up answering my own question.

For years there has been a stereotype that smart people wear glasses. The rock stars wear leather, That rappers and gangsta's have saggy pants, the nice guy (read AFC) wears jeans and a tee, etc.... Women are bombarded with this stereotyping over and over and over again. By the time they are of legal age, these stereotypes are ingrained into their subconscious.

So if you adapt your style (fashion) to mimic a stereotype she finds attractive, then you are already way ahead of the game. Each piece of apparel you own makes a statement either for a sexual stereotype (increasing attraction) or a non-sexual stereotype (decreasing attraction).

So if you want to plug into the sexual sterotype of the smart guy, wear glasses that make a strong statement. That is the difference between BR's glasses and my own. BR's glasses are bold, they make a strong statement. Mine are wire-rimmed and designed to blend in.

If you want to present the sexual stereotype of an athlete per say, then you wouldn't wear glasses, when was the last time you saw an iconic athlete rocking a pair of glasses? You don't see this because it's not part of the sexual stereotype.[/QUOTE]

actually, style contrast can be used effectively to generate attraction, if not, then at the very least, interest.

Imagine that youre dressed liked a bad boy or rockstar and you approache a girl. she has a stereotype ingrained in her mind of who you should be. Then she finds out that you're in corporate law, have a juris doctorate degree, and enjoy giving legal advice pro bono.

Or you're wearing "indie" clothes and skinny jeans you picked up at the local salvation army but then she finds out That youre a stock broker who works on wall street, but has selfless support for non-profit organizations that help the poor. You clearly do not match the stereotype of what your style speaks to.

This would intRigue the hell out of girls. Girls would wonder who is this guy? What else don't I know about him? He's a mystery, I WANT to know more...!!

Now tread carefully with this technique. You can easily come off as incongruent or try hard, so you have to really put some thought into this.

I have always believed that your style should be an extension of your personality and still do, but I believe that this is a great concept. You shouldn't let style and fashion confine you, but an expression of who you are...

[Guest]

It sounds like me, traxus, and prodigy have all recently stumbled upon the same ebook. I did find the "sexy stereotyping" thing interesting, and is something most people either don't talk about or don't know about. Many will just dress up (dress shirt and shoes).

[Guest]

It only makes sense to present yourself in such a way that is attractive to the kind of girl you want to pick up. You know, use the right bait concept.

But, Prodigy is right here as well. Breaking a stereotype or having a little bit of contrast can build lots of attraction as well.

For example, if I meet up with a girl after work while still wearing my work clothes (button up shirt, pants, sometimes a jacket and tie) my stereotype would be the young, smart professional. But, once I roll up my sleves and you see me rocking a big ass tat on my forearm then that contrast would serve to pique her interest.

She's going to think, wow I didn't expect that tat. I wonder what else about him doesn't fit in my nice little stereotype I have of him?