I wanted to ask about this, as it has happened to me, but has always been pretty rare. The situation is this, your going about your daily rAFC life and bam, a woman is doing a pickup on you. Now I truly love this situation, because it puts us in a very unique situation of being the chooser. I have heard talk of good PUA's learning to generate this reaction. Of course, they could just be tall tales.
However, assuming that they are not, what experiences do you guys have with this? What qualities does a PUA have to have to generate this reaction? and What actions must be taken to accomplish this?
The quality I can think of is massive social proof. If the night is all about you, then your pickups will be much easier.
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by Guest » Thu Aug 12, 2010 6:41 am
Great question.
Women are more subtle about it and will throw out hints that they are attracted to a man with their body language and such.
It happens to most men, more often than you'd think. Most men don't notice, though - especially the ones with less social experience.
Now sometimes, women chase overtly. For example, if you have had sex already. For a woman to do this, she must feel comfortable doing it. Notice, it has nothing to do with how attracted she is - it's how comfortable she is.
If you can make a woman feel like it's OK to hit on you, you will see how dirty women's minds really are!
Women are more subtle about it and will throw out hints that they are attracted to a man with their body language and such.
It happens to most men, more often than you'd think. Most men don't notice, though - especially the ones with less social experience.
Now sometimes, women chase overtly. For example, if you have had sex already. For a woman to do this, she must feel comfortable doing it. Notice, it has nothing to do with how attracted she is - it's how comfortable she is.
If you can make a woman feel like it's OK to hit on you, you will see how dirty women's minds really are!
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by Guest » Thu Aug 12, 2010 9:15 am
I've had a handful of women overtly hit on me but only after I entered the community and they're usually just mediocre, at best.
Grimm is right. Women usually 'hit on' men in a more subtle manner. Eye contact, they keep looking in your direction, changes in body language, a smile, proximity, etc. These are the ways a woman usually hits on men. Basically, they put themselves in a position to increase the probability that a guy will approach them...remember, the gender roles still apply: women are passive, men are aggressive (although in these cases it's more like women are passive aggressive). The exception is when you, as a man, have a lot of value, i.e. musician, famous, performance artist, professional athlete, etc.
Given enough time, all of us will have that story about the time they were standing in line at [insert random place here] and a girl started gaming us. It's flattering, it really is. But, like I said, these women are usually not all that hot.
Grimm is right. Women usually 'hit on' men in a more subtle manner. Eye contact, they keep looking in your direction, changes in body language, a smile, proximity, etc. These are the ways a woman usually hits on men. Basically, they put themselves in a position to increase the probability that a guy will approach them...remember, the gender roles still apply: women are passive, men are aggressive (although in these cases it's more like women are passive aggressive). The exception is when you, as a man, have a lot of value, i.e. musician, famous, performance artist, professional athlete, etc.
Given enough time, all of us will have that story about the time they were standing in line at [insert random place here] and a girl started gaming us. It's flattering, it really is. But, like I said, these women are usually not all that hot.
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by Guest » Fri Aug 13, 2010 9:32 pm
actually I can speak to this pretty good I think, cause i saw this firsthand during my "journey" through the community, so I can remove the "genetics" from this equation since the same person. There were a lot of lessons from the community that I saw firsthand change the reactions i could generate ( and where at one point were very minimal). This could be a pretty lengthy topic to deal with though.
so let's remove obvious physical factors... dress reasonable. get in as best of shape as you can.
then the subtle stuff:
1) body language ( learn some alhpa BL stuff.....posture, take up space, learn to hold a drink at your side, lean back and take up bar space, etc)
2) don't scan the room as you walk around.. walk with a purpose, not like you are on the prowl or seeking eye contact.
3) And biggest thing for me...develop a quiet confidence about yourself...whether you are by yourself or with a group. This is the hardest aspect to get down. Sarging by yourself helps this the most and hard to quantify. (in fact once you get down, I honestly think you can use this to amplify yourself more than when you are with a group)
so let's remove obvious physical factors... dress reasonable. get in as best of shape as you can.
then the subtle stuff:
1) body language ( learn some alhpa BL stuff.....posture, take up space, learn to hold a drink at your side, lean back and take up bar space, etc)
2) don't scan the room as you walk around.. walk with a purpose, not like you are on the prowl or seeking eye contact.
3) And biggest thing for me...develop a quiet confidence about yourself...whether you are by yourself or with a group. This is the hardest aspect to get down. Sarging by yourself helps this the most and hard to quantify. (in fact once you get down, I honestly think you can use this to amplify yourself more than when you are with a group)
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