push pulls?

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how do you push pull because i hear it creates massive attraction? is it basically going for a compliance test, then rewarding with iois or compensate for iods.

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[QUOTE=maenad;37101]how do you push pull because i hear it creates massive attraction? is it basically going for a compliance test, then rewarding with iois or compensate for iods.[/QUOTE]

A push pull usually goes pull and then push. It has the element of doing something nice and then breaking rapport. So a push pull would be like, "you are the coolest girl I ever met... or a total weirdo. I can't decide." People are generally attracted to people who are attracted to them, although hot women also find men who put them on a pedestal unattractive. You want to flip that attraction switch and then take it away. So think of any way to generate that dynamic.

"Your eyes are so brilliant and sparkly... I hate that about you."

Take a girl's hands and pull her in to kiss for a few seconds, then throw her hands away and say, "ok, that's enough for you."

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I only wanted to add that in doing this, you run a risk of being blown out if you do not execute this exactly right. You absolutely must have the right body language for a push. I get taken seriously alot of the time, even when I am joking, and have had trouble with this. So make sure your body language is playful and relaxed or run the risk of being taken seriously and blown out.

Also, this is best done as part of building comfort, but not the first thing to do.

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I had a problem with this a long time ago. The way to not get taken seriously is too just make sure you have a big grin on your face after the pull. You can also get away with harder pushes if you involve kino.

"wow you are a total bitch.., but I love your carefree nature I think it's sexy *hug*"

I recommend finding some swingcat material. His book is great if you wanted to learn this. After I learned it it became a major part of how I talk to women and get them attracted. It's like the art of sending mixed signals.. and we all know sending mixed signals can drive any girl or guy crazy about thinking about the person they want to date.