Day 2 sticking point

[Guest]

So I'm out, I opened her, and I number closed. I'm feeling good, better than good, great, because I just got validation that all my work in this area is moving along in the right direction.......but wait...... Now what do I do? I hate the dreaded stare and chew. Pool seems like fun, and plenty of Kino, but we were doing that when we met.. redundant!

I've heard that day 2's should be short and sweet. Max 1 hour, that is unless your going to f-close. Hell, I could still fit that into an hour! Anyway, the question is, what is the perfect day two? What do you guys think? What works, and what doesn't? What to avoid and what to embrace. I don't know.

(Yes Smirks, I did a search!)

[Guest]

Some thoughts...

The whole point of a day 2 is to isolate back to your place. So whatever you do, do it close to home.

There's something to be said for taking her wherever you were going to go anyway.

Don't do anything boring. Don't do anything too fun either, that can be distracting.

I always like to bounce around to a few coffee places or bars near where I live, really low key places. That keeps it interesting, since you're always moving, but still intimate, so you can do your groundwork.

When you're on a day 2, how you sit is super important. If you're at a restaurant or bar or something, make sure you DON'T have a table between you. God I lost a few just learning that simple rule. If you're at one end of the table and she's at the other, it feels like an interview and you can't kino without being weird. My absolute favorite seating position is sitting caddy-cornered. You can get good eye contact, which you can't do side-by-side, and at the same time, you can still kino. It forces you in to good body language and kino habits in a way.

As far as who pays - don't buy this community bs that you shouldn't pay. You should assume you're going to pay, unless she makes a fuss about it. That said, don't go anywhere expensive, you will look try-hard. A much better plan is to go somewhere you love, so you can talk about why you love that place.

[Guest]

I agree with everything Grimm said. My dates have always been traditional activities with a different twist (like a game that determines what we do next, etc.) I never make it feel like an interview. Like Grimm said, mind your posture, direction, and position.

Dinner. Bar. Bedroom.

Your alpha like behavior can be toned down, but not too much. You will come off as if it was all just an act.

That's all I got for ya

[Guest]

The point of a day2 is to bed her. You're a man, men try to fuck always, act like a man.

Having said that, I posted something a loooooong time ago about day2s. I think it's called the Bull's Run. Anyway, read that if you want, but Grimm pretty well summed up everything I had to say.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Bull Run;36659]The point of a day2 is to bed her. [/QUOTE]

What is it that makes you feel this way?

[Guest]

What's the point otherwise?

My point is that your intention should be to steer the day2 to sex, whether you actually follow through or whether it happens is something totally different. You have to keep the frame of being a man, a leader, and being sexual the entire time...if you don't, then you'll blow it.

[Guest]

Take her to get an ice cream, take her for a hot chocolate, a day 2 does not have to be a dinner date. In fact, that's the worst way to go.

[Guest]

Skip Dinner. Probably the worst Beta Day 2 possible.

Instead make an excuse that you have a business dinner but you should meet for desert afterwards. Hit up a restaurant and order a couple good desserts. Share each others. This really takes the edge off. Add liquor if at all possible. Even one drink can do wonders.

Hit up Sullivans if you are in the Addison area. It is a classy laid back joint and on just about every night of the week(minus Wednesday) they have a live band. Not loud death metal but some nice jazz. While Sullivans is a bit pricey if you are just ordering desserts it won't break a budget. Nice thing about Sullivans is they are known for their Martinis. One of these and you are feeling good. Order your girl the pinapple martini. It is expensive but is their rarity drink and will knock her socks off.

Bowling. This is a decent day 2 as it allows competition(which IMO builds sexual tension). It also allows for negging. Pick a joint that serves alcohol and is smoke free. Plus you get to check your girls ass out all night.

Ok I am bored of writing. Goodluck

[Guest]

I don't understand the hate on the dinner day 2. It's the same as getting drinks, but with food. I think there's something to say for a guy who can take a girl on a typical date and she still has fun. I see no problem in keeping the overall idea simple and then make it unique with smaller/easier things.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=Smirks;36665]I don't understand the hate on the dinner day 2. It's the same as getting drinks, but with food. I think there's something to say for a guy who can take a girl on a typical date and she still has fun. I see no problem in keeping the overall idea simple and then make it unique with smaller/easier things.[/QUOTE]

Dinner is ok as long as it's something casual and quick, like sitting at the sushi bar, mediterranean, or tapas. But being captive in a booth with a table between you with food and service interrupting the focus isn't ideal.

I agree with Grimm. I like to find a place with coffee, shopping, and a bar all within walking distance. I like to keep moving, because I find it easier to escalate kino while walking, and with each venue change it becomes more natural to sit right on top of each other.

On the topic of the day2, I found this article interesting:
[URL]http://www.charismaarts.com/imagine-that/[/URL]
It gives some good advice about how to approach the day2 with a girl.