fuck shit I hate missed sets

[Guest]

Ok so this is kinda a fr, but more of just a lesson to be learned. I think everyone can benefit from this lesson.
So this whole weekend has been great, alone in my parents house, been catching up with knew friends, parents left me 30 dollars for "food" that I spent on a LCD belt buckle that I have been wanting since I was like 5 yrs old (and even got a free belt with it because I was the first customer of the day :D). Overall good weekend, untill....
Tonight I was hanging out with my good friend from high school Jeremiah. We haven't seen each other since last spring/summer when we graduated high school and I missed the guy. He was just coming over to play Rockband and chat with me and catch up you know. So he gets here and like 30 min before he arrives I am CRAVING Starbucks but figure I will wait for him to get here and we can go together. So he gets to my house and I say "Hey man. Let's go to Starbucks!". He laughs and agrees and we get in his minivan and drive to Starbucks. Now it is 8:45 when we arrive and I am just in a catch up with my old friend mood and excited to see what hes been up to, not even thinking about sarging at all. My Starbucks is generally a bad place to sarge, not much talent. So we get there and walk inside the far door so we will have to walk across the whole room to get to the counter.

As I am walking towards the counter I make a quick scan of the room, scoping out some eye candy and potential sets, it is just INSTINCT now. Here is what I see:

EMPTY, EMPTY, EMPTY, STORE CLERK (MALE, NOT A SUITABLE SET), EMPTY, EMPTY, DING DING DING HOT BABE ALERT! SITTING ALONE!! POTENTIAL SET SPOTTED, POTENTIAL SET SPOTTED!!!!

The rest of the room was completely empty. I am look at her as I am walking to counter and she notices our presence and looks. Catches eye contact with me! I do not get eye contact as much as I think I should, I think I am a great looking guy, so this a big deal, but again I am here to catch up with my friend, and not sarge. We order our drinks and Jeremiah sits us down RIGHT ACROSS THE ROOM FROM HER, SO WE CAN LOOK AT HER AND SHE CAN LOOK AT US, he did not do this intentionally because he is an AFC and is really reserved and not alpha at all. We sit and I look at her.

She is wearing gladiator flip flops, which kinda turn me on(I do not have a foot fetish, it is more of a "fashion fetish"), her legs are covered in black leggings(a shame because it looks as if she has great legs and certainly doesn't need the leggings, SHOW OFF YOUR LEGS HOTTIE!), she is wearing a cute short little dress(kinda looks "grandma-ish" but she is working it), she is working on a painting(I LOVE ARTISTIC GIRLS), she has long blonde hair(I like blondes ;)), she is LOCKING EYE CONTACT WITH ME AGAIN! THIS IS A FIRST!

Ok. Obviously our attraction towards each other is mutual right now. I keep on glancing over and she keeps on locking eye contact. Her eyes are practically screaming COME TALK TO ME JASON. Deep inside my PUA self is thinking "listen man, she is attractive, you have no AA, you're showing alphaness by being the man in the venue(I had a great vibe going on because of my friend), you are hot, she is hot, you have opened a thousand times, this number close will be easy I guarantee it, dont let yourself down, open her."

Sadly I did not open. The part of me that didn't want to be an ass to my friend and just leave him at his table to go sit with a HB that he would struggle to converse with because of his lack of social skills outweighed the PUA side of me,

Here I am hours after leaving starbucks, sitting here typing up this field report/lesson and I am literally kicking myself because I did not talk to HBStarbucks.
Thats it, that could have been my opener right there. Unfortunately I missed this set.

Lesson learned:: dont fuck up like that again. Find a way to make conversation with the girl work. Integrate your friend into the conversation, otherwise ask him to go to the restroom for a bit and explain the situation later/bbeforehand. Dont miss another set like that.

[Guest]

At least you see the lesson to be learned! You paid a lot of attention to her sandals...yet didnt think to use that? "I like your Spartan-like sandals." Yes, that's a bad one, but its 6:30am. Cut a brotha some slack. You get the point. : )

I don't think your friend would have thought you to be an ass if you would have opened the set then merged her in to your own quick. If you would have left him marooned on his own little island then yeah...even though he's AFC don't be afraid to bring him over...he IS your friend. If you're embarrassed by your friends, then you're probably embarrassed by yourself...as they reflect who you are.

[Guest]

great post/FR UL...it is unfortunate that you missed out on a set that couldve easily been sucessful for you. I also hate when i dont open and regret that i missed out on such an opportunity.

i try to live life without any regrets, and the point you make in this post really is an important for most people in the game...

[Guest]

I forgot to add these details: While I was sitting right across from the girl two more girls walk in. I look at the girls, but cannot see very well as I am wearing my glasses that have an outdated perscription and mark these two girls off as non potential sets. Then alll of a sudden one of the girls looks over at me and screams "Jason Jason Jason!!!" I was like what the fuck. So then I realise the 2 girls are my older sisters best friends, and they arent as ugly as I thought, and they get their drinks and walk over and have a brief convo with me. BAM!!! Social proof.


It was like everything in the universe was aligning in such a way that it would produce the best results if I had opened the chick. I was in like a super positive state. Still wish I wouldve opened the girl, but maybe I will see her again sometime.

[Guest]

Reminds me of when I was your age.

Of course I still find myself doing the exact same thing these days...maybe just not as much.

What would you be more pissed about.

1. Being upset now that you didn't open the hottie?

2. You open the hottie and it just doesn't go anywhere, possibly even rejection?

Once you answer that question it will make all your future decisions easy.

Plus you could have ran a very very short set and number closed. I could see a 1 minute number close on that set with ease.

Blah Blah Blah...ok well hey I am about to jet or I have to get back to my friend let me get your number.

[Guest]

Yeah approaching and getting shot down is not as bad as not approaching at all.In fact a lot of guys get in a bad mood, when they are out in the field, because they take too much time between their approaches. good post Legend!