What to do with a HB5 AFC girl

[jast]

I meet a girl online that looked way better in her picture then in person. She was a 7 online and she is a 5 in real life. I hung out with her and even ran some game on her practice is practice. She is really cool to hang out with easy to talk to and fun just not all that hot. I have hung out with her a total of 3 times just because she is fun.

Lately she is acting like an AFC Buying me things she has all ready gotten me star bucks gift card and taken me out to eat. She sends me text message all most every day. Say things like “you are great thinking a bout you"

The problem is I am starting to feel bad I know nothing is ever going to happen with this girl. I told her I am dating other girls and am not looking for a relationship. She seems not to care like she can win me over. Any one else run it not this problem? I don't want to hurt this girl and I am starting to think I may have a stalker.

[quipster]

You need to act like you are only friends with her. I would only txt her once or maybe twice a week and maybe one phone call. You might be giving her too much attention by replying to all her text messages. So limit the time you spend interacting with her. This is what I do when women start to get too clingy to me it seems to work pretty well.

-Quip

[Suave]

Just call her when you are drunk and horny.. Two things can happen: 1.) She will quit bothering you b/c she thinks you just want sex from her... or 2.) She will have freaky HB5 sex with you.. Yeah she may be a five, but Im sure its way better than beating your meat.

[Pr0wler]

This situation is very similar to dating a fat girl. She will do everything in her power to keep you around (buy presents, suck you off, whatever). She probably doesn't get to many guys coming her way, but when she does she clings on for dear life to make sure you stay around. No matter what boundaries you set, she will always be in that "I want to be your gf" mindset.

You have two option:
1) Cut her loose
2) Fuck the shit out of her if you can make yourself do it

That really sums it up... She'll be sweating your nuts the rest of your relationship with her whether it friends or whatever

[Finesse]

Or....I havent really seen anyone mention this.

Be honest with her... but don't divulge all of the truth.

Tell her, that youre not ready to settle down in a relationship, and just want to stay single and have fun. But that you like her and she's cool, butif you and her are going to have a "thing" chances are you'll be seeing other people as well.

If she wants to have a relationship with you that bad, she'll stay around

Thats a good option if you still want "back-up" sex, and of course you don't want to commit.

Play around with that though, most women are different when it comes to this, but if you played your game right you shouldnt have any problems arranging that.

This way, youre telling her the truth, (that you'll be seeing other people), you don't piss her off, and you have a back up.

[Sage]

2.) She will have freaky HB5 sex with you.. Yeah she may be a five, but Im sure its way better than beating your meat.

and hell, when you're drunk, that 5 will become the 7 you thought she was



But really, aside from having a stalker, what's wrong with fucking a 5? I don't see anything wrong with 5's. My motto is that you never know how good sex with a girl will be until you try it.

[boyracer]

Finesse said it best. In a situation like this, I think honestly is really the best policy.

You should manage the expectations up front, as early as possible. This will avoid her getting her too bad.

[jast]

I told her Monday over the phone and I am glad I did she lost it. I told her “Your great to hang out with but the spark is just not there for me and I don't want to lead you on. We can hang out if you want but that’s as far as it is going to go. "

She went off told me I was making a big mistake and how shallow I was bla bla bla. Then she would swing back to telling me how great I was and how she really did not understand. During the whole talk I realized some thing I have said and done this same thing to other woman letting me go before and man is it sad.

I let her vent for about 30 min I figured it's the lest I can do, plus just hearing the thing she was saying and being on the other side of it for once helped me see my pasted break ups differently. I understood why she was acting the way she was and for the first time I got how the girl must have felt when she did it to me.

[jast]

Man she is dosen't give up. I got this email from her on Hot or Not

Please read this with an open mind. Please do not delete me from here. I will only message you just this once. I want you on here as a friend.

I want you to know I am no longer angry about this. I talked to one of my best friends (a guy best friend) . He is always honest with me and gives me his honest opinion. He tells me there is more to this story than you are telling me. Don't worry- I won't ask you to tell me.lol...I know you are only protecting yourself.

I know I was more than you say I was. I know you have the walls around you and I saw through them once or twice for only a brief moment. You are absolutely wonderful. I wish you all the best in the world.

Have a great day. Take care. With only the utmost in sincerity.

Always true,

[MagicBalls]

Lately she is acting like an AFC Buying me things she has all ready gotten me star bucks gift card and taken me out to eat.... Any one else run it not this problem?

Sounds like my first wife!!! Yeah, for real, it makes you realize how uneffective and pathetic it is to exhibit AFC behavior when you see it in someone else. When you are in AFC mode, you feel self-righteous and think that the world is unfair and that it should conform to your high ideals. But it really is just a one-sided, simplistic view based on unfulfilled needs, which can be as selfish and superficial as anyone else's. No one owes you anything, and someone's bedroom is not the equal opportunity or welfare office. Who I let into my bedroom and why is my own business, and I respect the decisions of others on the same principle. Just because I let Oprah in the living room doesn't mean she's going to accompany me into the bedroom!