by Guest » Tue Mar 24, 2009 6:21 pm
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i am still trying to find what works for me which is why i try different techniques in different settings. i am trying to see what will help me build attraction. that is true, i am being dependent on reaction though. my biggest problem is providing dhv which is why i am working on a routine stack so i can really learn the process. eventually, i can move away from the routine.
i thought i am suppose to take bits and pieces from different pros and see if it works for me. i remember reading stuff on mystery flicking off the girl and then giving an answer of why he flicked them off. i used his routine that night.
i am following bull run's advice of developing my own thing which is why i don't want to pay for a tutor. also, i don't remember blowing you out of any sets that you opened. i was away from you most of the night.
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youre absolutely right about trying different things and seeing what works. from the top of my head, i have used some of PC's stuff, some of solace's stuff and it has worked for me. the difference between you and me, is that before i actually tried it, i observed and figured out the theory behind why it works. once i was able to understand why it worked, i can come up with my own gambits based on the same theory but with a tweak or two...
before you start using what "works" you have to determine what type of PUA you want to be. some things will work for you, other things will not, it all depends on your style and personality. continue to take bits and peices from other people, but pick up on the things that are congruent to your PU style; i truly believe that you have no idea of what that is...dont feel so bad, ive been actively doing this since november and i am still trying to truly define my PU style. please make note that your style will change as you change as a person.
to be completely honest with you, you have a LONG ways to go..one of the biggest things that you need to work on is your neediness to fit in. like solace said, everything you do you are doing for a reaction from the group, as if you want to be accepted. you come off this way when ive seen you in set as well. Bull Run has a phrase that i think would help you leaps and bounds. INDIFFERENCE IS THE DIFFERENCE. think about it, let it marinade...just be who you are around us, around women. and if youre just a really needy person, then change it (of course easier said than done)...
another thing is your social intelligence. sometimes you are really socially akward and say something completely random/annoying and everyone is just like WTF?! sometimes you say things that make you come off as a little weird. if a bunch of GUYS feel that way, how do you think women would feel? i have seen you do this out as well. you have to learn whats appropriate in different situations...you're not good enough to just say anything you want to a girl and expect her to unbutton your pants and suck your dick! there are boundaries of whats acceptable and what's not. push those boundaries, but be careful not to cross it....
i dont mean to be hard on you, but i hope you take something from my post and learn from it....