I am alittle confused here fellas....

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so heres the thing...theres this girl ive been friends with for about two months now...i know her through my best friend, which works with her...i wanted to f-close her but do not have the necessary ball size or skill to really amp the attraction because i will be totally honest with yall..im still kinda in the keyboard jockey phase..which sucks because i know the girls ive been meetiing lately can be easy f closes but just end up in the friend zone cause they are really comfortable with me, anyways....i basically fucked it all up one day when I was so pissed that i couldnt get with her the night before and basically told her how much i like her and shit..totally AFC move...and she told me basically she didnt want to get into a relationship cause she just got out of one...the next week shes fuckin my best friend that works with her...they are not really dating just fuckin...but still blows cause i know that could be me but whatever..what im confused about is this....she came over last night to study with me...at my house and wants to come over tomorrow night to study after i suggested to go to the libary...she said my place is more chill and shit...also...she brought a movie last night so we could watch cause she hasnt finished it yet...so im thinking in my head.."She knows i wanna fuck her brains out, but rejected me complletely since she was fellin my friend the whole time...yet she likes coming to my house to study all of a sudden, and not going to his house"... am i just trippin?

-also...what are some things i can do to escalate attraction while not seeming like i wanna do so..you know what im sayin?...what i do that is great in my mind is make her laugh alllllll the time...maybe i can use that to build some type of attraction...thoughts and advice would be appreciated..thanks guys!

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LJBFed

Your BEST FRIEND is banging her!

Move on

I know you don't want to hear this. I know you want some thing that will make her like you. You fucked up. Learn from your mistake and next time you will be nailing the girl instead of your BF.

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PC is right. You have been LJBF'd and judging by the tone of your post you are not in the right state of mind to look at anything this girl does objectively...giving you zero chance of pulling out of that zone. Make her realize down the road she should have taken you up on your offer by involving her in your future endeavors. Make her a sorta pivot, just bring her out with you for social proof, etc. Make a positive out of the negative...and for god's sake don't get drunk and call her up confessing you watch her sleep through her window!!!

...maybe that's just me. :)

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i couldn't f*** a girl who has already slept with a friend who i regularly hang out with. sounds kind of gross.

maybe there are exceptions like neighbor girl, haha. j/k

[Guest]

That sucks man, I feel for you, but I agree w/ everyone

that you should just move on, use her as a pivot & let

that be the end of it.

There are too many fish in the sea to sweat over one broad

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PC is right. Learn from it, and move on.

One of the reasons you get into the friend zone in the first place is by being "safe" or in other words not very sexual, so when you try to take it sexual, you'll get "I don't think of you in that way."

The fact that your friend is seeing her means you and he need to have an understanding, or that could be bad.

Get her to help set you up with other girls.

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I have a rule. If a girl wants to come over to my place and be alone with me then thats a big enough IOI to escalate into S1-S3. If you really want to go for it...maybe next time she is over pull out a couple of drinks and go for it...

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This is for everyone with a question. Please grab a pencil, some paper, and write down your situation with the names changed. Then objectively look at what you wrote and you will be able to solve your own problems. Astonishing, I know! If you still feel that she is the only person in the world who truly gets you and you want to proceed anyways, then like an adult, tell her how you feel; what you propose; and here is the key.... believe what she tells you.

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Bulovard, thats a great idea except for all of this:

"then like an adult, tell her how you feel; what you propose; and here is the key.... believe what she tells you. "

I did exactly what you just said one time and the bitch lied her ass off. Your advice pretty much sucks.

Here's something more like it: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. LET HER ACTIONS DO HER TALKING.

My exwife taught me that valuable lesson and I'll never forget it. And I've let that steer my decisions regarding the 11 women since her.

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To get into a relationship is to trust. So if she lies that's on her. Accept it and move on. What I was getting at... is if the girl says "I just want to be friends" accept that and don't try to hide in the back and wait for her to break up with her b/f and then swoop in. Just be her friend and that's it. I didn't mean to stick your head in the sand if friends tell you she's sucking down penis by the yard.