Phone call escalation

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As others have said, don't call it a "date" because it puts too much pressure on both of you. My advice is to do whatever you were going to do for fun anyway, and casually tell her she's welcome to tag along. This way, the offer is not a big deal if she says no. It's also fun to play around with this and invite multiple friends/girls to the same place and see what happens.

Oh yeah, almost forgot, do it by text. Do it matter of factly in the course of a string of back and forth flirty texts. Don't bother calling until you've developed a signifigant level of comfort.

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Just/Us, you ask this stuff a lot. Anyway, I'll reiterate here just for you, schnookums.

When I # close, I almost always text THAT night. I estimate that after the bar closing (2am) she'll most likely be in bed by 3am. I text pretty much right then. Something simple, witty/funny...normally along the lines of something talked about earlier in the night. I do NOT expect a response right then. I actually prefer them the next day. If she does respond, I don't respond until the next day (I've never been one to acquire or seek out SNLs...no idea why.)

Next day, I'll respond always about my hang over cure (pedialyte...try it) and ask how she's doing. A little banter will most likely follow, and at some point I set up a day 2...all of this over text, which I'll explain.

Now, this might now work for everyone, but it sure as hell does for me. Something I noticed in myself, the girl I'm currently dating, and a couple others here on the board...we can project our personalities well via text. This makes texting an extremely powerful tool...not only because we come off as creative/fun from a read phrase on a phone, but because reading/responding to texts is a lot less of a commitment for women.

When you first meet a chick, she's not gonna draw out her past and personality for you in a fucking powerpoint (if she does, throw your drink in her face to blind her, and make a run for it.) You have no idea if she has extreme hesitations about commitment, if her mommy alarm clock just went off and she's ready to commit/pop out kids, if she's looking for something casual and easy...wtvr. The safest way to engage her is in a way that doesn't require her to pony up and answer a call. Nerves run high when talking on the phone for the first time, and it's best to delay that and have her warm up to you before jumping in to that. If you want to know more, ask. PM me...come out tomorrow night...whatev.

Now, Day 2's.
The day 2, in my mind, is a interview. If princess wants a date, well she's gonna have to earn it. I ALWAYS just hang out first, and if it goes well, I make it known that the reward is an actual date. Girls may be irrational, but most can understand this. When I'm on a date, I dont want tables between us...I don't want kino to be awkward...I want things to be 80% comfortable, and to increase from there.

Getting the interview out of the way remedies this.

I'm listening to the 15th Anniversary Ticket stuff right now, totally hard to think. If you want more on this, just ask as well : )

later gator.