Calibration question

[Guest]

Do you ever need to calibrate back on pick up techniques? Like if a girl shows interest and gives an ioi or a few (lets say after the number close), is it still necessary to neg em and raise your value and try and lower hers? At this point is it ok to drop the neggings and cnf and just talk since she obviously likes you? Obviosuly you will still need to be fun, funny, and flirty, but shouldn't it be ok to back off the b.s. a bit at that point?

[Guest]

im still new and learning like you, but i think the neg is to build attraction. if shes already attracted to you and you are in comfort (number closed), then at this point i think the neg should stop and cnf kept to a minimal. i believe if anything, you should do push-pull..and continue to build major comfort so that the likelihood of the number close is drastically decreased

[Guest]

First off, a neg should be a soft tease to raise your value by not showing obvious interest. If you're negs are coming off as "lowering her value in hopes of raising yours"....recalibrate that.

[Guest]

I agree with smirks.

After you qualify, then you can show direct interest as much as you want.

You can still tease as part of flirting, which may include C&F, or "negative" words but with a friendly intent. But then I would say that negs should be like that anyway.

[Guest]

Just depends on the girl...Yeah I know you don't want to hear that...

But to fully answer your question I would say YES. You can back off a bit on the CNF and other shanagains.

Do what you did to build attraction in the first place but scale it down until you eventually show her your true self.

A girl once told me it should just be easy with you and the girl. Meaning things shouldn't be difficult if you like each other. I tend to agree with her on this about 95% of the time.

I have a feeling I know the girl you are referring to in this post. She seems super sweet and I doubt you need to play any games with her. I don't know her that well but that is just my assessment.

[Guest]

If she's ioi-ing, then its time to bounce and build comfort, like whoa. Hit that shit, motherfucker. Just don't roll over, you're not done yet.

[Guest]

At some point in your development you will realize that it is never necessary or even that helpful to try to lower somebody else's value to raise your own.

You'll become confident, self-reliant, and strong. You'll be a giver rather than a taker. You will realize inside that you don't need techniques or gimmicks to be interesting or to talk to girls. Most girls will be attracted to you the second you approach, just for your own inner worth and the value you radiate.

Girls will chase you.

Good looking out man. See you guys in April by the way.

[Guest]

April?? Dont say the 1st...you wont Fool me.

[Guest]

too much negging, or cocky/funny has the same effect as pumping her BT too high too fast. I jus submitted an article about this not even an hour ago... I never back my compositions up....

[Guest]

Don't worry Solace.. I have all of them chronologically ordered.