I noticed an interesting dynamic last year and was curious to see whether it would repeat itself this year.
Last year beginning in early November, women started becoming more and more aggressive. The aggressiveness seemed to get stronger as New Year's came along and then appeared to peak in mid-January. By Valentine's Day, everything started to return to normal.
I decided to keep an eye out this year for the same phenomenon. And, I've started to see very, very similar results. In the last two months, I've had more women blatantly come on to me than in any other period of my life. This has not been limited to when we go out, and has actually been much stronger in my normal life. At work, at the gym, at the grocery store, at the tanning salon, even at the liquor store this weekend...the kicker was when a chick blatantly hit on me right in front of my LTR (the girl that hit on me was an ug, but still the aggression was still there). But, what really put things over the top has been the mass explosion of women on the Net responding to my profiles in various places (POF, Hot or Not, Match, MySpace).
The exact same thing happened last year, although not to the same degree.
Has anyone else been experiencing the same thing? I'm starting to really believe that women are cyclical in their interest in men. The Holidays is a peak time, it starts to lull in mid-January through mid to late March (depending on the weather), then it heats up again through the Summer, and then seems to tank at or around September, then it heats back up again in November.
You might want to keep that in mind when it seems like you're not pulling like you think you should be.
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by Guest » Tue Jan 06, 2009 5:03 pm
Could it have anything to do with this:
In the spring/summer seasons girls can wear mini skirts, skirts, bikini's and all of those other clothing items that expose max amount of skin so therefor guys are always approaching them and hitting on them. It becomes so common for a hb to be approached that she almost gets annoyed when it happens.
Then in the fall/winter seasons girls have to cover up all of their skin lest they freeze. Guys don't see skin. They don't approach as much. Girls think "why are guys ignoring me" and when a guy finnally does approach said girl her insecurity kicks in and tells her "I have to try hard to make sure this guy likes me because guys haven't been talking to me as much".
I don't know.
Maybe I am trying to be smarter than I actually am on this, but it makes sense to me.
And think about it, in the summer if a girl is walking around flaunting her stuff in a bikini and then right next to her there is a girl in jeans and a ski jacket who would you like to approach?
In the spring/summer seasons girls can wear mini skirts, skirts, bikini's and all of those other clothing items that expose max amount of skin so therefor guys are always approaching them and hitting on them. It becomes so common for a hb to be approached that she almost gets annoyed when it happens.
Then in the fall/winter seasons girls have to cover up all of their skin lest they freeze. Guys don't see skin. They don't approach as much. Girls think "why are guys ignoring me" and when a guy finnally does approach said girl her insecurity kicks in and tells her "I have to try hard to make sure this guy likes me because guys haven't been talking to me as much".
I don't know.
Maybe I am trying to be smarter than I actually am on this, but it makes sense to me.
And think about it, in the summer if a girl is walking around flaunting her stuff in a bikini and then right next to her there is a girl in jeans and a ski jacket who would you like to approach?
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by Guest » Tue Jan 06, 2009 6:44 pm
hmm cyclical with the seasons...interesting theory...
...i know its a proven fact that women are more aggressive during their menstruation cycle...AND men are more attracted to women who are on their menstrual cycles..something about the hormones/pheromones she releases during this time.
having said that, i dont doubt that women are more aggressive with the seasons..
...i know its a proven fact that women are more aggressive during their menstruation cycle...AND men are more attracted to women who are on their menstrual cycles..something about the hormones/pheromones she releases during this time.
having said that, i dont doubt that women are more aggressive with the seasons..
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by Guest » Tue Jan 06, 2009 11:12 pm
Think I nailed 5 girls last Jan. Then things started slowing down a little. So yah you might be right.
Girls hate to be alone during the major holidays. They have to be around family who will ask. So do you have a boyfriend. Each year passes they hear this and it gets worse and worse.
It's cold outside so naturally there is less stuff going on. This is another reason. And it is the very reason why in the summer it is so much harder to get day2s and such. So many diff activities going on in the summer.
Girls hate to be alone during the major holidays. They have to be around family who will ask. So do you have a boyfriend. Each year passes they hear this and it gets worse and worse.
It's cold outside so naturally there is less stuff going on. This is another reason. And it is the very reason why in the summer it is so much harder to get day2s and such. So many diff activities going on in the summer.
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by Guest » Wed Jan 07, 2009 10:55 am
[quote1231341029=jjdog18]Could it have anything to do with this:
In the spring/summer seasons girls can wear mini skirts, skirts, bikini's and all of those other clothing items that expose max amount of skin so therefor guys are always approaching them and hitting on them. It becomes so common for a hb to be approached that she almost gets annoyed when it happens.
Then in the fall/winter seasons girls have to cover up all of their skin lest they freeze. Guys don't see skin. They don't approach as much. Girls think "why are guys ignoring me" and when a guy finally does approach said girl her insecurity kicks in and tells her "I have to try hard to make sure this guy likes me because guys haven't been talking to me as much".
I don't know.
Maybe I am trying to be smarter than I actually am on this, but it makes sense to me.
And think about it, in the summer if a girl is walking around flaunting her stuff in a bikini and then right next to her there is a girl in jeans and a ski jacket who would you like to approach?[/quote1231341029]
Men are horny regardless of what a chick is wearing. If a girl is hot, she's hot. Further, I would contend that men would be more willing to approach a women in jeans because the guy can't see all of the flaws that have no where to hide when she's wearing a bikini.
To better lay things out this is how I see it:
[b]November through mid-January[/b] - Women are on high alert. It starts in early November because that gives them a few weeks to meet a guy and have a boyfriend over Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving = family which equals questions about your social/personal/love life. Saying you're dating someone deflects A LOT of questions and scrutiny about her and puts it on the beaux (i.e. it goes from why don't you have a boyfriend to what's your boyfriend like, totally different dynamics). Since Christmas is pretty much right around the corner the same thing exists for Christmas. Plus girls want to have someone to buy shit for and someone to buy shit for them, women love the whole gift giving crap. And, society paints you as a bit of a loser if you don't have someone, women are especially sensitive to this.
Then, you have New Year's. Both men and women completely freak out about this holiday. I think more so than Valentines Day for a couple of reasons. People put so much emphasis on welcoming a new year, it's a time for change and new beginnings, who wants to be alone on the first day of a new year? For some people, it really sets the tone for the rest of the year, and since it's an emotional issue women tend to be gripped by it more so than men. Also, no one wants to not have someone to kiss at the new year. Finally, you see anti-Valentine's Day Parties all the time right. When have you ever seen a stag New Year's Party? They exist, but not to the degree as an anti-Valentine's Day Party. Valentine's Day is meant to celebrate love, so it's perfectly acceptable to celebrate not having love. Whereas New Year's just assumes that you'll have someone with you.
During this period, SNLs are high because women are so emotionally charged and in a hurry to establish a relationship. day2s should be high as well.
[b]Mid-January through Spring Break[/b] - Women are no longer on high alert. Usually, they have a beaux of some type because they were so aggressive in the prior period. Usually, the relationship begins to sour as the emotions of the holidays wane. This is a time for break-ups and reflection. Also, women begin looking ahead to the summer. They become less concerned with men and more concerned with planning vacations, getting in shape, and re-grouping from failed relationships.
[b]Spring Break through the beginning of Summer[/b] - Women get back on the aggressive, although not as much as during the Thanksgiving - Valentine's period. They're looking for that Summer Romance. I think of this period as the time in which you get a lot of auditions, but maybe not much more than that. The reason is because women aren't as desperate or emotional as during the holidays so they're more willing to play the field. day2s are high, SNLs are low to moderate.
[b]Summer through September/October[/b] - Women play the field during these months. There's so much shit going on, people are out and about, men are seemingly everywhere, there's no holiday to get them emotional about a [i]relationship[/i], and a fair number of women have found that summer romance that I alluded to earlier. Girls just want to have fun during this time and it gets them emotionally charged, but not for relationships. They're looking for sex and drama and all that shit. SNLs spike, day2s plummet.
[b]September/October to early November[/b] - This appears to be a time of getting prepared for the winter months. People go back to school, workloads tend to get heavier, summer romances are done, you've had your fun now it's time to be a grown up. Women aren't very aggressive at all and there is a real lull in the bar/club scene. Day2s and SNLs are low to moderate. More than likely, you aren't even out and about anyway.
The busiest season should be right now, well we're at the tail end of it now. There will be a lull in the coming weeks that will more than likely last until Spring Break. After that, things heat back up. Then, in summer all bets are off. There's a lot more competition, women know this, but they still want to get their rocks off. Keep that in mind. If you're smart, you can totally use these cycles in your favor...read calibrate properly given the season. Also, understand that if you're in the midst of a lull, it's not necessarily a commentary on your Game at the time. Instead, it's a commentary on the timing of your Game.
See you in the scene.
In the spring/summer seasons girls can wear mini skirts, skirts, bikini's and all of those other clothing items that expose max amount of skin so therefor guys are always approaching them and hitting on them. It becomes so common for a hb to be approached that she almost gets annoyed when it happens.
Then in the fall/winter seasons girls have to cover up all of their skin lest they freeze. Guys don't see skin. They don't approach as much. Girls think "why are guys ignoring me" and when a guy finally does approach said girl her insecurity kicks in and tells her "I have to try hard to make sure this guy likes me because guys haven't been talking to me as much".
I don't know.
Maybe I am trying to be smarter than I actually am on this, but it makes sense to me.
And think about it, in the summer if a girl is walking around flaunting her stuff in a bikini and then right next to her there is a girl in jeans and a ski jacket who would you like to approach?[/quote1231341029]
Men are horny regardless of what a chick is wearing. If a girl is hot, she's hot. Further, I would contend that men would be more willing to approach a women in jeans because the guy can't see all of the flaws that have no where to hide when she's wearing a bikini.
To better lay things out this is how I see it:
[b]November through mid-January[/b] - Women are on high alert. It starts in early November because that gives them a few weeks to meet a guy and have a boyfriend over Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving = family which equals questions about your social/personal/love life. Saying you're dating someone deflects A LOT of questions and scrutiny about her and puts it on the beaux (i.e. it goes from why don't you have a boyfriend to what's your boyfriend like, totally different dynamics). Since Christmas is pretty much right around the corner the same thing exists for Christmas. Plus girls want to have someone to buy shit for and someone to buy shit for them, women love the whole gift giving crap. And, society paints you as a bit of a loser if you don't have someone, women are especially sensitive to this.
Then, you have New Year's. Both men and women completely freak out about this holiday. I think more so than Valentines Day for a couple of reasons. People put so much emphasis on welcoming a new year, it's a time for change and new beginnings, who wants to be alone on the first day of a new year? For some people, it really sets the tone for the rest of the year, and since it's an emotional issue women tend to be gripped by it more so than men. Also, no one wants to not have someone to kiss at the new year. Finally, you see anti-Valentine's Day Parties all the time right. When have you ever seen a stag New Year's Party? They exist, but not to the degree as an anti-Valentine's Day Party. Valentine's Day is meant to celebrate love, so it's perfectly acceptable to celebrate not having love. Whereas New Year's just assumes that you'll have someone with you.
During this period, SNLs are high because women are so emotionally charged and in a hurry to establish a relationship. day2s should be high as well.
[b]Mid-January through Spring Break[/b] - Women are no longer on high alert. Usually, they have a beaux of some type because they were so aggressive in the prior period. Usually, the relationship begins to sour as the emotions of the holidays wane. This is a time for break-ups and reflection. Also, women begin looking ahead to the summer. They become less concerned with men and more concerned with planning vacations, getting in shape, and re-grouping from failed relationships.
[b]Spring Break through the beginning of Summer[/b] - Women get back on the aggressive, although not as much as during the Thanksgiving - Valentine's period. They're looking for that Summer Romance. I think of this period as the time in which you get a lot of auditions, but maybe not much more than that. The reason is because women aren't as desperate or emotional as during the holidays so they're more willing to play the field. day2s are high, SNLs are low to moderate.
[b]Summer through September/October[/b] - Women play the field during these months. There's so much shit going on, people are out and about, men are seemingly everywhere, there's no holiday to get them emotional about a [i]relationship[/i], and a fair number of women have found that summer romance that I alluded to earlier. Girls just want to have fun during this time and it gets them emotionally charged, but not for relationships. They're looking for sex and drama and all that shit. SNLs spike, day2s plummet.
[b]September/October to early November[/b] - This appears to be a time of getting prepared for the winter months. People go back to school, workloads tend to get heavier, summer romances are done, you've had your fun now it's time to be a grown up. Women aren't very aggressive at all and there is a real lull in the bar/club scene. Day2s and SNLs are low to moderate. More than likely, you aren't even out and about anyway.
The busiest season should be right now, well we're at the tail end of it now. There will be a lull in the coming weeks that will more than likely last until Spring Break. After that, things heat back up. Then, in summer all bets are off. There's a lot more competition, women know this, but they still want to get their rocks off. Keep that in mind. If you're smart, you can totally use these cycles in your favor...read calibrate properly given the season. Also, understand that if you're in the midst of a lull, it's not necessarily a commentary on your Game at the time. Instead, it's a commentary on the timing of your Game.
See you in the scene.
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