General Patterns

[Guest]

Game can be complicated. Full of little do-this and do-thats. It's kind of annoying.

PUA has taught me so much about psychology and human interactions that I've start to notice various patterns of successful people. In part because I'm copying down the conversations I see on videos and looking at the dialogue. For some reason I am a very visual learner (then again I am a guy). When I can see things, instead of hearing them, I tend to grasp it a lot better.

I'd just like to share with you some of the very interesting patterns I'm starting to notice in the community.

#1) Never bring up sex directly. Always SUGGEST or INNUENDO. If she EVER brings up sex, never acknowledge it.
DO NOT MAKE A STUPID JOKE ABOUT IT.
[b]The right move is to disqualify yourself. [/b]
I've heard people say that you can turn the tables of sexuality, but I never quite understood how until this concept hit me. Everything explicitly sexual needs to come from her and you need to be unfazed or even slightly annoyed that all she wants is to get in your pants.

#2) Notice what happens to her body language and face immediately after any kino or kino ping.
I have no idea how to exactly calibrate in set without doing this.
AFC Adam London talks a lot about Propinquity and how it relates to Pick-up. Proximity is a form of comfort. Attraction + Comfort = Lay. When you kino ping, there is no possible way to get any closer.
Kino is a sign that you want to get close. If she gives you an IOI: touches her hair, opens up her body language towards you, laughs, then you know what you are doing is working and you should probably be able to escalate further in the Overt/Accident Kino ladder (It's Vin DiCarlo's for anyone who doesn't know). If she responds negatively: most often negative body language, check for girl code especially. Girl code after kino is almost never good, because if she likes you she will look at you, not her friend.

#3) Go silent after a high point. (reserved until you are at least 2-3 minutes into the convo)
Right after she is giggling or you just did that sweet DHV you were practicing. STOP TALKING
Girls who reinitiate know, at least subconsciously, why they want to keep talking to you. If you just proved yourself to be worthy of her, by that DHV or making her laugh, then this would be the BEST time for her to want to keep talking to you.

Anyways, I can only get this much done because I have New Years plans with my family, but I hope this is informative. Happy New Years!

[Guest]

Thanks for this post man, it sounds like you put in quite a bit of effort to pulling this together and that's to be appreciated.

I'll give you my personal perspective on these points, which you can consider if you choose to.

1.) Innuendo is fun, it's great, I love it. I like to think of it kind of like an escalation ladder, like you were saying about kino. Start mild, and get dirtier and dirtier depending on how it's going over.

Never be afraid to talk about sex directly, just know that you have to have hit a certain threshold of trust and attraction before you can do it without being a creep. But if you've passed that point, it is in fact very sexy to a woman.


2. Never look at someone when you touch them, man or woman, unless you're already intimate. If you're thinking about touching when you're touching someone, you're probably being creepy. If you look at your hand when you put it on someone's shoulder, you're a creep. If you look someone directly in the eyes and touch them, it's too aggressive and they will be put off.

3. I agree, but in general I think that saying too much and trying too hard don't help. Keep it cool.