second update

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today was a depressing day...

as ya'll know, me and my "one itis" been having some problems. dispite everything ya'll told me, i pushed on in determination on making it work but 2 days ago, we officially broke up... today, she moved out. i guess i'm back in the game and i'm going to need some help gaining all that i've lost. i need back my confidence, my self esteem, my skills and my LIFE. i have a long road waiting for me now and a full tank of gas to feul my ambition... thanks for being there for me guys

... i dont want to move on... i'm going to eventually have to but i dont want to force it. i want time to heal but i know if i dont try to move on, i'll never heal. 3 years of bullshit turned into a long life of agony. leaving all that behind me is going to be hard but i'll try to tough it out... thanks again

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I could say a lot of things right now about you and your "needing help" right now but I'm just gonna save myself the trouble. I have a headache. Sorry if I'm being harsh, but it seems that you would much rather get pity from an anonymous board of guys you've never met - than advice. You've certainly haven't taken any of the latter seriously. Ciao

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Let this be a lesson to you that you can't MAKE a relationship work out that is not working and dysfunctional -- it's not up to you. You need to work on your inner game before you bother trying to move on to any other relationship.

Here is what I know about you from your past times on the site:

* You are a self described asshole.
* You keep staying in a relationship that seems to only cause you pain.
* Now that the relationship is over, you still don't want to move on from it even though she is.

Really look at yourself. You are choosing these things for yourself -- you are choosing to be unhappy. You need to start learning to choose things that are GOOD for yourself that will make you happy and to start dumping the things out of your life that don't. Until you do you are going to attract the same types of relationships and repeat the same mistakes. I would start taking a good look at what is going on inside yourself because usually this behavior is motivated by unresolved issues from past relationships or family issues growing up. Until you really decide to fix this, it won't matter what we say to you. You can even get really good at picking up women but until you deal with these issues you are not going to be good with relationships.

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wish we could have seen that coming.

It's a new day and we can give you a fresh start.

time to get on topic for this board.

[Guest]

What's done is done bro. It's time to man up.

The best way to 'heal' is to fuck random chicks, no really it is.

Let the smell of a stranger's pussy on your chin distract you from all of the 'pain' this chick has caused you. If it doesn't work, at least you still have pussy on your chin...

Got it?

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today was a depressing day...

as ya'll know, me and my "one itis" been having some problems. dispite everything ya'll told me, i pushed on in determination on making it work but 2 days ago, we officially broke up... today, she moved out. i guess i'm back in the game and i'm going to need some help gaining all that i've lost. i need back my confidence, my self esteem, my skills and my LIFE. i have a long road waiting for me now and a full tank of gas to feul my ambition... thanks for being there for me guys

... i dont want to move on... i'm going to eventually have to but i dont want to force it. i want time to heal but i know if i dont try to move on, i'll never heal. 3 years of bullshit turned into a long life of agony. leaving all that behind me is going to be hard but i'll try to tough it out... thanks again
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I'm going be a big asshole to you, so if you aren't man enough to take it stop reading now! For some reason I'm not convinced that you really get it.

I'd suspect what got you in the position you are is your "lack of confidence, low self esteem, and lack of skills." Some woman just didn't magically steal this from you. You never had it, & thats probably the root cause of why it didn't work out. Nut up to the the table and ask yourself if you ever really had all "that"???!!! Why do you think women are attracted to men that have confidence, skills, and self esteem???....its because a lot of them don't have that themselves. So until you get that, you aren't going to get any woman worth a shit.

And then you make the statement " I don't want to move on"...........you fucking pussy! You are crying about "3 years"......cry me a river. I was with the same woman for 14years when she told me she didn't love me any more and wanted out. I know a couple right now that have been married for 25years and one of them is leaving. You see when you look around, you find that there are people that have it a lot worse than you do.

You have to move on eventually, the sooner you do the easier it is. If you want to turn into a bigger loser, then just sit there and do nothing. Its about self improvement buddy......analyze where you fucked this deal up......and put together a plan to make yourself a better person. Learn from your mistakes.

Its time to get out of your comfort zone you have been living in and figure out how to be an ALPHA MALE. You can start by participating in this forum, instead of just showing up when you want a pitty party.

Here's one more thing to think about because i"m fired up today! In the last year in my journey through PUAhood, I've discovered that PUA isn't about PUSSY, its about male self improvement. Pussy is just a little piece of side candy waiting for you around the corner when you figure out how 2 better yourself. And that my friend is all up to you. And your statement of "i don't want to move on" disgusts me. You don't win games, you don't win races, you don't win the hearts of women, and you will never succeed in life with that kind of attitude.

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[quote1228489222=Bull Run]
What's done is done bro. It's time to man up.

The best way to 'heal' is to fuck random chicks, no really it is.

Let the smell of a stranger's pussy on your chin distract you from all of the 'pain' this chick has caused you. If it doesn't work, at least you still have pussy on your chin...

Got it?
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In the community we like to call this GFTOW. I believe it's probably one of the very first things in the FAQ which you (cj... not BR ;0) ) should go read asap.

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I would normally be able to offer you some really good advice here.

The only problem is everyone has already offered you the best advice you could possibly hear right now.

So all I can now say is: I hope you read this shit that has been written and absorb it. Let it marinate.

If you do so I can pretty much guarantee your pain will be replaced (over time) with pleasures you have only dreamed of in all aspects of your life.

Good Luck

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Its ok to have a day every now and then to not have your head in the game. The important thing is that you get over it and move on in a productive direction.

I've been playing this game all week.

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Jeffy from Real Social Dynamics said to me, in person, that to get good at the game YOU HAVE TO LOVE IT. HAVE TO LOVE IT. If you dont love the game, if you do not want it then all the advice in the world, all the approaches in the world will not help you get the type of social life that you want. It is as simple as this.