by Guest » Wed Dec 03, 2008 8:42 pm
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I have pretty relevant questions in regards to how you guys categorize a woman.
1) Within what amount do you guys mostly find yourselves categorizing a women? 5 seconds? 10 minutes? Third date?
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Well, for me, I'm not the 5-second rule type of guy. I can do a lot of homework from afar (in a non-creepy manner.) I'll watch a girl interact w/ others, body language, and most of all I wait for eye contact flirting. LOVE LOVE LOVE me some eye flirting from across the bar. Watching a chick for like 5 minutes there about can give me a good idea of how to approach her situation. If I had to do it without homework, I'd wager that maybe a 10 min conversation would be enough time to fully calibrate to most of her social boundaries...pure guesstimation...just not how I work.
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2) What exactly are you using for this categorization? Non-verbal communication? Verbal? Both? And what do you look for in each part of communication that puts her in the category?
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Like (I believe) Howie said earlier, actions speak louder than words. For a socially strong and most likely a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality, look for alpha-chick behavior. Others looking to her for approval, leading her chick posse, slow/confident/open body language. When you speak to her, projects her voice...isn't afraid to disagree with you, shit tests EARLY in the convo, etc etc.
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3) If a girl seems to respond to only a certain type of gaming (i.e. Direct or Indirect) do you give her what she wants? If she wants direct, do you give her a little then sort of take it away?
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Push and pull drives so much of what successful guys do. You give her direct, but you also take it away and focus elsewhere. You don't go back and forth between direct/indirect if one isn't working...that would be counter-productive.
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4) What are the most important things to calibrate when you have categorized a girl? and how do you calibrate?
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Energy level, tonality, holding the frame but not being TOO strong/weak-framed, mind your body language, speed at which you escalate, and most importantly of all...if she's...how do I say it...accepting your presence? Not the best use of words, but I think it gets the point across. Some times a chick just doesn't want you around for whatever reason.