I need a buddy.

[Røgue]

I'm pretty new to this thing. I'm a good looking guy but I have a confidence issue. I've read "Double Your Dating" and currently reading "The Game" but I need a friend to hang out with and learn from. I hope to find someone that's been in my shoes and can help me get from AFC to PUA.

I live in Mineral Wells but I'm willing to drive to Dallas to sarge and hangout. I'm a bartender so I only get Mon, Tues and Wed's nights off. I certainly hope someone can help me here. Girls usually think I'm cute already but to be honest...I'm a wuss. Please help.

[Mojo]

You are a bartender. That is a power position women swoon over - an excellent position to learn.

There are some cool guys in Ft Worth (about 45 minutes away from Mineral Wells, yes?) that would be glad to help out.

Cheers,

Mojo

[TheAwakened]

If you haven't already, do a newbie mission or two to boost your confidence.

http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... 6124580572

[Røgue]

Thanx a bunch for both of your input. I kinda tried the "Hi" thing at the mall but was still a lil nervous about it but all the girls at least smiled and said hi back. I think a couple of them kinda expected me to stop and talk but I was a bit too nervous for that.

I chatted up a girl at the Buckle that was cute. She appeared to show some interest, but it was hard to tell since she was the salesgirl and was prolly just being hospitable. I complimented on her good taste when I let her pick out a shirt for me (it really is a cool looking shirt). Still, I didn't go in deeper or attempt a close bcus I'm still being a wuss about it.

I do feel somewhat confident that this summer is going to be one to remember and I'm gungho to becoming a PUA.

[holyskeleton]

my personal opinion is maybe skip "the game" since so many people have read it ( yes including girls) and go straight for the new stuff like the "magic bullet". but thats just me.

on your inner game: look at your own avatar for a good minute, maybe make it bigger, and say to yourself: "THIS is me, the badass." then every time you go out say to yourself, even out loud: "I am the prize."

[Røgue]

Thanx, Holyskeleton. That's probably a great way to bring away from the nice guy and put myself in a different self-prospective. I'll give a shot.

[TheAwakened]

It's funny how our minds make seemingly rational reasons out of falsehoods. One of the main reasons that it took me a few days to be able to cold approach when I first started trying is because I was afraid I'd come off as "creepy". In reality, however, it's probably a lot creepier to start walking up to a girl and then walk away when you start getting close than it is to just sit your ass down.

Also, don't be so hard on yourself. You overcame your fears and chatted up a girl, you should be proud of that instead of putting yourself down for not taking it further. You can't expect to become a pickup master overnight, so the important thing is to be making progress, and it sounds like you are. When I realized that I could make just about anyone smile by making EC and smiling at them, I instantly felt more connected to people; The first day I managed to cold approach, it was almost a religious experience. I didn't get laid or even get a number, but it was still an incredible high.

[holyskeleton]

but it was still an incredible high.

you got high on girls? thats master right there.

[TheDoGhoUse]

my personal opinion is maybe skip "the game" since so many people have read it ( yes including girls) and go straight for the new stuff like the "magic bullet". but thats just me.

on your inner game: look at your own avatar for a good minute, maybe make it bigger, and say to yourself: "THIS is me, the badass." then every time you go out say to yourself, even out loud: "I am the prize."

its definately not an overnight transformation, keep up small things like the HI game and ect and it will slowly transform you from being shy to being confident to take it past HI with strangers. HolySkel is right - the game is a good motivational reader - if you are a quick reader i would get through that and onto Magic Bullets or Mysterys new book on the The Mystery Method. More actual technicals are in both of these books.

[Røgue]

Thx, and I'm almost done with The Game. I have Mystery Method and Magic Bullets and I can't wait to read them. I'm still looking to hang out with a PUA in the area to try to pick up pointers from the real deal. Hopefully gain a friend or two in the process. Thx, guys. =)