One-itis

[Guest]

PP is right and he talks a lot about Inner Game. That's exactly what this is. You control your happiness, don't rely on another to make you feel complete.

There will always be another HB Stacey, but you're the only you you have (that was a lot of you's). I believe that there isn't The One, instead there's the current one, next one, or last one...never just The One.

She was the last one, now go out and find the next one...and when you're fucking her give her a thurst from me :wink:

[quote="PicturePerfect"]If a picture paints a thousand words. Then why can't I paint you?[/quote]

I can paint your face white.

[Guest]

I think it boils down to this: we only want what we can't have.

Just out of curiosity, how long did you see this girl???

Also, remember, as much as you want her back, exclusive relationships get boring fast. She'll get bored with this beta male she chose and end up cheating on him or dumping him. It may be months from now or it could be after they've been married for several years. You never know. Maybe she won't cheat. You just never know.

There's nothing more exciting in life than the thrill of the chase. The game rocks. The faithful, married guys are checked out on life as far as I'm concerned.

She'll always be thinking of you as the guy she really wanted but couldn't get. Meanwhile, the guy who got her is in for some serious boredom, eventually. It's unavoidable with an exclusive relationship. The passion only lasts so long. In the long run, you should realize you are fortunate it isn't you.

Attraction comes and it goes. It's not a choice. When it comes, it comes. Take advantage of it while you can. When it goes, accept it and move on.

Oh, and for what it's worth, I haven't had one-itis since last October. Keep sarging, keep making approaches and keep the harem full with as many whores as you can. I've been doing this for a short while and it seems to be working out ok. But then again, I haven't had a woman leave me for another man, either. Are you SURE there's another guy? She could be manufacturing this guy to make you jealous. One of my current girlfriends recently tried this, I showed no signs of jealousy, in fact, I encouraged her to go fuck this other guy and at the end of the day I realized there was no other guy. She was trying to get me all to herself by making me jealous.

[Guest]

Hey Love,

Hang in there.

You just want something you can't have.
Simple Supply and Demand theory, you (demand) want something only when it is in short or no supply.

And that is what you were suppose to do to her, not her doing it to you.
If you were seeing other girls, you probably were not that crazy about her or that much in love with her.

Don't be needy and play it cool.. she might come back.

[Guest]

It sucks you feel this way over some FB. I can't even imagine your pain if this was some girl you actually liked.

Fill your harem up so this thought never crosses your mind again. One girl leaves and is replaced by another. It helps if you are the one choosing who is replaced. Keep in mind FB's are not going to stay around forever. They will eventually meet a guy who wants to seriously date them. You should want this for them as well. If you are not willing to settle down with them be happy that someone else comes along for them.

Goodluck

[Guest]

Hey guys, I know I'm new here and to the game, but thought i'd share a little bit.

Tonight I think I freed myself from my one-itis. Actually, I think it went further than that. I'm pretty sure I was in love with her. I know at 18 "love" is a bit silly to think about, but there you have it.

Anyways, for about a year we've had an on/off relationship kind of thing going. Lately it seems to have been almost entirely off, punctuated with short periods of fun that just end up getting ruined by fights. But I always did what I could for her. You'd be hard pressed to ever find anything "bad" or "wrong" that I did towards her. I treated her like a princess. But then she would take advantage of me and just use me. She was nice to me when it was convenient. Somedays I was her best friend, somedays I was her lover, and somedays I was just shit to her. It drove me crazy. And tonight, I realized I don't need to take this anymore. I stood up and told her exactly how I felt about it all.

But, even though I know it was the right thing to do, I'm going crazy. I feel miserable inside. I'm starting to really feel like and AFC and wanting to apologize to her, even though I've done NOTHING wrong! Blah. I was hoping maybe a few of you had some words of wisdom or comfort to help me get through all this crap. Thanks guys.

[Guest]

I've found that back in my days before learning about al this stuff, I always had one-itis for the girl I was with... at the time. You only have one-itis until you find someone else and this pretty much always holds true. So yes it feels terrible and horrible and you think about her all the damn time and you want to just fucking forget about her... believe me man been there done that so many times... but as soon as you wake up in the morning with another hot girl in your bed, you forget all about it. You probably think right now "I don't want anyone else, I want her" but believe me that is not true.

You're not over your one-itis. You might say you are to your friends, but one-itis is natural esp. if you guys were going at it for as long as a year. Hell I remember I got one-itis for a girl a while back when I was in summer school or some shit and we knew each other just 3 weeks. Just accept that you'll feel like shit until you hit up some more girls, and use that as motivation.

[Guest]

Once you start pounding a billion other girls she will reside in the back of your memory. Things will get much easier. Then all the sudden she will see how badass you are and start chasing you. Ultimate power.

[Guest]

I had one-it-is with one of my best friends for several years. We even became roommates (platonic) for a time.

Eventually, I just punted and quick talking to her for a year. It hurt her as she thought we were friends. It hurt me to do it however, in the long run, it made me much stronger.

Now we are friends again and she is back in my life. I still act differently around her than I do with other girls for some reason but now that I have a successful dating life, I don't ever think about dating her anymore. Now she is just my friend who I think is hot.

Although I have never really gamed her, lately she has been commenting on all of the women in my life and showing flirting signals when we are hanging out. I am reluctant to even let the thought of dating her cross my mind as I don't want to revert into any bad habits.

The point I am making is that even after all I have learned and the success I have had, I have never gotten over acting different around her. It is going on 8 years........One-it-is is a bitch feeling to have! The only thing you can do is put her out of your mind and date lots of other girls or create a great, serious relationship with girl.

[Guest]

Wow an 8 year one itis. That is crazy.

The question almost becomes to you chance gaming her and ruining your relationship if things go sour. That is a tough call. I would almost side on just remaining friends for the rest of your life. Unless of course she is marriage material then...hrmm...gets even more complicated.

[Guest]

Yup. She is marriage material. Its always been complicated. It doesn't phase me anymore but was a tough lesson to get over.

Anyway, not to hijack the thread. When you know you have one-it-is, you have already ruined your chances at a healthy relationship with the girl, at least for the moment.

Take a step back, get your life in order, date some more and then if you want, come back and try it again when you have your head on straight