by Mojo » Wed Mar 21, 2007 8:04 pm
*Captain Jack's version of ring routine*
I have a short DHV type version and I've created a longer comfort
version that I haven't tested yet in its entirety (it is longer and
is nlp-pattern based).
Here is the shorter version:
In every interaction I try to communicate (at least) the following
3 things to make sex easier...
1. We're both good at keeping secrets
2. When she sees someone that she's attracted to she becomes
sexually aggressive
3. I'm not judgemental
Here's an excerpt from a recent lay report where I think it helped
immensely to allow her to become the aggressor...
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"Did you know that what fingers you have rings on says stuff about
your personality?"
I point to the right pinky ring and say, "that means you are good
at keeping secrets."
HB: "i tell my brother everything."
CJ: "just your brother?" that's ok. that's like a diary, plus he's
family."
CJ: "and your right ring finger, that means when you find the right
person and you're attracted (pointing to myself), you become
sexually aggressive"
HB: "yessssssss!"
Then, I look at my left middle ring and say, "This means I'm not
judgmental."
HB: "mmmmmmm...."
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Here's how I've been doing it lately in A2,C1 or mini-isolation.
I'll look at the HB's hand and say, "hmmm..."
HB: "what? what?"
CJ: "You can tell stuff about people by which fingers they wear
their rings on"
CJ: *look away and go silent - this is to bait her to invest in the
convo*
HB: "tell me!" or "what do mine say???"
Most girls will have at least two to 3 rings on their fingers. This
is all BS but I like to keep the pinky finger the "keeps secrets"
finger and the right ring finger as "sexually aggressive when you
find someone you like" finger then I'll say that the left ring
finger (i.e. marraige finger) means you are sexually submissive
(which makes sense because you DID get married - ha ha).
CJ: "Wearing a ring on your pinky means you are good at keeping
secrets. That's why you pinky swear and why mafia guys wear pinky
rings."
If she doesn't have a pinky ring on I say, "Damn, we'll have to
pinky swear before we share deep secrets..." *smile*
HB: "blah, blah"
CJ: * i'll look at her other ring and it is usually either an index
finger or the right ring finger for some reason * "And, this one
means that when you find someone you are really attracted to
(sneakily pointing to self with my thumb) you feel comfortable
getting sexually aggressive with this person (again pointing to
myself)"
Right here, its important to NOT LET HER TALK. Because she might
try to start qualifying herself as NOT being a slut or being
marriage material or whatever because she thinks you want a prim
and proper girl like that. If SHE does get that out then you are
going to have to go REALLY DEEP in comfort and rapport later (so
don't make it hard on yourself, don't let her make a peep).
So roll right into the last one. Point to one of your rings
(remember it can't be a finger that you've already used on her so
you may need to adjust your ring before this) and say:
"When someone wears a ring on this finger (pointing to your ring)
it means they are NOT judgemental. They don't have all of the
HANG-UPS about life and relationships that most people do."
Then, later throughout the convo when sexual comments start coming
out I (subtly) play with that ring once or twice.
There you go. Please field test and let me know how it goes! And,
as always, feel free to email me with any questions or
observations...