Motivational thoughs of a wannabe PUA.

[Guest]

I've been doing some thinking recently, spurred on by a recent birthday and the year anniversary of my divorce. I've been thinking about life, the community, the work involved, action, and initiative. Upon reflection, I thought I would share some of those thoughts, as maybe, like me, there are men who are encountering the same roadblocks.

I must believe that life is more than stimulation, more than the mindless goings and comings of the herd. Life must be about accomplishment, about confronting a challenge, handling it, and moving on to becoming a better man. I believe that you must know that your better than the challenges ahead of you, so that you can have the confidence to overcome them.

People have their socials, their groups that they hang out with for whatever reason. Maybe you hang out with people at the church, maybe it's your favorite fantasy football league, maybe its your gym buddies, whatever. We need a group that we can go to in times of need, a group of like minded individuals that helps us to believe that there is more to us, than just what we can see. A group that mentor's us, guides us, and pushes us to greater heights.

Having the above two things, the need to improve and a group to help you improve though are only two thirds of the puzzle. The third piece is the initiative, drive, and desire to change. If you want something out of this life, you must go after it, and dedicate yourself to it, no matter what the cost. No one is going to hand you a better body, a better education, or a higher quality girl just because you ask nicely. This is the hardest part for most people, me included.

For me, this is like learning a new type of coding language, or like going to the gym. It takes alot of unspectacular work, often without seeing any results, to finally arrive at your destination. For pickup, the hard part is the repetitive, if only perceived social rejection. Then one day, you look up, and you see that all of a sudden you have some muscle definition, or all of a sudden you have a marketable product, or best of all, all of a sudden your opening sets and escalating without effort.

With that said, I personally think, that the community should be more than just a collection of guys wanting to get some pussy, and while there is nothing wrong with that, it should be more. It should be focused on making better quality men, and the how of becoming a better man. It should be focused less on the inequities of our lives, and more on the nuts and bolts or succeeding in life as a man of value.

If your a member here of this forum, then you've already got step 1 and step 2 nailed. The third step may be a problem, as I know it is for me. However, you have made a commitment to yourself, to test yourself, to push yourself, and not to be like 99% of the other men in this world.

[Guest]

When I first got into this, I had a set of goals that I really wanted to accomplish, and I was able to accomplish all except one. Something happened along the way where my motivations changed. Suddenly what was once important to me about learning this stuff no longer is. Lately the joy I felt for a lot of this has died. I haven't felt truly fulfilled doing this since probably last September. Yes, there are a lot of external life factors contributing to that, and perhaps this is all temporary but it's just how I feel at the moment.

I soldier on anyway, because I have a new set of goals I'd like to accomplish. But these goals are a little more abstract. Top of the list, I would like for my self-esteem and happiness to not be governed so much by my success or failure with woman. Second, I'd like to be more honest and comfortable with the person I truly am, rather than the person I think I have to be. Third, I'd like to hang on to my own moral code. I haven't written about it here, but in the last few months I've been guilty of doing some things I find morally disgusting in the pursuit of this silly game. I don't want to be that kind of person.

I don't know if this is the kind of reply you were expecting, but your post was inspiring. When I put this stuff down in words, it helps me digest and organize my thoughts, even if it's not necessarily beneficial to anyone else.

[Guest]

My time has come and gone in regards to how the community can help me. I used that bitch up like a two dollar hooker. When I joined the community in my mind it was there to serve one purpose, learn how to meet women. I have the utmost respect for it as along the way, at times, I flourished in regards to what my goal was. Along the way though I started figuring out what it really meant to learn game. Yes, the main thing you learn, you should learn, is how to meet women. There was always this underlining tone, if you looked closely and kept your ear to the ground; you would pick up on it. It was more about how to be a man. It was about how to be more attractive to the populace in general. This thing changes you, it molds you into a better you. It takes you at your core, mushing and mashing and plodding and plotting and forms you into this person who you should have been a long time ago.

Like anything in life that is worth having it almost always requires an intense dedication and the ability to see your goal through till the end. Most will not flourish and relish their deepest desires. Most will just live the normal ho hum life that 90% of the population gets to experience. Most people are not willing to sacrifice and do whatever it takes to reach their goal. Most people don't know how to reach their goal. Most people will just sit around and baste in the glory or mediocrity. We, as humans, at least in the time I can remember, are lazy bums who do just enough to get by. I unfortunately have grouped myself with these individuals for good portions of my life. On occasion I break out of the doldrums and bask in the glory of non normalization. Each time I experienced something few of us have, it was through an intense drive to succeed and the belief that if I did what was necessary, I would achieve said goal. Each time it was worth the effort and sacrifice.

I know of my past fortunes and radiant successes, I have the template for success and riches at my fingertips, and yet I do nothing.

[Guest]

All three of us know that we want to achieve, it seems like finding the motivation to do so is the real challenge, no matter what our goals are. It's like Bull Run often states that he would bet on the person who is hungry for success over the person who isn't. I really struggle with this.

Sometimes, instead of thinking about what I will wear out, I just through on a tee and jeans, even though I know I should pay more attention to my looks.

Sometimes, I just can't seem to push myself past the AA that I have and go talk to a beautiful woman. Other times, I can.

It's like I have these states and I really can't get myself in gear and perform. It's probably the most problematic issue I have. On these days, when I find myself like this, I'm like ever other AFC, whether it's with meeting woman or motivating myself to do my best work. Then I have my good days, where I can go talk to anyone and I am charged up and refreshed and ready to go.

I don't really understand what's different in these moments, but as Fuzz stated, I find myself soldiering on.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=playercool;39965]My time has come and gone in regards to how the community can help me. I used that bitch up like a two dollar hooker. When I joined the community in my mind it was there to serve one purpose, learn how to meet women. I have the utmost respect for it as along the way, at times, I flourished in regards to what my goal was. Along the way though I started figuring out what it really meant to learn game. Yes, the main thing you learn, you should learn, is how to meet women. There was always this underlining tone, if you looked closely and kept your ear to the ground; you would pick up on it. It was more about how to be a man. It was about how to be more attractive to the populace in general. This thing changes you, it molds you into a better you. It takes you at your core, mushing and mashing and plodding and plotting and forms you into this person who you should have been a long time ago.

Like anything in life that is worth having it almost always requires an intense dedication and the ability to see your goal through till the end. Most will not flourish and relish their deepest desires. Most will just live the normal ho hum life that 90% of the population gets to experience. Most people are not willing to sacrifice and do whatever it takes to reach their goal. Most people don't know how to reach their goal. Most people will just sit around and baste in the glory or mediocrity. We, as humans, at least in the time I can remember, are lazy bums who do just enough to get by. I unfortunately have grouped myself with these individuals for good portions of my life. On occasion I break out of the doldrums and bask in the glory of non normalization. Each time I experienced something few of us have, it was through an intense drive to succeed and the belief that if I did what was necessary, I would achieve said goal. Each time it was worth the effort and sacrifice.

I know of my past fortunes and radiant successes, I have the template for success and riches at my fingertips, and yet I do nothing.[/QUOTE]

Dude, I like the way you write and I feel what you are saying.

[Guest]

[QUOTE=playercool;39965]My time has come and gone in regards to how the community can help me. I used that bitch up like a two dollar hooker. When I joined the community in my mind it was there to serve one purpose, learn how to meet women. I have the utmost respect for it as along the way, at times, I flourished in regards to what my goal was. Along the way though I started figuring out what it really meant to learn game. Yes, the main thing you learn, you should learn, is how to meet women. There was always this underlining tone, if you looked closely and kept your ear to the ground; you would pick up on it. It was more about how to be a man. It was about how to be more attractive to the populace in general. This thing changes you, it molds you into a better you. It takes you at your core, mushing and mashing and plodding and plotting and forms you into this person who you should have been a long time ago.

Like anything in life that is worth having it almost always requires an intense dedication and the ability to see your goal through till the end. Most will not flourish and relish their deepest desires. Most will just live the normal ho hum life that 90% of the population gets to experience. Most people are not willing to sacrifice and do whatever it takes to reach their goal. Most people don't know how to reach their goal. Most people will just sit around and baste in the glory or mediocrity. We, as humans, at least in the time I can remember, are lazy bums who do just enough to get by. I unfortunately have grouped myself with these individuals for good portions of my life. On occasion I break out of the doldrums and bask in the glory of non normalization. Each time I experienced something few of us have, it was through an intense drive to succeed and the belief that if I did what was necessary, I would achieve said goal. Each time it was worth the effort and sacrifice.

I know of my past fortunes and radiant successes, I have the template for success and riches at my fingertips, and yet I do nothing.[/QUOTE]

I just felt something warm in my shorts after reading that! ;)