Night at Sherlocks feedback needed

[Alger]

For everyone who came with me to Sherlocks on Friday when I was dressed as Hugh Hefner please offer me feedback. I really need to improve my game because despite all my effort I am not getting much results and don't want to keep on doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Feedback is really appreciated and needed.

[Mojo]

The constume is great because you were getting many compliments. It is when they compliment you that you respond. If they walk away before this tell them "come here" in a commanding voice. Tell them to "give Hugh a kiss" and point to the cheek or something. Role play a bit. Do not be self conscious, relax, smile and laugh, have a good time. Just joke around... eventually you just want to say what comes naturally - nothing contrived. Be genuine. Using canned material that is not true as it relates to your life can sabotage this. Being genuine is very important! And especially confident. At the end of the night or next day reflect on what you did right or not so next time you will be better. Just reflecting and being aware of it sends that data to the deep parts of your mind which will better program it to respond natually with good shit. Keeping a blog or diary is a good way to better reflect on the transactions the night before.

As for the transactions last night, being quicker to reply with an expressive face would help. Actually, having an expressive face, whether smiling, frowning, giving the I "am gonna fuck you like a little bad school girl" face, etc is something I see many of the new guys do not do. An expressive face is an interesting face. I've had girls tell me they like how expressive my face can be. Read the end part of viewtopic.php?f=3&t=157

H a v e . a n . e x p r e s s i v e . f a c e . ! .

It shows character. It shows that you are comfortable and more confident in expressing yourself. Even a smile can be express in so many way. It can be a happy smile, a devilish smile, a fake smile, etc. Having a more expressive face when you interact will greatly help your game.

Hope this helps,

Mojo

[Tribulus1000]

I agree with Mojo.

Just to add:
-Talk louder
- Don't be a set stealer
- Smile
-Don't run old routines that guys have heard before on guys. Tell them to girls.
-Be independent. Break away from the pack for a while.
-Be observant. Tag the ones you like and watch them for a good time to approach.
- Don't talk about Game/Pickup in the veune. We have a message board where guys can discuss every aspect of Game/Pickup. We don't need that when we're in the venue.
- Work on those approaches. Crash and burn.

[Alger]

Thanks for all your feedback and definitely agree. Just the only thing that surprised me is about not being a set stealer because I was concious the whole night about not talking to any set that someone was already gaming.

[RockStar]

this is from templeofpoi.com and i think that this mindset will improve your ability to learn to flow in set.

3 Principles of the Temple of Poi Flowology™ Mindset

Principle I: Leave your judgment outside the door.
Learning presents enough challenges without adding the unnecessary weight of self judgment or the negative impact experienced in judging (and being judged by) others. We have witnessed countless students discouraged because they judged themselves. We have experienced dampened creativity when ego driven judgments trample acceptance of Self and Other.
The first principle asks students to embrace learning as a process, understanding that mastering a flow art (much like life) is an ongoing practice rather than a drive thru meal completed as quickly as possible.
Just as adults speak more powerfully at 33 than they could at 3, flow practitioners will build their skills and artistry through lessons and experiences acquired over time.
This principle reminds students to be compassionate with their own learning process and to offer Others the same grace.
As the community embraces this principle, we co-create an open environment where people have the liberty to define their strengths and safety to press beyond past limitations.
By embracing this principle, practitioners choose to focus on creating results instead of judgments, a practice which solidifies and strengthens a foundation artists can draw from and build upon throughout their flow rEvolution.

Principle II: Choose your language consciously, reflecting a positive attitude.
As an example, instead of saying, "I can't do this!" say, "I can't do this yet." By adding the word "yet" to the sentence, students welcome the possibility of eventually learning the move.
Just as Rome was not built in a day, mastery is not acquired in a month.
Even if you forget for a moment that there are empowering choices available, as you remember you can immediately create a positive attitude by laughing at and to yourself even as you support yourself with grace and compassion.
The second principle welcomes challenging experiences whose lessons we use as feedback to facilitate further growth and evolution.
We are reminded to continually choose the "I Can" Mindset. "I Can" focuses on creating as many solutions as are necessary to achieve the desired results, a formula that always creates movement toward defined goals.
Persevere in the face of fear, frustration and low skill to acquire more learnings and you will continue to gain the knowledge required to unlock more complex puzzles and lessons which naturally evolve your artistry to more rewarding places.The beauty in this journey fuels ongoing perseverance as it cycles again and again.
"I can" means limitations beget more creative solutions whose gifts then become valuable resources available in our flow rEvolution.

Principle III: Utilize Self-to-Self comparisons instead of comparing yourself to others.
We can always find someone "better" than we are; we can always find someone "worse" than we are. "Better" and "Worse" judgments often imply "Good" and "Bad" evaluations. "Good" evaluations are temporary ego highs while "Bad" evaluations are, all too often, devastating, pervasive and unnecessary ego lows.
At any point in time, depending on what criteria we choose, we can judge ourselves as both "bad" and "good." Since both are possible all the time, the value typically implied in these judgments equates to meaninglessness.
This principle reminds us that people learn different moves, lessons and skills at different rates with greater and lesser ease. We all have accomplishments and we all have opportunities for growth. This also means nothing.
Rejoicing in the knowledge that everyone's journey is unique unburdens us of expectations that keep us from being in our practice.
This principle offers practitioners the opportunity in each and every moment to remain grounded in our journey by asking questions...
"Did I learn anything new today?"
"Do I know more now than I did last week?"
Each "yes" confirms our progress and affirms our practice

i hope these things help you inyour learning process. remeber you are here to grow past what you were to what you will become. that process can take a long time.


rockstar

[Alger]

I like the statement to tell myself "I can't do this yet" as opposed to "I can't do this." It certainly is a less limiting belief.

I believe there needs to be more wingmen support not in the sense just giving feedback and advice. Obviously that has been very good and has served all of us. In the sense of helping one isolate targets, and giving good introductions. I definitely believe in the principle of who opens a set owns the set.