Dallas PUA

by **Scoundrel** » Sat Oct 17, 2009 8:54 pm

The recent drama has reminded me of something I learned on my RSD bootcamp about AMOGing. If anyone ever insults you how you react to it can be either a DHV or a DLV.

Suppose someone says "wow dude, that is one fucked up shirt." How would you react? By letting it get to you and walk off in a huff? By starting a fight? Both of these reactions would be DLVs.

The best way to handle an insult is by assuming it's a joke. When you do this it actually becomes a joke! And not just to you, but to everyone around including the person trying to insult you. Here's an example;

AMOG: Wow dude, that is one fucked up shirt.

PUA: (smiling) Yeah, I love it! I found it in a second hand store across town. They have tons of great old clothes.

Big DHV. This guy is confident and has high self esteem.

This can also work the other way around. You can actually turn a complement into an insult.

AMOG: Dude! That is a great shirt!

Chode: What's wrong with it?

You can smell the insecurity on that guy. DLV big time.

The way you interpret what someone says has a huge impact on it's meaning to those around you.

by **RockStar** » Sat Oct 17, 2009 9:20 pm

so in light of our recent discussion scoundrel. how is not a flame? you're making refrences to me and others. then using isomorphism to attach dlv's to it. just a thought kitten.

rockstar

by **Scoundrel** » Sat Oct 17, 2009 10:03 pm

I wasn't talking about you or anyone else. I have never tried to insult anyone in this forum. This has all been about the way YOU want to spin it. This isn't a flame because it's NOT ABOUT YOU. However, you have proved my point in this post. If you assume you are being insulted it becomes and insult. This was NOT meant as an insult to you or anyone else. But, if you want to read it that way it's out of my control.

Okay pumpkin.

by **RockStar** » Sat Oct 17, 2009 10:52 pm

Then why bring up what's going on with the other posts kitten? I'm just asking a simple question.

by **Scoundrel** » Sat Oct 17, 2009 11:54 pm

The recent drama got me thinking about insults in general. I believe I said that at the beginning. Once again, this post was not about you. It was never meant to be about you. But, you have chosen to make it about you. I do not understand your reasons for this. I am doing my best to bend over backwards to please you and you still say I am flaming you.

I don't think there is anything I could say that would placate you now. No matter what I say you are going to spin it into an insult. I stand in awe at your creativity and your ability to do this.

by **RockStar** » Sun Oct 18, 2009 12:34 am

then i apologize i just reread your post and if you didn't edit it i am being an ass hole...however i am positive thats not what i read the first time...i could be worng however and in the purpose of civility i will apologize publicly. sorry. if you'd like to debate the weight lifting issue i have our very own thread so we can have it out.

rockstar
by the way i too am in awe of you...good job.

by **Scoundrel** » Sun Oct 18, 2009 1:03 am

I never edit my posts for content. I do sometimes edit to fix typos and misspellings. But, I haven't touched anything in a couple of weeks.

I am grateful for your apology. It takes a real stand up man to admit his mistakes.

by **RockStar** » Sun Oct 18, 2009 3:48 pm

Scoundrel wrote:I never edit my posts for content. I do sometimes edit to fix typos and misspellings. But, I haven't touched anything in a couple of weeks.

I am grateful for your apology. It takes a real stand up man to admit his mistakes.

you're awesome man thanks!

by **Mojo** » Mon Oct 19, 2009 3:02 pm

A powerful way to handle insults if a quick, witty reply does not immediately come to mind is simply ignore it. Do no react. Let the insult bounce off you and continue the conversation. It is a DHV is you show you are not phased by such an attack. If the AMOG tries the same insult again (usually in a louder voice) it is a DLV for he is trying to gain your attention while you ignore him.

For example, I approached THE hottest girl in the bar. At the time two guys were gaming her. I came in, blew one out with one AMOG remaining. Later, he had found out my opener was canned and said to me "That's pathetic"

Mojo: no response, talk to girl
AMOG: "That's Pathetic" in a louder voice
Mojo: ignore and talk to girl
AMOG: "THATS PATHETIC" pratically screaming
Mojo: ignoreeroo the amogoo

At this point he had totalled DLV while me not being phased wasa total DHV. After this it was a total 180, the Amog was now trying to get my approval! Telling me about his investments in this or bragging about that. At that point I used this from TD:

Mojo: Dood, I already like you, you don't have to impress me.

At this point he was TOTALLY blown out but did not realize it. Shortly after I communicated to the HB that I wanted to leave by using my eyes to motion to the door. She told the Amog that we had to go. Poor guy didnt know what hit him as the HB left with me.

Nice to let the girl nail the last spike in the amog-coffin.

Dallas PUA

How to handle an insult in the field.

Re: How to handle an insult in the field.

Re: How to handle an insult in the field.

Re: How to handle an insult in the field.

Re: How to handle an insult in the field.

Re: How to handle an insult in the field.

Re: How to handle an insult in the field.

Re: How to handle an insult in the field.

Re: How to handle an insult in the field.

Dallas PUA

Who is online