The SOI

[Tribulus1000]

Statement of Intent / Statement of Interest

I was doing this alot last year and was semi-successful with it. I didn't really know I was doing it. I was coming at it from a Gunwitch/MM approach.
I would pull girls in and say "I'm very forward" or "I want to do X to you." It would be done with the sexual state stuff Gunwitch talked about (SECT).

In most cases, I knew she liked me so it was totally cool.

Juggler talked about this a long ass time ago and I'm kinda embarrased to not know about it or how useful a concept it is.

Its basically telling her "I want you." or "Here's what I want to do". If she goes along with it, you're in. If she doesn't, you just switch back to normal conversation. Seems like you can be either very agressive with these or it can be more of an excuse.

I "rediscovered" the SOI because of a recent sticking point where I was talking to this HB that I've known for a while. She was at Xbar sitting alone, facing outward and basically wanted some attention. Anyhow..... that's it.

I feel this SOI thing has its place. A well placed SOI can be very effective.

Something like "Let's go back to my place and have some real drinks".

or more agressive "I'd tear you clothes off and f*ck you right now if all these people weren't here..."

Something like that.

Do you guys use these?

[Scoundrel]

I have used this kind of thing from time to time. The trick is you have to say what you want from a dominant frame. You have to not care if she says no. It can be tricky, but it can also give you fantastic results. Like getting a blowjob in the men's room.

[Tribulus1000]

That's awesome. I would not say that I'm an expert on this by any stretch of the imagination.
I'm still learning. I try this or that, I work on my sticking points, etc.

What I was able to see is when one would attempt an SOI, especially an overtly sexual one...
If you go from meet to about 10-15 minutes and its obvious that she likes you and finds you attractive then its perfectly normal to show your interest in her.

An amateur will not recognize the signs and proceed with more cocky and funny, takeaways and other nonsense like small talk.

The right moment to do an SOI can't really be written down here. OK, this is something guys should experiment with.

Read Juggler's definition and how to's on this subject if this is something you want to integrate into your own style.

A good SOI gives a sexual indicator of interest, it tells WHAT you're going to do to her and its something that she would agree with.

It can be blantantly sexual or imply it.

"Let's go back to my place for coffee." or "Wanna come up?"

Think of when a chick says something like that. We all know what it means. Unless you're a nob, in which case nothing will ever help you. No offense.

T

[Scoundrel]

Yeah, they all just want a real man to bend them over and make them scream.

I'm no expert either. But, sometimes everything just falls into place and you get lucky.