Lost Emotional Momentum... Help

[Matador99]

I go to brunch every Sunday at Latous on Henderson by Katy Trail... 2 Sundays ago a 9 walks in and sits on the porch facing me while this older gentleman I assume is her dad joins and sits at an angle that he can not see me.

I had to get this enchantress attention, conveniently I received a 9' X 4' promotional card with a blank back with my check... I wrote on the back of the card a simple line... "I find you sexy but I can't tell you that cause you are with your dad!"... and placed it so she could see it and the smile across my face! She was pleasantly surprised, blushing and all! I knew it was a direct HIGH RISK HIGH REWARD approach but I was just living the moment. I then wrote on the card "Restroom 5 min!" ... waited a min put a few bills for a tip and went inside to the restroom she met me there 2 min later. She expressed her interest but said she couldn't talk for obvious reasons... Gave me her number and we parted ways.

Hour later I txt her... "Nice having brunch with you... we'll have to do it again sometime!" She txt me back 9pm that night but I was knocked out on my couch from mountain biking all day and didn't get the message till Monday morning. I just moved here to Dallas via Cleveland and have been getting everything on track with work and lost track of this Enchantress! Anyways, I text her Tuesday "What are you wearing?" Now I'm second guessing this move... no return txt... Thursday I call and voice mail is full... I let it go after that...

Are there any suggestions out there on how I may reconnect with this gal?!

[Muk]

you've talked to her two minutes and already asking what she's wearing? You're a creep, you're never going to get rid of that stigma, forget about about her.

[sparks]

Muk, Never? Like ever? How specifically does asking a girl what she is wearing make you a creep? The girl might think you are a creep and she might not. How do you know what she thinks, how she feels? The absolute reality is that we don't know...right?

[Muk]

yep, I have the ability to tell what she thinks and will always think even though I don't know anything about her or their interaction. seriously, All I can do is come up with an opinion based on the little little information I have. common sense says that it's a bad idea to ask questions like that after what seems to be a quick 2 minute conversation.

[sparks]

I absolutely agree.

[Matador99]

You're right!

[Dubb]

That's awesome Matador. I've used stuff like that. (tic-tac-toe to a waiter is my favorite) From my understanding of the situation she is either blowing you off or chickened out. There aren't that many dudes that are bold enough to do stuff like that so I'm guessing it's the 2nd. I've found it takes a certain type of girl to respond to that type of attention, if that makes sense. I've had some that respond to texts like that, but others that freak out and wouldn't know what to do.

Obviously I don't know what she's thinking, but I've learned it's much easier to just delete the number and move on. Worst case, you never meet her again and move on...but it's happened where they do call a week, month, 2 months, whatever later and it'd be a lot better if you haven't been fantasizing about only her for that whole time so you don't seem so desperate.

Just my opinion, take it as you will...but from experience it's much easier and more fun to work on the next sarge if you don't get what you want from the last. Easier said than done though.

-Dubb

[Wolfpack]

In response to the tic tac toe routine, I've used the "fill in the blank" method if flirting with a waitress has seemed promising. Now, you DO have to make sure that you're not getting the Hooters/Twin Peaks brand of flirting.

Once you get the name, just write on a napkin:

Tonya
(_ _ _) _ _ _ - _ _ _ _

and slide it inside the checkbook thing with your credit card. If it blows up in your face, never eat there again...problem solved

[tx_troy]

Mat,
I agree on everthing you did. You initiated, followed up, and made a final attempt. She cut the cord buddy, not you. Let it go and work on finding another. Remember it's way to easy to get hung up and get your mind f'd up with thinking about what if...It's a law of averages, just like sales. You (we) all get better with repetition, and the more you to attempt, the more you'll close.
Great intiating btw, bro!