Fist number close in 4 months

[jast]

So after a week "Jast Strikes Back"

I have seen her a few times in SB and she allways seems happy to see me and she goes a little out of her way to talk to me so I texted her

Me: Hey there girly. How is my third favorite barista doing?

Her: Pretty well. And my tird fav regular?

Me: You know I am your Favorite regular, and the most fun. I am doing good just got a call from the shop my bike will be ready to torch the roads soon.

Her:Yay, that was faster than expected...

Me: I know people ,So what have you been doing? I have been training really hard Won mt first 2 matchs last weekend.

Her:Nice! sorry for the delayed responses.. I am at work my life lately....

Me : Sounds like you need to get out and have some fun. I will hit you up later have a good one girly. I am going to have to come up with a nick name for you.

Her:Hmmm. I dunno on that one...

That’s it so far I was trying to think of a good nick name for her. I think it went a little better but I am still shacking off the rust so any feed back would be great.

Other info
1 I do MMA I won 2 fights last week at my dojo
2 Some one tried to steal my bike so it is in the shop to get fixed.

[Bull Run]

You posted to get our opinion, so here it is:

So after a week "Jast Strikes Back"

I have seen her a few times in SB and she allways seems happy to see me and she goes a little out of her way to talk to me so I texted her

I think you texted her too soon. A week isn't nearly enough time to subcommunicate that you're busy and don't need to talk with her. I think it better if you wanted for her to re-engage.

Also, since you see her in person why didn't you try to game her then? Doing it via text when you see her regularly subcommunicates that you're not confident enough to speak to her in person.

Me: Hey there girly. How is my third favorite barista doing?

Her: Pretty well. And my tird fav regular?

Me: You know I am your Favorite regular, and the most fun. I am doing good just got a call from the shop my bike will be ready to torch the roads soon.

Good opener. But, when she mirrored your response you jumped through her hoop. I don't think she shit tested you but I think you're answer came of as you qualifying to her and you supplicating to her.

Me: I know people ,So what have you been doing? I have been training really hard Won mt first 2 matchs last weekend.

Her:Nice! sorry for the delayed responses.. I am at work my life lately....

Two attempts at DHV in one string. One DHV in a text string is too much. You just sort of came off sounding conceded: I know people and talking about your victories. This won't impress women, no offense. DHVs should be subtle or shown, not specifically mentioned. Anyway, texts are supposed to be fun and casual, not serious conversation. Try something sexual and crazy as a response:

Jast: Yeah, it cost me a lot of sexual favors...but I'm good at them and all the girls at the shop reminded me of my mom

That response will take the conversation to an entirely different place! It will take her out of the world of informative conversation, boring, into the world of craziness and fun where anything is possible. Seriously, this is how women think!

Me : Sounds like you need to get out and have some fun. I will hit you up later have a good one girly. I am going to have to come up with a nick name for you.

Shorten in up:

Jast: U need to have some fun, quick get some bubble wrap, whipped cream, and a stuffed bear...then go to town!

This will take the conversation to another place, is memorable, and pulls her out of the ordinary.

As for the nickname, simply start calling her whatever nickname you see fit. Don't give her a choice and don't telegraph your move because she's going to block it just like she did below:

Her:Hmmm. I dunno on that one...

[jast]

Thanks for the info Bull Run. Once I read you comments I wanted to hit my self such rookie mistakes man.

[Guest]

I agree with bull run
often times saying something about your complishments isnt a good idea
depends on the women you talk they will see it as conceited, boring or
My advice is "hint" it instead
like text her say "me n my buddies are juggling some chainsaws or wresting with the Whale"
or make up your own ezy
she'll ask what do you mean
"oh i'm in a gym training for the matches"

just by her "asking" you and being interested in it
will not show as bragging to her

But my idea for this girl entirely it seems like a lost cost
because assuming she's very hot and gets number all the time from guys and also she "works" all the time
shes the type of girl who gradually lose interest fast unless:
1. Go instant dates the moment you got her fone number.
be like hey lets go do this right now or tonite. Because building a time bridge will give her the opportunities to gradually lose interest. its not your fault but its her mindest naturlly built by society n because of above reasons
2. Texting them out of the blue with the best lines then make "yourself" the one who doesnt reply back to her texts!!! (often times this is powerful itself) have a good reason to back it up: be like oops my ex just called or etc she wanted her cds back hehehe etc make up your own
3. Social proof yourself when you meet her in her work place
bring a pivot or two
or female friends, pawns, wings etc

will tell you more sorry brotha i just joined forum
just got here from california
n checking out everything etc

[Guest]

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Me: Are you free or are you still working for the coffee goddess?
Her: HAHAHA No I am waiting to get my hair done
Me: Getting your hair done that is the classic blow of you can do better then that, but then again you will miss out on all the fun.
Her: LOL no really I am her waiting to get it cut
Me: That sounds really dull,

I figured if she was waiting I would call her so I did I got no answer so I left her a message.

Me: I guess you getting your hair cut now and are talking to the hair dress about what ever girls talk about. Go ahead and give me a call talk to you later.
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Some quick thoughts...

The first inital meeitng / bike part was fine. Why would you say "That is a classic blow off". This is absolutely the worst thing you can say. Just be like "What are you changing the hair to?" or whatever. Don't be an ass and make it awkward.

Don't leave messages EVER with girls unless you have fucked them. This is needy. Wait for them to call back. Believe me they have caller id figured out.

You got attraction initially though so that is good. Keep working on it.

[Guest]

Thanks for all the pointers on this one guys I have learned alot. At this point I am going to NEXT this one I get the feeling that it would be just too much work to get her and it just is not worth it. Still I kind of want to text her the line from Bull Run " [i] [color=#ff0000]U need to have some fun, quick get some bubble wrap, whipped cream, and a stuffed bear...then go to town[/color][/i]! " just to see what happends maybe I will do that later on just to see.

[Guest]

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Thanks for all the pointers on this one guys I have learned alot. At this point I am going to NEXT this one I get the feeling that it would be just too much work to get her and it just is not worth it.[/quote1209137776]

dont forget that it is ok to have girl friends. if you're not going to plow with this chick on a dating or sexual level keep her around as a friend. build your social circle. not every hot girl has to be someone you should sleep with. think of her as someone who can introduce you to [i]other[/i] hot girls you can sleep with.

[greenboy]

fist number close lol, that must have been interesting!

[Westfall]

fist number close lol, that must have been interesting!

lol I remember my first number close after I got into the community....

I'd gotten #-s before but only as a result of countless HORRIBLY AFC approaches. Now I get lots of #s....I got 30 #s in one week in fact.

It gets better.

WF