The Classic Cold Reading by Neo Rio (mASF repost)

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Date Posted: 2002/04/27 10:45:00 PM EDT
Author: Neo-Rio <unknown email address>
Subject: The Classic Reading

Here is some information on doing Cold Readings for beginners (I have some
more advanced stuff here that uses sleight of hand, but I'll send that to
the Lounge cause it is real advanced and powerful mentalism stuff.)

This beginners guide to cold readings uses a set of phrases which form the
basis of "The Classic Reading" (which is what I found in the skeptic's
dictionary). In fact, in the foreward of this book that I am reading on it,
the author states that he in fact used it to pick up women.

One of his most memorable moments doing it, was when he approached a group
set of women, and got blocked by the female alpha and skeptic. When the
author approached another group set and won all the ladies over, he found
himself chased by the skeptic! (Social proof overriding a woman's belief!
WOW!). It's not hard then, to see why the author loves what he does, and
particularly angles his readings to women.

It's not hard at all then to see how aspects of cold readings can be
interfaced into seductions. Here goes:

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THE CLASSIC READING

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- The Classic reading has 80% effectiveness in getting people to agree that
it is quite accurate.
- The simple needs of money, health and love are universal.
- First, you must really like people. If you have something to prove, if you
like to insult people, or if you just want to show off that you have some
special ability, get lost.
- You can't fool ANY of the people ANY of the time in readings. People can
spot a fake really easily. Sincerity can't be faked.
- Tell the lady what she wants to hear. Period. If she is a skepdic and
wants some comedy give her a comical reading. If she is getting really
serious, lay it on thick.
- The first step is to believe in what you are doing. If you take yourself
seriously, so will your target.
- Ladies don't want comedy, they want *romance*. Saying something like "On
your plam, I'm reading your clothes-line, and I see that you have a large
wardrobe!" is going to entertain, but not impress.
- By showing some up front modesty first, you diffuse possible skeptics. You
make no outlandish claims of your ability. Just read her character and
deliver the info. Be non-confrontational and smiling.
- Set the target up to do the work. Encourage them to find meanings in what
you give back. Say things like "I only see pieces of the puzzle, it's for
you to put them together". The better her mental images, the longer she will
recall and better validate your statements.
- Be a good listener. Often a target will pour herself out because she is
lonely and wants you to listen to her. (You MUST really like people, as
noted before). Feed what she is saying back to you.
- If you can, use a prop to distract attention - such as crystals and a
persons "aura". Palm reading, etc. Use the props (such as gazing into the
crystal) to stall for a while as you think of the next thing to say.
- When you appear to make the reading appear unique to that particular
person, your credibility goes up.
- Be observant of your targets reactions. Both to your statements and the
physical evidence. Note what she wears and how she acts etc. When in a group
set of women, *watch her friends' reactions* for what to tell her.
- Use lots of graphic detail in your readings. (e.g. "I see someone sitting
on the edge of the dark Cave of Eternity" is a lot more romantic and
dramatic than "You were once quite lonely" or whatever). Use pattern
language.
- Don't tell them everything you know, or at least allow your client to
believe that you know more than you are prepared to disclose. Keep them
coming back and gives you the reputation of in one whom confidence can be
placed.
- Cold readings come close to fortune telling and many places have
ordinances to restrict it. ALWAYS use a disclaimer. Say something like "If
you have a medical problem, see a doctor, if you have a legal concern,
consult an attorney; if you have a financial concern, see a financial
advisor. We are dealing with the matters of the inner self here"
- If you deal with a large cross section of humanity. Sooner or later you
will come across someone who has real problems, serious ones which require
greater skills than you are likely to possess. Don't be an amateur
psychologist. Some clients will accept anything you say as truth. Play it
safe and suggest they get professional counselling.
- If you are surrounded by women and you are trying to recycle the classic
reading and make it special for each and every one of them - mix and match
the order of the phrases, as each phrase stands alone. Begin the second
reading reversed in content for example. Instead of "You have a strong need
for other people to like you and for them to admire you." try "You are an
independant person who is very selective in choosing lifelong friends. Often
you don't care about what others think of you."

* The following parts of the classic reading give expansions on the original
phrases
Ones marked with a (+) are tangents that you go on when you receive a
positive response. (-) ones are ones you use when you get a negative
response or no response at all. {Or I suppose you could say that "The
channels are blocked today" or some excuse like that!}

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You have a strong need for other people to like you and for them to admire
you.

(+) Many times you will "go along" just to avoid a
confrontation, After a disagreement, you will often be the
first to apologize. even though it isn't necessary or required
on your part.
(-) But you shouldn't become disappointed when others take
only a surface impression of you; you have facets of your
personality of which very few others have been allowed a
glimpse. You value your privacy more than most.

You have a tendency to be critical of yourself.

(+) You are frequently your own worst enemy, always
searching for imperfections with yourself. It seems you are
not happy unless you are finding fault with your
appearance. your behavior. or your attitudes. Sometimes
this spills over into your evaluation of others. People
disappoint you because you try to hold them to the same
high standards which you set for yourself.
(-) This is not a self-destructive criticism. but is instead a
form of positive reinforcement. You, more than anyone, are
aware of your past failings but you have also learned great
lessons from them You know where your weaknesses are
and you can fortify them. You don't allow those little
imperfections to weigh you down. More importantly, you
are aware of your strengths and have learned to amplify
them. You are an optimist; your glass is always half-full.
never half-empty.

You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your
advantage.

(+) You have an inclination to procrastinate. That is not all
bad - many times you will turn a problem over in your
mind, examining in from all aspects, then put it away -
ignoring it until the deadline for action grows closer. Then,
usually in the middle of the night, your subconcious will
deliver the perfect solution. Right out of the blue.
(-) Sometimes you feel at the limit of your resourcefulness,
stretched until you are at the breaking point. You have a
difficulty in saying "no" when others ask for your help and
often find yourself with too full a plate. You would be better
served if you learned to be more forceful when others make
demands on that one, irreplaceable commodity; your time.

While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to
compensate for them

(+) You are a survivor, always concealing your "hole card."
keeping something in reserve. You often allow people to
underestimate you, not feeling comfortable with the raised
expectations of others. You have cultivated the ability to
"land on your feet."
(-) Lately you have been more willing to confront those inner
traits and the shell of denial has been cracked. If you are not
careful, you can allow yourself to refocus upon those
imperfections, often forcing aside other, more productive
attitudes. You have a great deal to offer the world if only
you learn to recognize it in yourself. You are more capable
than you think.

Your sexual adjustment has presented some problems for you.

(+) As a child you probably felt you were ready for your first
- dalliance - a little ahead of most of your contemporaries,
You have, over time, come to grips with your inner feelings
and are now in better control of your emotions. You are
much more comfortable with your sexuality now.
(-) The best description for you might be "late bloomer."
Other, more sexually precocious friends seemed to take the
lead. As a young woman you felt within a white-hot,
searing cauldron of emotion for which you could not find
suitable release. I see you now as someone to whom a hug
or a close embrace can be as fulfilling as something more
active .

Disciplined and controlled on the outside, you tend to be worrisome and
insecure on the
inside.

(+) I can see you tossing and turning, running over past
mistakes and future uncertainties when you should be
sleeping. Leave the past in the past. Learn from it but focus
yourself forward. Concentrate upon your strengths and
abilities. You see so many problems and obstacles, most of
which never develop. Take time to smell the roses.
(-) You have maintained the external appearance of calm and
poise for so long that many of those attitudes have become
automatic. It is that very attention to detail which has
contributed to your success. Be wary of developing an
impenetrable exterior; it keeps danger out, but also keeps
you bottled up within.

At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right
decision or done the right thing.

(+) You must keep in mind that others place great faith in
you and your abilities and wouldn't have made that
investment if you weren't ready for the challenge.
(-) Usually those doubts manifest themselves in second
thoughts and "what if's." You are so goal-oriented that you
are constantly searching for some way to improve your
performance.

You prefer a certain amount of change and variety, and become dissatisfied
when hemmed
in by restrictions and limitations.

(+) The bureaucratic attitude infuriates you; you have little
patience with those who just "get by."
(-) That doesn't mean you are wildly experimental. however
"A place for everything and everything in its place" could
still apply to you.

You pride yourself on being an independent thinker and do not accept others'
opinions
without satisfactory proof.

(+) And the proof has to be on your terms, not just formula
and hypothesis. The understanding must come from within.
Fast talking, slick sales pitches turn you off.
(-) You have, however, proven to have an open minded
attitude. You are willing to listen to what other people have
to say before making your decision.

You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others.

(+) In the past you were hurt because others did not keep the
confidences you have shared. As a result you are very
careful in personal relationships when it comes to secrets.
(-) By the same token, you are a person who, if trusted with
secret information, will carry that confidence to your grave.
Earning and keeping trust is very important to you.

At times you are extroverted, affable, sociable, while at other times you
are introverted,
wary, and reserved

(+) Your mood seems to swing depending upon the
reactions of those around you. You are extremely sensitive
to your social environment.
(-) You do your best to make others comfortable by
mirroring the emotions and attitudes which others display.
On the inside you remain pretty much on the straight and
narrow. You know who you are.

Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic.

(+) You have a well developed imagination; if you are not
careful you can lose yourself in fantasy. Often you tend to
look at things the way they "should be" rather than the way
they really are.
(-) Fortunately. you are a person who has learned her
strengths and limitations; you seldom take on a project
which you aren't sure you can complete. You prefer to taste
in your mind the fruit of the tree before you plant the seed.

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In conclusion:-

- The Classic reading ends with a negative phrase ("your aspirations being
unrealistic"). To counteract this, always end your reading in an upbeat,
encouraging summary. These act to your target as self-fulfilling prophecies
in their own mind. Too often in life we hear of negatives. A target should
be told that she CAN suceed and that she CAN do well. All she has to do is
to "TURN THAT CORNER" [Or I guess, to create an opening for new
directions...!]

- When you need filler matierial, use your own experience as a model. Not
only is it good therapy for you, but it will be recognised by a target as
"coming from the heart". Divulge your feelings using her perspective.
Disclose some of your secret fears, failure, success, or mediocrity - based
from the reading [This appears to me to be a way of feeding back values as
they relate to her - and mirroring her values and linking them to yourself!]

- Caution your targets who you read that, although the goals they want to
achieve are within their reach, THEY MUST MAKE THE EFFORT to get them.
(e.g. "If you have come to me for answers, you are wasting your time. I
don't have the solution to your problems. YOU DO. There is nothing magic
about this reading. I will merely point out your strengths which have been
forgotten, your abilities that you have aquired, and your options which have
been obscured. Consider this reading as your flashlight. It will pierce the
darkness and illuminate the path, but you must still walk this path
yourself.")

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