Myspace/Facebook/Social Network Game

[Finesse]

Me: Are you a typical Dallas Girl?

Her: what is that?


Me: Nevermind judging by your pictures and your affinity for poles in your living room and stop sign poles, i'd say thats a no you aren't a typical Dallas girl. Haha Good!

One of my ex's was a "Dallas Girl". All beauty, no brains, no sense of humor, and daddy pays for everything.

You seem as if you have a good sense of humor about you.

Whats your story?

Her: hahah oh so that is a "dallas girl". Yeah i wouldn't classify myself as that at all. I love good times though! Umm my story, i grew up in Plano, well at least till i was 13 and then moved to Austin, and then graduated and came to Utah for a soccer scholarship. So now that where i am, until i finish school at least, and then who knows. What about you?

Me: No no, im not talking about what youre doing I'm talking about What makes you, you. What makes you tick?

For instance, I am in the process of becoming an attorney because I like fighting the system, I like to find loop holes in things and expose them.


Her: umm i don't know if that is something i can pin point. Well i work at an architect firm as a drafter. but thats not what i initially wanted to do. I was going into interior design, and fell upon the drafting. I took one class and i was hooked. I love the ability to be creative with in limits. Interior design is extremely creative, but there is no limit as to what you can do. I can still have that creativity, but of course i have to stay with in codes, and safety guides. Its weird, i have been thinking about why i love it so much, and thinking back, i have always been facinated by buildings. For some strange reason, i have tons of memories of seeing unique buildings, even if the memory was simply driving by it. Weird..... anyways, as far as my career thats what makes me tick. but, every one has multple things that make them who they are, its only one aspect about me. tell me more about you.

Me: Wow, I forgot how hectic the holidays can be.

Well, lets do this instead, lets play a game.

Its a cross between truth and dare, except without the dare because, lets face it we just met and I don't know how weird you are yet, and 20 questions.

There are 3 rules,

1. We ask each other questions alternately, and the questions can't be ordinary, "What do you do?" type stuff.

2. The question has to be something that would bring a skeleton out of the closet like, "Does penis size matter?" and NO you can't use that.

and 3. You go first.

Her: hahahha umm wow. i don't even think i would ask that question. but ok... anyways. What flavor of popsicle would you be and why?

Me: I would be either a dreamsicle or root beer.

I chose the dreamsicle because I think I have a side that only people who invest time into me get to see.... I dont wear most of my emotions on my sleeve you know? What about you?

And my question is....

How many boyfriends have you had?

Her: I am preyty expressive with my emotions, but i tend to take things upon myself and keep thoughts to mysself. I figure i know i can deal with it, and why should i bother people with stuff. anyways.... I would be the one with the mulitple colors on it because its fun and colorful, but is still delicious. to answer your question i have had 4 boyfriends And yourself?
my next question is , in the spirit of the holidays, what is your favorite holiday?


Me: I've had approximately 0 boy friends.

I like New Years! haha one big party!

Have you ever experienced attraction for someone who wasn't even your type? Like, I mean, I've seen these women with hideous guys, and wondered, "What is going on." but have you ever experienced that?

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Alright guys, I decided to post this interaction up on the boards for review and critique and possible learning.

This is a conversation I have been having with a random girl that I met off a networking site, I do not know her, but she is from the DFW area. Completely cold approach.

As far as looks this girl is about a 7. (I have a picture if you want to email me for it.)

You may recognize a few things that I am starting to practice on, Compliance over text, NLP patterns and such. I'll keep ya'll posted on how the interaction goes.

[Vector]

Masterful.

I think a lot of guys take screening (or what they think is screening) too far and sometimes give off a vibe of "hello, are you worth my time?" which comes off as presumptuous and thereby turns a girl off. Also I think some girls see it as an act, trying to pretend to be important.

I mention that because I think in contrast, your screening is just right. You actively establish that she can't assume you're interested, but you're not beating her over the head with it.

Also very good was rejecting her answer regarding what she was doing and asking her what makes her her. She'll give the dry, factual, impersonal answer out of habit but you need to get to the real substance to build a connection. And demonstrating that you care about that (not to mention that you know the difference) is a very good quality. I think this transition to the personal (or even intimate, in a non-sexual sense) is one thing you may want to increase in your bar/club game.

Excellent work.

[Finesse]

Masterful.

I think a lot of guys take screening (or what they think is screening) too far and sometimes give off a vibe of "hello, are you worth my time?" which comes off as presumptuous and thereby turns a girl off. Also I think some girls see it as an act, trying to pretend to be important.

I mention that because I think in contrast, your screening is just right. You actively establish that she can't assume you're interested, but you're not beating her over the head with it.

Also very good was rejecting her answer regarding what she was doing and asking her what makes her her. She'll give the dry, factual, impersonal answer out of habit but you need to get to the real substance to build a connection. And demonstrating that you care about that (not to mention that you know the difference) is a very good quality. I think this transition to the personal (or even intimate, in a non-sexual sense) is one thing you may want to increase in your bar/club game.

Excellent work.

Thank you.

[Finesse]

I actually got to looking at the convo, and I noticed that at the end I am sort of skipping the rapport building process a little bit, When she brings something thats really deep into the conversation, I am not rewarding her enough. I will change that upon next message if it isnt too late.

[Smirks]

Fin,

I gotta say...I loosely followed your little outline here...and it worked flawlessly on the 1st one. Well played, sir.

[playercool]

Very nice...

I really like the initial question because she instantly has to qualify herself. Just from the sense of not wanting to sound like something she isn't she will answer the question or at least answer with the question that she did.

[Finesse]

I am in the process of a few more interactions using the exact same things. Ill post the results soon.

[Westfall]

I am in the process of a few more interactions using the exact same things. Ill post the results soon.

Fin

For obvious reasons, I have an interest in gaming girls over the Facebooky. I want some thoughts on fixing up my profile and also on msging girls that are my type on there. What are some good general thoughts? add the girl as a friend and message or just msg?

Also anywho who wants to add me, Im on Facebooky as "Lord Westfall"

Westfally

p.s. I've discovered words become more cuter if you put a 'y' at the end of them.

[Finesse]

*yoink*

As far as pointers man, I can tell you what I have noticed. I have met a handful of girls off meeting them online first.... as a matter of fact when I was younger, (15 to 21) if I didnt meet my girlfriend through work then I met them online. I estimate about 7 girls I have met online and then met in public.

Dont try and add them. Just message them. After a little while of good conversation go ahead and add them as a friend.

The most important thing that I think and believe women want is safety when potentially meeting someone over the net. Which means you CANNOT at any point creep them out. Do not push the sexual envelope until you have clear signs that she would like you too. Notice I said signs. They will try and trick you. Don't tease them about it just ignore it. Just like IOI's when you get 3.... then proceed to next level.

Build comfort first, but be interesting. Connect with them on some level.

Once you continue to this on a regular basis, come back, post your interactions I'll tell you how I would try schedule a meet up.

**edit**
Also, tips on sprucing up your facebook..... You need more pictures first thing.... your mission, should you choose to except it, is to get a ton of pictures from now on whenever you go someplace with anybody. Dont worry about pick up, worry about getting a good photograph of you doing something fun and zaney.

Your profile says you are fun and adventurous.... I see no pictures to prove that fact. Prove it.

Next I would add some applications to your facebook that are fun and reveal your party side. Or if youd like, add some applications that reveal something about you. Try and leave the intelligent speak out of it. Meaning don't be a nerd, nerd.

[Blue]

For obvious reasons, I have an interest in gaming girls over the Facebooky. I want some thoughts on fixing up my profile and also on msging girls that are my type on there. What are some good general thoughts? add the girl as a friend and message or just msg?

Also anywho who wants to add me, Im on Facebooky as "Lord Westfall"

Westfally

p.s. I've discovered words become more cuter if you put a 'y' at the end of them.

im throwing some pointers out there for you...

like what finesse said, you definitely need more pictures of yourself. pictures are what girls stalk on facebook. i have over a thousand tagged pictures of myself and over 20 albums. girls want to see YOU. your default picture should definitely be you.

having your name as Lord Westfall on fbook is kinda sketchy... there is not much credibility in that. girls would rather talk to a dude name john than a Lord Westfall. put your real name out there.

lastly, one of the first things on your about me section says that if girls are going to message you they must be cute. that is a harsh qualifier, especially considering you follow it up wth saying looks arent a big deal. it also gives the vibe that you're using facebook as dating service instead of a normal social network. try to re-word it.


thats all i can think of. lemme know if im way off here.